I have sensory issues (adhd... I can feel EVERYTHING touching my body at all times).
You may be surprised... I can't stand most sports bras... because a) it makes the girls touch b) it does uniboob c) the constrict breathing.
For MYSELF:
- The bras have to be demis or balconies (full coverage bras make me nauseaous, for no good reason)
- HAVE TO HAVE TO HAVE TO be underwire. Otherwise they aren't separated "right", the band has to be tighter, and my breasts "touch" my stomach. Eeeeeeeew. Gross. Can't stand that feeling either. Properly fitting underwires, however, feel *almost* invisable.
- Straps have to be "thin" and NOT stretchy. Thick ones annoy me no end (again, for no good reason... I also don't like thick strap tank tops), and stretchy ones "bounce". Which is just annoying. I want the girls to be next to immobile. Bouncing and jiggling about in a stretchy strap makes me want to go braless, and I actually hate braless even more than most things (God, I'm really beginning to sound like a freak, here. I don't think I've ever written out all of my lingerie requirements).
- The material has to be "feel good". Usually this means expensive lingerie. Oddly, lace is fine, because they line the lace with super thin silky stuff AND lace doesn't stretch very much (see above for the jiggling comment).
- The lingerie HAS to be either pretty or sporty. Frumpy, utilitarian, fill in a whole host of words that don't mean "pretty" and they are OUT. I'm a tomboy. But I reeeeeeally like sexy lingerie. Love, even. Always has. It just makes me feel *special*. Not sexy, just *special*. Even though I'm the only one who sees it.
Does your DD have all of these issues? Probably not. These are mine. She might share some, but I figured as another sensory-person I would share my "list" and reasonings behind them to give you an idea of what's up. It took me several years of looking at the patterns of bras I'd buy to really know what to walk in and ask for... and I STILL try on at LEAST 30 bras every single time I go shopping... and I'm aiming for purchasing TWO.
Fortunately the Nordstroms gals ROCK. :) :) :) And it's a fun experience, instead of just a sweaty one.
Mmmmm.... speaking of Nordies. I wouldn't rec shopping expensive when you're just going to be having to upgrade and upgrade as her size changes BUT when sensory schtuff is at play... you might want to. Just find ONE at least, that she loves (and isn't just tolerable) to get her used to them, and to get an idea of her own "list of requirements" (which she can't even know yet). The other bene of an expensive bra is this: They last forever. So you can buy one, and wash it every other day, and expect it to last 2 years. Which I know, because I lived off of student loans, ramen, & $100 bras for 5 years. Seriously, I have a lingerie-lust like most women love chocolate... but only had 2 bras in my drawer. One one day, the other the next. For five years. I bought a grand total of 4 bras. TMI, I know. But they DO take being washed and worn that often.