My step-father in law has very bad diabetes. So, bad that there have been times he has blacked out and then fallen down the stairs.
I fear constantly we are gonna get the call from my husbands mom that Dean hit his head and is gone.
I am very close with him. He has been my mentor so to speak. My husbands extended family can be a bit much, and Dean has sort of walked me through it over the last seven years of marriage.
My M I L is also a Breast Cancer survivor. She had just gone into remission when I met my hubby. So almost nine years.
She also has Fibromialga(sp?) and Rheumatoid Arthritis. So, she is at the doctor alot.
You have your hands full. My step mom in law was left to handle the heavy burden of caring for my hubbies grandma. She was there for three meals a day and to help her to bed. She had very bad Alzheimer's so she had no clue who anybody was, except, Step mom in law.
I had a grandma that was in an adult group home. She lived there until she passed away. They did an amazing job and she ended up living to well over 90. she had had a strokes since she was about seventy, and still trucked that long:)
I think it would be a good thing to put them in a place that can care for them on a round the clock basis. Even if they go to a place where the care in minimal and only as needed. that way your hands are free to help them lightly and just be with them. Help them spend there days trying to enjoy the time left. Instead of you maybe getting on the verge of frustration.
They can be a bit $$$$ . But if you guys are in a position to do it, or medicaid can help you pay for it. I would do it:)