Bad Breath - Fort Worth,TX

I'd be mad if he hadn't told me. You know he loves you and it doesn't affect the way he feels about you. He showed you he loves you by telling you so you wouldn't be embassed by other people noticing.

If he is "always" telling you things to "help" you, then you can get mad, but if he is like my hubby, and just lacks timing, say thanks in a sarcastic voice and go take care of it! Do you have any sinus issues? this can cause bad breath, as will poor gum health, gingivitas can cause horrid breath! So...if you think you over-reacted, you probably did. And if your best girl friend had said the same thing, how would you have dealt with the situation? That is how you know for sure. Men have lousy timing, it is in their genes!

No I don't think you look week. It would totally hurt my feelings too and I would probably me mad at first but in the long run I would be glad he told me so I wouldn't be running around killing everyone else. For me bad breath is a turn off so in the long run he was probably helping your relationship but it kind of depends on if he broke it to you gently with love or if he was totally rude about.

I had the same thing happen to me. At first, I was kind of hurt, but then decided that I'd rather he tell me so I could take care of it, rather than go out in public with it. You know how you've felt talking to someone that has bad breath and you want to say something but don't. So be glad your hubby cares enough to let you know before you go out the door in public.

Why are you mad? Did he say it mean? If you have bad breath just take care of it - don't forget to clean the tongue then offer kisses instead of hurt angry feelings.

My hubby would let me walk around all day with something on my face and not say a thing. Argh! I get quite embarrassed.

At least now you know to refresh before you go out. :)

I think an open honest relationship in all aspects is a promising relationship....communication is everything. I used to get offended and mad at my husband & assume he was saying things he wasn't or think he was judging me or like I wasn't good enough & that's not it at all. We do much better now that I've stopped all that, we actually now tell each other things that we do not like or that we think needs to be changed in each other and we work on those thing together. We have an open no hidden feelings relationship & it makes me feels so much better because I used to keep my feeling bottled up & then blow up at the littlest things.
Sometimes my breath is bad & it's because I need to floss & I have a couple of bad teeth that need to be pulled, he has bad breath sometimes even after he brushes and I told him I can even smell it when he breathes out of his nose after brushing so he thinks he may need to got to the doctor about this because it could be something to do with his sinuses we're guessing but have no clue.

I think he was just trying to help you. A person can't tell on theirself when it is bad, and if you were talking to friends and it was bad, they may really not like talking ,as sometimes when someones' breath is really bad it is hard to hear their words, because of the odor. Sometimes it is what a person eats, or from your stomach, and not because you haven't brushed your teeth , and they also have tounge scrapers, I've heard that is really good for That and you can get them right by the tooth brushes.

I think that he was trying to help you. I have two members of my family that have bad breath....and I always tell them to help save them embarassment...better coming from me ...I love them! My daughter had this problem since she was a little girl. I tried everything...and it turned out to be a medical problem that was not diagnosed until she turned 18!!! She has not had it since!!! I love her so much and it really used to hurt her feelings when someone would say something....she is extreeeemely sensitive! I think that your hubby loves you...he was being sensitive to your feelings!!!

Unless he is constantly criticizing you, I would take it as positive criticism. My husband had the same problem for years, and it has finally gone away. He is using an electric tooth brush and having treatments done for his gums, so we don't know if this is what helped or not.

I can understand your feelings getting a bit hurt but wouldn't you rather him tell you than you go on without knowing it and it further embarrassing you?

As for the problem, there are many causes. We live by listerine at our house. We swish before nad after brushing and floss. I probably keep listerine in business because of our family of 3.

I am always aware of bad breath and try to make sure mine is not bed so I keep Dentyne Ice Peppermint gum on me at all times. That also helps during the day.

Good luck. Maybe it is just random and not a medical issue. If it does persist, I would check with my dentist to rule out any infections or issues.

Good luck

How did he say it? That's whether you need to be mad or not, if he was serious when he said it, then no you don't have a right, he's your husband and cares about you. It's like tucking in your tag on the back of your shirt, if he saw it out and tucked it in would you get mad? Now, if he saw it, didn't tuck it in because you would get mad and you walked around all day with it showing and you know he could of tucked it in, you'd be mad and have the right to be.

On a separate note, make an appointment to the dentist, sometimes if you are about to get a cavity or have one it causes bad breath...

If your husband can't tell you that you have bad breath, who can? Wouldn't you want to know?

A friend of mine (male) was sick and had to have his adenoids removed. It turns out all of his problems started with bad breath (which his wife told him about) - there was an infection in his adenoids that was smelling. So, bad breath could potentially be a hint that something is wrong and you need to review that. I think your husband was just trying to help you out.

I can understand having hurt feelings; however, it is a good thing that he told you. What if he never said anything and he acted strange when you kissed him. Then your mind would have trailed off into something that was not true. Just know that my husband has told me that before as well - I had a sinus infection. It didn't hurt my feelings; however, it could have been the way he said it. Everyone gets it from time to time. Also, make sure you brush your tongue with a tongue scraper. My husband inroduced that one to me. Just know that you are not alone and I am sure your husband will have bad breath someday. Good luck!

B. C,
It is an intelligent, wise and strong person (male or female) who can accept constructive criticism without getting upset with the messenger.

Your husband demonstrated his love, caring, courage and concern for you when he spoke the truth. As your husband it is his responsibility to protect, help and guide you, in areas you may not be aware of, just as it is yours regarding him. He should be rewarded for speaking the truth to you, not punished by an angry spirit.

No one is weak who accepts advice that benefits oneself. A weak person, in the context you are using, is someone who ignores sound advice and shoots the messenger. So you were being weak (in this context) when you got angry and you showed your strength when you follow-through with the advice given.

If the bottom line is that you do not want to be embarrassed by bad breath, then being grateful for and having someone in your life that loves you enough to protect you from that embarrassment is a blessing.

If you have not already apologized for being angry, that would be your next step, showing more strength of your character, and I would do something special for him beside just the apology.

Have a blessed day,
Donna F. Smith, Ph.D., N.D., C.D.N., C.C.N.
www.AdvancedClinicalNutrition.com

I guess my question for you is why are you looking for a reason to be mad at your husband, and why are you going to a group of strangers to ask if your anger is justified?

In a marriage you have to learn to not sweat the small stuff. You have to learn to communicate with each other. And you have to learn to let things go because they aren't important enough to expend your energy on.

So the man who got up in front of the world and proclaimed to love you and promise to cherish you and take care of you tells you that you have a problem. Who would you rather have told you?

I'm just trying to put this in perspective because I don't think I buy into the idea that you are really wound up enough to email a group of strangers over your husband saying you have bad breath. I think you might need to sit down and evaluate how you respond to him on a regular basis. Is it often in irritation, annoyance, and anger?

Just something to think about.
VickiS