M.
I went through this with both my daughters. They had surgery at Children's Memorial and it was truly a piece of cake for them. They were 2 and 4 when they had surgeries and they were fine afterwards. They wanted to be up and playing and I was too nervous to let them walk around and stuff. With both daughter the incision was small, about an inch below their belly button. They operated on both the kideny and bladder to correct the abnormalities and recovered just fine. My youngest was in the ER every month for a year before we did the surgery, we tried to use medicine to control it and it did not work. She had so much kidney damage from the kidney infections from teh reflux, the surgery was a Godsend truly, b/c she has not been sick since, almost 3 years later!
It is harder on us than on them, keep that in mind!