Can a Mom Have a Close Relationship with Her Son Forever??

My son is 8 years old and we're very close. I too have the same worries as you. I told him that he will be getting hugs and kisses from me even when he's bigger than me. We read together, which we both love and I think that's what keeps us so close. So maybe find something you both enjoy and can do together.

I have seen and known, MANY men/boys/teens... who are close to their Mom.
But not to the point that, the Mom supplants their own Wife or that the son is a Mama's Boy.
But the men I know, are close to their Moms.

I have a son and daughter.
I know I will always be close to them and them to me.
And as we all.... go through life.
My kids, will know that I am there for them.
Always.

My 5 year old son the other night... I told him I love him before bed. And he said to me "I love you more..." I was speechless. I asked him where he got that from. He said he doesn't know... he just said it.

My son and I are extremely close. He's 16 and still loves to snug up and watch movies with me. Sometimes he falls asleep and just stays in my bed all night. He's not embarrassed to hug me in front of his friends. Heck, his friends hug me.
I've been single for almost my son's entire life. I left my husband when my son was a baby. He has a good relationship with his father, but like I said, my son and I are very close.
My grandmother had 3 sons. Their father passed away when they were young and she never remarried. They were devoted and faithful to her until the day she passed away and their wives were as well.
It's very, very possible to boys to grow into men who cherish close bonds with their mothers.

Kiss your little boy good night. Cherish your time. Build your bond. Right now, you are his world so revel in that.

Best wishes.

I would say yes, as long as mom understands her relationship in his life, and that it's HIS life. I think it's a problem when mom can't turn off the "mom-ness" and tries to be the primary woman in her son's life once he's grown. I think the best way to keep a relationship with any child throughout their lives is to love and respect them as individuals as they grown. He will grow up, move on, and have is own family and your relationship WILL change.

You will not be the focus of his life as you are when he is young - and that is normal. Accepting the change and growing with it will keep a level of trust and love and closeness that, while different, will be fulfilling for you. Trying to force the same level of "intimacy" that a child has with his mom onto an adult relationship is where these parent/kid relationships break down.

You will most liketly be very close to both of your children-because you clearly care so much! God bless you and them-they are fortunate to have you!

My husband is very close with his mom, and they do lunch once a month and talk on the phone almost every day. It's wonderful, and you absolutely CAN remain close with your son. Just be there for him, and let the relationship grow, evolve and change. It will change, but you can always be close.

Just don't force it. Or go all crazy when he gets a girlfriend or wife. I've had that happen in the past too! And that will do nothing more than drive you and him apart.

Don't have an answer because my son is still a little boy - 6 years old. Just wanted to say I feel for you! He came home from school yesterday with a "love note" from a little classmate - his name on construction paper with a bunch of sparkly puffy hearts all over. Before she showed it to me he said, "Guess what? "Sophia" loves me!" with such eagerness. I told him to show his dad, and he he did, with the most adorable happy shyness - I said to him, "Of course she loves you - there's so much to love!" He beamed that incredible warm smile that I know will melt many hearts in the future - so bittersweet, thinking of him growing up! I think the thing that will always bond us will be his knowledge that, no matter what, he's my "best boy" and always will be!

I have 4 kids Daughter 36--Son 34--daughter 25--son 20, my kids and I have had our moments and times when we are really close and times when they need to stretch their wings. The best thing you can do for your kids is to show them that they have wings and roots. Wings so they know they can fly and roots so they know they can always come home to you. No matter what they do it is the thing they did you don't like not them, children no matter how old they are need to know they are loved and accepted for who they are.

They do go through the middle and high school independence routine but once they get into the working world and the parenting world they do tend to come home a lot for advice.

My older son has had his butt kicked the past year with the economy and right now my upstairs has no one living in it. He joked a couple of weeks ago that he may need to move in for a while so he can get caught up. I said okay--believe me they never get too old to need you.

Men are more likely to marry a good woman than a woman is to find a good man. If you accept your daughter in law you'll remain close to them both.
Meantime you've got years and years to build the bonds that last forever.
Just keep loving him, helping him to develop his talents and self respect and everything will be alright.

One of our fave family photos we have is from just a few years ago - on a trip to PA to visit my brother in college, he and my mom were walking ahead of us down the sidewalk arm in arm, both totally comfortable and just chatting. Sums it up.

Not sure if it is possible, but I vow to make it possible with my boys (now- 4yo and 5mo) I tell my 4yo all the time that he will always be my baby and even when he's big like mommy and daddy, he will be my baby and I will hug him and kiss him. So I really hope that we can stay close forever. I plan to be here for him and make myself easy to talk to so that he feels he can talk to me as he gets older. My Dh is pretty close with his M. and they talk all the time, so I am hoping to have a similar relationship with my boys.

Like a father and daughter, a mother and son have a special relationship
always. Even though my sons are married, I am still very close to them.
My girls are very close to Dad. As long as you nuture your relationship with
him over the years and understand all the stages he goes thru, you will be
fine.

My 17 year old son and I are going contra dancing on Saturday night. I don't what that is but it's supposed to be fun. We were invited by his 16 year old friend who said he goes with his mom all the time.

My 15 year old son had an ecology class last summer that required hiking most days. His teacher invited me along as a chaperone. My son thought it was totally fine that I come with them.

A few nights ago we went out for dinner for a special occasion. My 2 teen boys and I had a great time together, we were laughing at the restaurant so hard we nearly fell off our seats.

So to answer your question, yes, it's possible to have a good relationship with your sons, at least into their teens!

Read "The Courage To Raise Good Men". It addresses these exact issues and is a wonderful book. My son and I are very close and always will be. Every child needs their mother, boys as well as girls.

my boys are 25 and 20 and we're very close. they are very independent (even the one still living at home) and don't 'need' me but we enjoy each other's company and find opportunities to hang out, watch movies, and just talk.
sometimes i miss my little boys, those were SUCH precious years. but i sure do enjoy the young men they've grown into.
khairete
S.

Myy older two are 23 and 21, a boy and a girl, I am just as close with my older son as my daughter.

I am pretty sure the younger two will be the same. :)

My daughter lives out of state, I talk to her less than my son but I text more with her than my son. Children don't move out of state due to gender, it has to do with where they find work or in my daughter's case where their school is.

All I can say is don't do things that will drive him away. Then again those things drive girls away just as much as boys.

Having 4 boys and no girls, I sure hope so! Although, I do make sure I model excellent treatment of my MIL so my boys except the same of their wives.

I sure hope so! Actually my son is now 15 and we are closer than when he was smaller so yes, I have all the confidence in the world that boy will need his mama! I will be there through his highs and lies and everything in between. My son is a angel and im more proud of him everyday!

I think you are worrying too much!! Just be open and honest with your son, and talk to him about everything, and respect him, and he will do th same for you in return. I know what you mean about the boys leaving once they find a wife. I have felt that too sometimes in my life. But my son talks to me about everything, and he has told me some doozies too!! But I just keep on talking, and my husband and I do the best we can as parents. When he gets to the age where he is REALLY serious about a girl then i will befriend her and treat her with respect, and hopefully she will do the same. My sons are 13 and 15 now, and you never really stop worrying.

I have a son too. I have the same concerns as you.
One time I shared them with my friend and I said something along the lines of "I think girls stay closer to their moms as adults, than boys."
She gave me a funny look and said, "You know that's NOT true, right?"
She said her husband is closer to his mom, and treats her better, than his sister does.
I was at a work party the other night, and my coworker's cell rang. It was her son. She said he calls a lot. And this is a married man with a young child. "My daughter on the other hand, I don't hear from as much," she said.
Looking around I have been pleasantly surprised at how involved the husband's moms often are, with my friends who are married and raising kids. I wouldn't say the wives' moms are more involved by a landslide, by any means.
I think society is changing for the better in that regard....the old saying about "till he takes a wife" is, more and more, just an old fashioned stereotype.

I think you need to let your relationship evolve and accept how it evolves. More importantly though I think you need to accept him no matter what.

My oldest is 19. He lives with friends of ours M-F because his job is about 2 hours from our house. We IM/Gtalk, FB chat/text pretty much everyday. And, he normally initiates it. We are very close, and can talk about pretty much everything. You can maintain a close relationship with your children. Just don't push them away when they are teens. Build memories and a strong foundation. We have always made it a priority to spend time together at home and on vacations. We don't have TV either, so the kids are not all separated throughout the house doing their own things.

Most mothers always want to be close to their children, even more so after they become adults & leave home. It's perfectly natural. Boys only desire a close relationship with their mother when they are a child, as they get older they distance themselves because they don't desire that relationship they once had with their mom. It's crucial they do this in order to be a good husband & put their wife & new family first. It's how they are wired, & it's all part of "leaving & cleaving." No wife wants her marriage controlled by a needy mother-in-law. Marriage can be stressful enough as it is.
I have a son & I cherish our relationship, but know that it's natural & healthy for us to not always be close. I hope one day he finds a wonderful wife who will be his world. I pray they will have a healthy & successfull marriage because of the close relationship I have with him now which is teaching him to be open emotionally to one special lady (me) who be replaced in future with an even more special lady (a wife). I also know for my daughter's sake that I don't want her married to man with a needy mother. I know exactly what thats like because my husbands mother is extremely needy & emotionally (sometimes fiancially) dependent on him. As a man who is emotionally heathy, he has no desire to be close to her the way she wants him to be. We moved far away & she is consistently putting him on guilt trips saying things such as, "why did you have to leave me?" She fails to understand that's it's not about her, we moved because we were presented with an amazing opportunity.
Your son will always love you, but you must let go & if he decides to move far away then that's just life. Definitely don't pressure him or make him feel guilty if he does, that will just make him want to be even more distant from you. Enjoy him while he is a little boy, treasure the moments & know that he will always love you, but as he grows into a man things will change & that's how its suppose to be :)

Thosse of us with sons probably always wonder that--in the back of our minds. Mine will be 9 soon, so I can only speak to that age and how it's been so far. When I found out I was having a boy I was unsure of how I would relate to a son, and all I can say is it's FABULOUS! I genuinely LIKE my son--he's smart, funny and kind. He's a champion for the underdog. The kid everyone likes. A truly NICE boy. We are close--not smotheringly close now, as it IS "uncool" a little bit. But there are always times a boy needs his mom!
My husband is 50 and he makes time for his mom. They talk on the phone a few times per week and we see her often. And a bonus? My husband is close to MY mom. They really like each other.
So, take heart...the kind of person he is raised to be is not going to magically stop in his teens, or when he marries, right?

You can be close to daughters in one say and sons in another way but if there is love there you will always be close to both. Even the relationship with more than one girl or more than one boy is different as we relate to people differently but still there is that love and closeness of family. No matter what. The thing to watch is if he marries and the girl doesn't want him to be close to family or you interfere then it can cause a problem. But don't plan on that happening and enjoy your little 9 month old man.

yes it is possible, but remember that when he is a man and marries that you need to respect the wife. A happy life is a happy wife. you cant just have the great relationship with him and not includ her. and keep your comments to yourself, the best way to push him away is to say bad things about her, (but you are looking at 20+ years from now so just chill and enjoy the ride) :-)