Hello.... just to get some advice from other people.... I'm the mother of a 3 1/2 lil girl. I have been involved with a man who is crazy about my lil girl. We've only been dating for a couple months but he takes very good of my daughter and me. She is also crazy about him. For mothers day he got me 2 gifts... one from him and one from him and my lil girl. He also spent mothers day with me and had dinner with me and my family. (we spent breakfast with his mom) Fathers day is approaching.... My daughters father is no where in the picture. I don't know if I should get him anything for fathers day.... any ideas or opinions on whether I should or not? He's playing the part.... but he has no kids of his own. I don't want to offend him in any way.... please help.
Hi A.,
Details are everything!
Either a "homemade" or bought card will do. Just get one addressed "To Someone Special" or something in that line of thought. You can also plan a "Three for Breakfast" where you and assistant can pamper him. A "Day in the Park" picnic can also be fun. Be creative!!!! Hope this helps you and others as well.
Regards,
T.
Hi A.,
I am very happy 4 u that u have found a man that really and truly loves u as u have said. In my opinion, I do think u should get him something 4 fathers day. There are only a few good man left out there and u have said that he takes care of both u & ur daughter. I bet ur daughter would be excited to give him something 4 fathers day cause she sees him as the real dad she does not have. Remember a father is not the one who makes them but who raises them & loves them. I wish u all the best & I hope u, ur daughter and ur b/f have a wonderful Father's Day!!
R.
I would have her make him a card maybe and get him something from you and get a blank card that you can write inside that you are thankful and grateful to have such a wonderful person in your life and your daughter's life and you appreciate all he does for her and for you. I don't think that is inappropriate- I think it's very sweet. Just be sure not to get anything that says "dad" on it.
i am in the same exact scenario!!!!! weird haha. My boyfriend of 9 months has a 5 month old little girl from a previous relationship as I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter. I am going to have my daughter make him a picture (she loves to color) with a nice poem on it. And from me - I'm taking him on a mini vacation for a night and 2 days to a nice hotel so him and I can spend some much needed time together without the children. hope i helped you out a little bit....
A., I knew I met the right man when my daughter up and decided to start calling my husband "Daddy" after 6 months of dating. I did something for him for Father's Day but we had been dating for nearly a year by that time.
If you aren't sure because of the length of time you have been together, but you want to show him that you appreciate him being a father figure to your daughter, then look for cards that are for father figures, not just actual fathers. Also, you could let your daughter make him a card from her and maybe give him a little stuffed animal or something cutesy like that. If he has already shown you that he loves your little girl, I highly doubt he would be offended at recieving a gift that means she loves him,too. It doesn't have to be something elaborate to mean something to him.
Hope this helps. God Bless!
H.
if i were you i would hand make a card. with the title of "to an important man in my little girls life..." or something like that. i think honoring him is admirable and putting a gift card in there for best buy or dinner or something would be good. but speaking from a mother of two who was single for 8 years. i made a few mistakes and moving fast at all with a man when children are concerned is a really hard one on them. it's only been a few months. i wouldn't give him the title of "daddy" yet. good luck.
I am sort of in the same boat. I was hoping that reading the responses you got would help me, but they haven't. I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5yrs (and just moved in with him). Although their father is still in the picture, my boyfriend has done more for the kids lately than he has. Their father has really started slacking lately (not taking them when he is scheduled to, not paying chid support), and my boyfriend has really stepped up in his absense. I tell him all the time how thankful i am for his help, and how wonderful it is to have someone who loves all of us that much. And, I want to do something special for him, but im not positive he would react the way i would hope. AND, im not sure my 6 six yr old would understand it either. She knows he's not her Dad, and I dont want her to feel wierd either. It's just an odd situation... I wish i knew how to handle it.
Amyhow, sorry i couldn't be of any help... just letting you kow you aren't the only one dealing with this.
Best of luck to you and your kiddo.
hi
yes i would have your daugther make her a card and get something from you maybe a gift card to something and a gift from her.Just because he has not been with you too long he still is being like a father to her. and he is taking care of you guys. I think he would love it.
I wouldn't do anything. I think it is WAY too soon. If you want to give him praise for all he does then...do it on another day. If you think he is "worried" or will be hurt by not recieving kudos on Father's day, then do something the day before. Keep the gift LITTLE. Maybe har your daughter decorate a small frame and have a photo of her in it. What he did for you was wonderful and right. But, I feel that it is too early in your relationship and would be wrong for your child to think that this man MIGHT be her new Daddy.
Hi, I was only 19 when I became a stepmother and my husband for mothers day took me out to dinner as my stepmother gift. Even though I wasnt expecting anything It made me feel really good. I am now 28 and still married, and my husband has always let me have a say in any decisions pertaining to my step daughter even though she lives with her mother.Hey,I also helped raise her.
