Both of my sons who are four and six wet the bed. I but good nites for them because it's so much easier and they don't get pee pee all over them if they're wearing them. Any good methods to stop this problem? I try to make them go to the br before bed and I don't give them anything to drink for at least an hour before bed. My oldest only started wetting the bed when my husband and I split up but that was over two years ago and only for a short amount of time.
I have 3 boys, all peed the bed. All of them have worn the alarm from the bedwetting store and it fixed the problem! No more peeing the bed.
www.bedwettingstore.com
I got the gold one with 8 sounds and the mattress pads.
Good luck, I swear by the alarm!!!
J.
This is VERY common especially for the 4year old who is probably not ready to be totally night trained. I would just stick with the pull ups and not make a big deal out if it. many kids dont stop wetting bed until the age of 7-8...
I wet the bed until I was about 8...
and especially if there is stress. its best not to try the shame method if you have not yet because they really cant help it.
Good luck, it will get better on its own I promise
A. J
We had the same problem with my now almost 15 yr old. We went to a urologist (whom we love!) in Carrollton. He did a few tests to rule out deeper issues and then we went on the DDAVP for not quite 2 years while he monitored him. It has now been 3-4 years since that time. What was explained to me is that the med I mentioned above is a hormone. Sometimes children don't produce enough of it. It's main purpose is to concentrate the urine at night. They will eventually mature enough to produce it adequately but sometimes there is an interval where supplimentation is helpful.
I highly recommend our urologist. My husband, son and self have all seen him for various issues and proceedures. He is very thourough, kind, and gentle. I appreciate how he sits down and takes all the time necessary to speak to you and your child in order make sure everyone understands the procedure/process or condition.
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Me, my mom, my dad, one of my sisters, and one of my daughters were all bed wetters. We all outgrew it in our own time. Short of a medical problem, which could be ruled out by a dr., I'm sure yours will too. My daughter and I were both almost 10 before we quit. I just stress to you not to make a big deal out of it to your sons. I know its a pain to deal with but at least you have pullups as an option unlike my mom did!
don't rush them. they don't like it any more than you do, but they are in a deep sleep and can't help it. Be patient. My oldest was about 9 before it just magically stopped. everyone is different.
Hi K., I suggest telling your oldest son that he can have a sleepover when he can go 2 weeks in a row without wetting the bed. My son stopped wetting during second grade because I told him he couldn't go to church camp in the summer if he was still wetting the bed. I never mentioned it again, didn't hound him or bug him. I just made it clear that I was not sending a kid to camp in a pull up. I do believe in mind over matter (if there are no medical problems) and sheer willpower made my son stop. As for the younger one, I would give him a little more time, his bladder may not be fully developed yet.
Dear K.:
I purchased a small alarm that clipped onto my son's underwear at the bedwetting store. It really worked. It woke him up at the first sign of wetness and soon he began to wake himself up.
Since children mature at different ages, I wouldn't push it. I think that one reason that we were successful is because our son was motivated. He wanted to do this. Take your cues from your child. If pullups are working for the family, that is okay too.
Good Luck,
Jen
They have great products and info.
Also, ask your doctor next time you're there.... maybe the medication DDAVP is an option for you.
But know MANY kids wet the bed for years and years longer than most people would hope.
I have a 9 year old who has never been dry since potty training. I take his to a pediatric urolgist - but he says that 20% of kids will outgrow bedwetting each year up until age 15 - that they really don't get worried about it this young. My son has had lots of tests - bottom line, his bladder capacity is really low (like that of a 2 year old) not a 9 year old. He is on medication - has not made any difference yet - we have another follow up later this month.
There are alarms - which tend to have the best result - but the child MUST want to use it or it will not be succesful.
There are MANY reasons children wet the bed: hormonal, underdeveloped sphinter control, small bladder capacity, psychological - therefore there is not just one solution. I am glad for some that the motivation of a sleep over helped them become dry - for my child it caused horrible anxiety - b/c he has no control over being able to wake up dry!
I probably at age 4 would not be aggressive in treatment - unless he has been dry - and now is wetting again.
I had a friend that had the problem with her child, and they found out if she had any dairy products of an afternoon or evening she would wet the bed, this is cottage cheese, ice cream etc., no just milk. A Dr. toldthem to try this and it worked. This may not be your childs problem, but you may try it for a few days and see if it makes a difference, so you'll know if this is it or not.
Check:
Be-Dry Bedwetting formula from http://www.zoneofnaturalremedies.com/content-product_info...
I gave my daughter nutritional supplement when she went through lots of stress. We used one from our natural doctor. She told me that during the stress body needs lots of nutritions and our diet is very poor. Send me email if you want more info-W.
i learned that bedwetting is typically the result of a weak urethra (the muscles that constrict the narrow opening in which urine exits). To strengthen them, encourage your sons to do kegal exercises. this is recommended to women who are pregnant to help with the overactive bladder issue as well. To do kegals all one has to do is when urinating is to intentionally try to stop the flow of urine repeatedly and this act strengthens the urethra. i learned this from a counselor when my parents thought i was either bedwetting on purpose or due to some psychological problem. i was so relieved that it was simply physical and correctable and sure enough i was able to correct it just fine. my urethra strengthened and i was able to retain my bladder throughout the night or was able to awaken from the need to urinate at night. whatever you do, never make any suggestions or hints that your sons are bad or there is something wrong with them, this is extremely rough problem on the self esteem as it is and to be made to feel bad because of it is salt on the wounds. i had a very traumatic life yet the last thing i wanted to do was to wake up cold, wet and dirty! tell them that they are wonderful kids and that you found out the answer to their prayers and they will be so happy and relieved (if you'll excuse the pun)
They may just not be ready to go all night. Sometimes with boys especially it takes awhile for their systems to be mature enough. I know my oldest- who is also in 1st grade- only started wearing underwear to bed about a year ago. Up until 6 months ago we would wake him up before we went to bed and took him to the bathroom. Eventually we found that was not necessary. We had a ":trial" with just letting him go and see if he had accidents. WE told him if he went 1 week with no bed wetting he would get a prize. He did it but i also think he was truly ready. My 4 year old still wears pullups to bed and I don't think I will try to change that for awhile.
It is not uncommon for some kids to have this problem up until middle school. I just left my son's 6-yr check up and asked for the medication. He (Dr.) always told me when it became a social issue he would prescribe it. I can't remember the name of the medication, but it causes the kidneys to not create as much urine so they can hopefully get through the night. He said it is still not a guarantee.
Hi there,
my now five year old did (and still occasionally does) that...it worsened each time there was a change in his life (ie daddy travelling weekly for work...a big move)...anyhow, I had to begin lifting him from his sleep around 11pm or midnight (or earlier...just whenever i was heading to bed) and taking him to the bathroom...i would just whisper in his ear that it was me and we needed to take him potty...at first i was worried that it would wake him up and keep him, but it never does...NOW he just knows, he stands up goes to the bathroom then goes right back to sleep...and even wakes himself to go on occasion. Hang in there, this is such a typical thing!
Greetings,
A divorce is hard on children and it is difficult for them to share how they feel about the situation. Many take the issue to heart and think they are the cause. Deep emotions about the situation are suppressed, permanently embedded within the subconscious mind, and bedwetting is the physical manifestation of this consequence.
My advice is unorthodox and I ask you to have an open mind. Visit www.courseinlight.net. They have a program called "Life Flight" which helps heal childrens' emotional issues. I've been through the adult program "Course in Light" over the past year and I can't tell you how it's helped me reduce, even eliminate, my emotional triggers. Another methodology for emotional healing is called "Theta Healing". Visit www.commandingwealth.com and click on "Theta" at the top of the page to learn more about this field. I've been through theta personally with Kathryn Perry, one of the company founders. It's amazing and I feel like a new person! Both of these programs are holistic, affordable, no insurance is involved, and no drugs are used.
Blessings,
L.
Two of my three children wet the bed well past that age (one girl and one boy). I've heard it is hereditary, and their father also had this problem as a child. I think my two were around 8-10 when they finally stopped wetting. We didn't make a big deal of it, as they were, naturally, already embarrased by it. Limiting their intake of fluids in the evenings, asking them to go to the bathroom before bed, and wearing Goodnites is the best approach. I didn't even limit my children's wanting to spend the night with friends or going on scout camping trips--I just made sure that the adult involved knew what was going on, so that if another child found out about my kid wearing a Goodnight, there wouldn't be any teasing. I'm happy to say that they both outgrew the tendancy before middle school, and now one is in college and one a Senior in high school. My second child, amazingly, didn't wet the bed but he was nearly 5 before he was completely toilet trained! Just want to tell you to relax, and don't worry about it. I'd see a doctor if your child reaches the age of 9 or 10, but at this age, the problem is more common than you'd think.
A. in Grapevine
a friend of mine had this problem too. she woke up her daughter ever 2 hours to go pee pee. Its hard but it helped. She spent the night at my house and I had to do the same thing. Her age is 8yr. The mother did this for a while and also let her doctor know what was going on. I think the problem is they sleep so heavy that they just dont wake up to go. She is on meds know and has had no problems. She wont be on them long just long enough to let her mucles(spelled worng)get stonger. Check with their doctor and see what they have to say. I dont like pull ups to me they are like diapers. but i understand no having the mess. Hope this helps
We tried 2 different medications for my 6 year old but they were not effective. I still use the Goodnites for him. He will eventually grow out of it and I wasn't comfortable giving him medication that limited kidney function, etc.
I also limit fluids and have tried getting him up to go to the bathroom before I go to bed. You may want to ask your doctor at your next well visit or appointment about your older son since his appears to have been triggered by an emotional situation.
BTW....my 4 year old doesn't wet the bed........they are all different.
Boys are especially hard, their bladders just aren't strong enough. It will happen, don't sweat it and don't get upset with them. My step daughter had to wear Good Nites until she was 14. She cut out dairy after 6:00, and that helped alot. Good luck. J.
K., I had a bed-wetter and in my opinion the GoodNights are only helping them feel better about wetting the bed...they help Mom not to have get up and change the sheets....I have done it and remember so well. My son's problem was a small bladder and he slept so deep that the urge did not wake him up. Our pediatrician told me to set clock about 1 in the morning and get him up and make him go to the bathroom and soon he would establish a pattern and get up and go by himself. It worked and also his older brother would get him up when he went and make sure that his little brother went also. Good Luck.....MamawGayle
