Biting at Daycare - Midland,MI

Biting at daycare is common. Not acceptable but it is common. I would check with her and ask what she plans to do about the biting. But be prepared if you yourself have 5 kids there and the other family has one it might be you she replaces. She will get a lot more money having 5 separate families than she gets having you as a family with 5. Not saying thats ok just saying that in this economy she may opt for replacing your 5 with 5 separate families. I would tell her though that your considering changing sitters if it happens again. She may be able to stay more on top of it.

It's hard to prevent biting as biters don't usually say they're about to bite! My son was both a biter and was also badly bitten in daycare, but you know, even when I was present I could not avoid for either of those things to happen, there was just nothing I could do, children are soo fast! I understand it's annoying for you to see your precious child with those bruises (ouch) but I would give the teachers a break, should you be in their shoes with all those children to watch, would you be able to do a better job preventing? Unless the daycare is at fault, I'd find another solution..is there another room (with other kids) where your son can be placed in order to be "safer"? Just a thought.

common, yes. It happens in every group, & if you're really lucky ....then it's over quickly.

It is very disturbing to find marks such as these....& the childcare provider should have been aware of the events. I cannot imagine a child NOT crying if the bites were so hard that he bruised.

With my daycare, I try very hard to prevent such interactions. I am right there with the kids, in the thick of things......& I try to stop the event before it happens. Sometimes, I miss.....& interestingly enough, it's usually during diaper changes! These kids are smart & they know when to strike! & I want you to know: I am NOT exaggerating.....by 18months, kids know how to sneaky-snake their actions. Been doing this long enough to know!

My recommendation: have a heart-to-heart with your provider. Tell her how distressing this was. You might want to take some photos of the marks to show her how bad they were. You also have the right to request closer supervision & a more proactive method of preventing these events. & If her child-to-provider rations are too high, then you may want to draw her attention to that. Please remember.....you are her employer & you do have rights! Hope all of this helps....

Hi neighbor! haha......I have done daycare for 19 years and have had only 2 biters. I am very on top of all the kids. The second biter only happened a year ago, and I made sure he was right by me for a long time. Just had him "help" me or played with him so he wasn`t around the others to bite while he was in this stage. I always talked to the parents and told them everything I was doing to try to prevent any situations. Are all the kids napping at nap time? Cause if they are and she is still in the room with them, I don`t see a problem with her on the computer? If they`re not all napping, then thats a different story. Good luck. Also too, it is VERY hard to get into daycare with 5 kids! Have a back up plan.

i'm not suggesting you should take it lightly. no one will stand for their child being bitten. but you're right that it is an unfortunate phase that many kids go through, and also that busy daycare providers may occasionally forget to mention something. if she's a good provider overall and this is your only issue with her, i'd make it clear that you want the problem carefully overseen and dealt with, but stay with her. yes, you've been lucky that you haven't encountered this before. good kids who are well-parented and attend attentive conscientious daycares still sometimes have biting issues. but if there are other concerns and you don't feel safe there, it's time to leave.
just don't think that you won't encounter this sort of thing again.
khairete
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Biting happens at every child care situation. It is the nature of the beast...lol. I have seen bite marks on my grandkids and not known how the happened.

The bites could have been close to nap time and she thought he was fussy/crying due to being tired, it could have been when she thought he fell down and was actually crying due to the bite. There are so many ways they happen.

I think moving the child is not a good idea. It will just start the whole stress of aclimatizing to a new situation.

First, biting is that often, my son was bitten 3times in one week w/out any notice. My son has sensory processing disorder so oddly they felt good vs. hurting so he never cried they only caught it when they saw it happen. I would ask her if she has a biting policy; most policies are 3 bites you are out, sounds like the kid needs to be removed from the facility not your children. Her "forgetting" to tell you is not acceptable, even a home day care center should have a bite form for both parents to have (biter & victim) as notification. If you are so inclined you may even type up an example of what said form could look like and share with her. If she is not willing to adjust her policy and actions then you should look elsewhere.

How many kids does she have? five of yours and this biting toddler, 15 mo old needs a lot of supervision, it is normal he is biting to deal with frustrations, I would have some serious doubts about how well these kids are supervised