What do you do when all your friends cancel on plans for your birthday? I starting planning for my birthday about 3 weeks ago and it was for next weeked. I talked personally to 15 people and 9 people said they would be there even up to 3 days ago. Now all of a sudden only 2 people can go - which completely voids the plans that I had. I know things come up but some of the reasons I'm getting just don't make sense. In a few days I will get over it and just let everyone slide but I am feeling very hurt right now and just wanted to know if you would feel the same way.
I have looked into rescheduling for anything (birthday lunch, coffee, birthday "Hi" as we pass by on the streets) and I am pretty much booked every other weekend through the middle of A.. We weren't going out of town, we weren't going to spend a lot of money - would have been free for everyone if they needed it to be. I would be okay if everyone had big St Patrick's day plans but only one person I spoke with even mentioned it and it's kinda a no brainer because my birthday is on Saint Patricks Day. It was a kid-friendly event so no babysitter is needed if that's the case. After reading the answers and thinking about the questions you asked I kinda feel more hurt. As for a surprise birthday - the last one they tried to throw someone called me to get the details- suprise blown!; the one before that my husband got me to the place on time and everyone else was late; the time before that two different invites were sent so half the guests never made it - so as you can tell - Surprise Parties don't seem to work for me. :)
well, Happy Birthday ....early!
Since it's next wkend, how much does St Pat's activities factor into everybody's alternate plans? Personally, we're BIG on St Pat's....& it's a huge family wkend for us. :)
I am so sorry! I have actually had this happen to me...several times. It sucks. And yes, I was hurt every time and you have every right to be hurt. You just make the best of it with the "true" friends that do show up. Don't let the others ruin your birthday. It's YOUR day! Happy birthday!
Hmmm... not trying to get your hopes up. But if it is all of the sudden and the reasons seem bogus, do you think they may be planning a surprise for you?
Only 30 people showed up to my wedding and reception (we invited almost 250!), 10 to my baby shower. Yeah, I get the disappointment, and the trauma.... one reason why I no longer have expectations on events like this.
Go treat yourself and have a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Yesterday was my husbands birthday. His day started off with hitting a full size german shepherd, head on, going 55 mph. He came home very upset that he killed the dog. He went to the police station to file the police report then headed to the DMV to get a new drivers license since his expired. He spent half the day dealing with insurance, getting estimates, setting up a rental car etc.
The day was shot, I never got to make him a cake, get balloons, make cards with the kids. I felt bad his birthday was ruined. He was sad all day that he hit a families pet and his favorite type of dog. He woke up saying he had a hard time sleeping because he could see the dogs body.
I am sure this doesn't make you feel better but it actually made me feel better to type this out, I don't like to see him sad.
Just remember things happen. I hope you have fun with the 2 people that will be with you on your day. Find peace and just have fun, it's not worth being upset with people.
Sigh, yes I would have being blue.
This birthday I will be alone too =*(
However, it really doesn't mean that we don't have people that love us, sometimes is just hard to get together, and perhaps your friends though others would be there with you and they will not be missed.
If you can/want maybe change the date for another time, but if you can't/want have fun with the 2 you have, don't cancel on them and try to have a good time.
Remember what is all about, you are alive!
I thank every year for being able to be here, we don't know for how long but what ever, this year I made it here and I will celebrate that, with 2000 or with 1 (or none).
=*)
Why are you planning your own party?
Could your friends be planning to surprise you?
"Let everyone slide"? Are you the slide queen"
What do you do when it is someone elses birthday and/or special occasion?
Was the activity you had planned to do on your birthday costly?
That was my first thought.
Could it be that it is an activity they do not want to do?
Were you planning on going out of town?
Here's what I would do:
Go w/the friends that want to go & have remained committed. There will
be less of you but no biggie.
You can always plan on doing something w/the ppl that backed out individually if you want at a later date (stretches out the b-day).
Plan something fun YOU really want to do on your actual day.
Buy yourself a small treat.
Don't get yourself worked up that it might be a surprise b-day in case it's not.
Always treat yourself to something because you deserve it.
Maybe they really had a conflict.
Do you think they're planning a surprise?
