Diabetes N Kidney Failure Try N to Have a Baby.

I'm sorry for your losses. You don't elaborate on the title of your post, but if you have diabetes plus kidney failure and have to be on dialysis or are waiting on a kidney transplant, the last thing your body needs is another stress added to it -and pregnancy is a huge stress on your body! Even though our bodies are made to do it, it taxes your systems. You should see a high risk OB for a consultation so they can go over your complete medical history and whatever health issues you currently have. It's okay if you can't ever wrap your head around adoption. It would be wonderful if you could, but many people just can't get to the point where they feel great about adopting. Find a high risk OB and they most likely will have a list of counselors/therapists/psychologists you can also see, because you may need to talk through some of this with a professional. Good luck, but please don't take unnecessary risks with your health!

Schedule a pre-conception appointment with a MFM specializing in high risk pregnancies in order to determine your odds of having a successful pregnancy. https://www.smfm.org/default.cfm

You need medical advice on this, L.. Beyond that, there is really no meaningful advice we can give you on this board. I sure do wish you well.

...so you have Diabetes and Renal Failure? So then you are on Dialysis?

You also need to, talk to your Renal Doctor.
Not only your OB/GYN. And not only your general Doctor.

My Dad had Diabetes and Renal failure and was on Dialysis.

These are unique very concerning health issues.
My dad could not even, for example, process certain meds in his body. Because of his renal failure.
And he had had a stroke.

Really talk to as many Specialists as you can.
Because with Diabetes... a Diabetic does see, many Doctors. ie: Eye, Renal, Internist, Cardiologist, etc.
Because as you know, it affects all systems in the body.

I send you hugs.... and hope a Doctor can give you an idea about this.

Or, have you considered adoption or surrogacy?

all the best

I am sorry about what you have been through. First, you should definitely seek medical advice before trying to conceive so as not to risk your health, as well as get healthy as you can before trying to become a parent. But as an adoptive parent of two beautiful girls that we adopted individually at birth, I would like to add my two cents about adoption. You say you "just don't feel adoption is the same." It isn't. It is a different experience, and each adoption is different from another, but that doesn't make it any less wonderful! Right now, I am guessing that you have a lot of friends having babies and talking up their birth experiences which hurts a little, but let me assure you that if you decide to become a parent whether through having your own (with medical advice, of course) or adopting, those birth stories eventually wane and you will soon be holding more conversations with other parents about children's milestones, preschool, school, soccer,teenagers, etc! If you choose to adopt, then believe me you will have the best story of them all as to how you became a parent! The key word here is that YOU DECIDE whether it be to try to convceive, adopt, or embrace a "child free" life rather than be a victim of your circumstances. That is what the organization RESOLVE is all about. Look it up on-line for lots of helpful information in making your decision as well as useful medical and emotional information. My husband and I had unexplained infertility, meaning they could find no reason why we couldn't conceive. For seven years we went through infertility treatments because I couldn't give up my control and the notion that I wanted a baby "the natural way", but I litterally woke up one morning with the realization that infertility treatments were a long way from "the natural way" : ), but adoption is as natural and old as Moses! I suddenly realized that God's plan for us was to adopt because He knew we had the special parenting skills to be great adoptive parents, and that the reason we didn't have a baby was because I had been bucking God's will for us! That is how we came to our "resolution" and 9 months later we got our first baby girl! So my advice is...don't be a victim (your words: "if I can't, then I guess I'll never be a mother.") open your heart to your possibilites (conceive, adopt, foster, volunteer or career with children, child free), pray for guidance, and do the research and homework to achieve your own resolution.

may god be with you in your time of need.

My sister is 21 and has renal failure also. She is on dialysis. If you are on dialysis, you will have an extremely hard time conceiving. Renal failure causes a lot of hormone/ uterus/ ovary changes. My sisters doctor actually wants to perform a hysterectomy on her in a few weeks. If you are not on dialysis, maybe you could work on getting the diabetes under control and get a little healthier than try to conceive. There are also millions of babies/kids that need to be adopted. Good luck.

What does your Doctor say? Personally if it were me I would go for it...I mean there have been millions of women who have been told they will NEVER ever conceieve or that the doctor doesn't recommend them getting pregnant and they have beaten the odds to have a beautiful healthy baby. With your history though it doesn't sound to promising honestly but if it were me I don't just give up like that. I would try again as long as it were safe for me to do so and take the chance. Just make sure you prepare yourself that something could happen -yet again. Before you begin to try though make sure you pray and fast. God will bless you with a child when the time is right. I prayed and cried for God to help me get pregnant-it took 11 months and I was sooooo ready to go onto Fertility but my doctor said Oh no there are quite a few other steps first before we go that route. We tested my husband and he was fine. Then I had an HSG dye test done and the very next month I was preggers not only was I preggers but pregnant with TWINS!!!! I couldn't believe it! I always say that God got tired of listening to my prayers begging him for a baby so he said BE quiet my child here have TWO! My prayers are with you and sending hugs your way-sounds like you have been through so much but just remember that it only makes you stronger ;())

Anyone who has given birth knows that it really has nothing to do with parenting/being a parent.... ALL the work, etc. starts once the baby is in your arms.
So, it really doesn't matter how the baby gets to your arms....
If you're willing/able to do the hard, LIFE LONG work of being a parent don't limit yourself to what a few short months prior to the parenting even beginning has to offer/not offer you (a.k.a getting pregnant/not getting pregnant). Open up possibilities for yourself re: fostering, adoption, surrogate, etc.

Many would ask can I get pregnant if I have kidney disease. Well, it depends. For those who are suffering from some kind of kidney diseases, we don’t recommend pregnancy since it probably aggravates their illness condition; while for those who have get clinical remission, getting pregnant is possible.
You can visit this article"Find What Kind of Patients with Kidney Disease Could Get Pregnant", http://www.kidney-support.org/living-with-kidney-disease/..., or send email to ____@____.com I can help you!