Birthday Invitation Confusion

Updated on November 12, 2008
C.W. asks from Nashville, TN
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My youngest daughter turned 6 on Nov 1. We had a party planned for the 2nd, in which I sent out invitations to all 17 classmates of hers, along with family members. I only received 3 RSVPs. Unfortunately, she became ill and I had to postpone the party. Now that I'm ready to give her her party, Do I re-invite the classmates again, or do I just inform the ones who RSVP'd?

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W.M.

answers from Nashville on

Invite all the ones that you postponed to. The others may have been busy and now may be able to come. People don't really RSVP anymore anyway unfortunately. Invite all the same again and then you may follow up with a call prior to those you haven't heard from to get a goodie bag and food head count.

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W.C.

answers from Lexington on

I would totally reinvite....my son gets invited to alot of parties and usually he's left out because he has to go to his dad's an hour and a half away most weekends. He would LOVE to go to those parties but unfortunately most events fall on the wrong weekend. with nearly 60% of Families living in a divorced/blended situation, I would highly recommend it for that reason.

Good luck!

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S.U.

answers from Raleigh on

I would def. reinvite the entire guest list. Most probably had a date/time conflict, so you'll probably have a totally different response. I would also make it as easy to RSVP as possible. Some question etiquette around RSVPing via e-mail, but it makes me alot more willing to get them my answer in a timely manner. Include your email address on your invitation. Have a great party!

D.B.

answers from Memphis on

You need to reinvite your original guest list. People these days are HORRIBLE RSVP'rs. My mother is hosting a bridal shower for my daughter and only 2 have RSVP'd & we invited over 40. So they are planning for 20. She commented too that people just don't RSVP period or RSVP after the deadline date.

Enjoy the party!

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L.J.

answers from Memphis on

We had a similar thing come up for our son's 5th birthday this year. He had an outside birthday party w/ a rain date. On the day of the party, it rained!! So we had to use our back-up date. Even though some had not RSVPed, I sent a change the date notice to everyone we originally invited - a conflicting activity might not occur on the other date.

Another example - for last weekend my son received two invitations - at almost the same time. We had to choose one b/c we couldn't make both of them. If one had to be re-scheduled, we definitely would have made both of them.

Hope you have a great party!

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R.W.

answers from Charlotte on

We had this happen to us just last month. My son turned 5 on October 31. Party planned for November 1. Had a death in the family and needed to go to New Jersey for the funeral on the 31st! Cancelled his party. When I cancelled his party I resent invitations to the new one stating the new time and date. I received NO RSVPs but had 3 out of 30 invites show up for the party! Just try again. Plans may have changed and the date may now be open.

I do have a question -- how do you get people to RSVP? I think it is a southern thing to NOT rsvp, but it drives me crazy. We went out and bought 100 hot dogs and buns for this party because I didn't know who all was coming. I wish people would RSVP and if they don't know what it means, find out!

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K.

answers from Charlotte on

I'm not sure how you invited them all--but we get invites from our daughter that she received weeks before in her cubby but only just brought home--too late for the party. This has happened about 5 times. Parents need to ask the teacher if they can get the invited into the folder that the parents have to sign or get the emails and send an evite or something.

So what I'm saying is, although many are terrible about doing the RSVP, sometimes there are reasons. I would re- invite all again to be sure you save hurt feelings that your daughter will have to hear about and explain later when the party is discussed in class. Good luck whatever you decide :)

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C.R.

answers from Knoxville on

I think I would let every one on the original guest list that the party had to be rescheduled due to an illness. Some of them may of already had previous obligations on the original day.

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P.G.

answers from Raleigh on

Hi C.
If it were me I would reinvite the whole class because those who didn't RSVP before may be able to come to the new party date. It is very rude for those people not to respond at all, but you would be a very nice person to offer them another chance, especially for your daughter. Good luck
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S.D.

answers from Nashville on

Re-invite all the same children again. It is a different date and different people may be able to attend. Be sure to mark on the invitation that the previous party has been rescheduled because your child was ill.

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A.C.

answers from Wilmington on

I agree with the others. Resend out all 17 invitations.
My experience has been that I've never really regretted inviting someone, But I have regretted NOT inviting someone.

You may have to just sit down on the phone and call everyone to get their RSVP. As the others said, there are all sorts of reasons why people might not have responded and it's not because they didn't care.
Congratulations becoming a grandma!

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A.

answers from Charlotte on

My daughter is 5 & I have noticed that with every party, few people actually RSVP. It is probable that more were going to show. I would resend all the invites just in case. On a personal note, for her 5th birthday, I planned a party at a local "fun center". I sent out 15 invites and received 6 RSVP's. All invites showed and we were almost short on supplies. In the future, I will plan to for everyone to show up! The more, the merrier!

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D.C.

answers from Johnson City on

YOu should inform everyone. Some kids showed up at our daughter's party that we weren't expecting. Some people don't RSVP and others think it only means contact if you can't come.
Good luck.
-D.

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