First Birthday Blues

Hi J.-
My mother cried when my little sister went off to Kindergarten. After 3 kids, she realized that all of her babies were growing up. It was very hard for her. However, my pops reminded her that while her babies were not babies anymore, there were positives. One- no more diapers, pacifiers, pureed food, etc. AND, all the more there are things to look forward too...1st days of school every year (get our your camera!), first time they can both go camping and enjoy it...first trip to a theme park...first track meet, soccer game, first science fair project....and then first school dance, first girlfriend, first karate class, first child prepared breakfast or dinner, first chore chart....there are firsts their entire life. So love all the time you have with your babies as babies, and then hopefully through your loving tears you can see all the wonderful things they still have to experience with you by their side....first and favorite books, first steps, first pool party...I know it's hard because that's the end of baby time, but then there will be so many other things that baby time will become one of those precious memories that allows you to see all that they have been while they are becoming everything you can only dream of. You get to see the whole journey, and what a blessing.
Good luck mama. Cry for as long as you need too, because it is emotional.
Hugs
-E.

My 3rd and final baby turned 1 on 6/26 and yes because I know I am done (my hubby got fixed to insure it) I was VERY down and quite frankly still am. I cry over everything. Every little milestone makes me cry. It goes by so fast with everyone of them but you really notice when you are savoring ever moment!!!

Hugs I am right there with ya.

Not the birthday, but with other milestones - I get especially teary about teeth! Weird, huh? But even though we do plan on having more, there's something very bittersweet about them growing up. I think how you're feeling is very very normal, and you should let yourself be sad about losing the "babyness;" denying you feel that way won't be very helpful. Besides, tomorrow, you'll probably be psyched about some big "growing up" thing and the sadness will be long gone.

I hope you have a fun first birthday nevertheless.

I can't say I Know exactly what that feels like. But Happy Birthday to your lil one!!

Today is my son's 2nd Birthday, and I'm sad too.
Only my reason is because his daddy had to work till 8pm tonight and I have NO family out here. So Its just me & my lil guy

Absolutely. Although I love seeing my son grow and learn new things, there is that part of me that is so sad by the fact that time seems to fly by too fast and that my baby is turning into a child at record speed. Those "baby days" are gone and he is already a toddler (and in my case/almost a "preschooler"). I cried the night before my son's first and second birthdays. I love who he is today, but I just felt so overwhelmed by the feeling that I am going to go to sleep one night and he will be in high school when I wake up :-) It's ok Mama.

Absolutely- I was particularly emotional on the 1st birthdays and now that my oldest is a year a way from school- I see the emotions coming on again. I think it's only natural as mothers that we are a little sad to see them grow up. I think Jane put it very well- bittersweet.

Happy Birthday to your little one!

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here is a really big hug for you. I'm sure what your feeling is normal. I call both my girls Baby, I never use their names (unless they are in trouble) My little one even asked me one day, she is 9, "Mom, are you going to call me baby forever?" I told her "until the day you want me to stop, because I can be 100 and you will be 79, you are still going to be my baby" she told me "mom, I don't want you to stop" I said "then I won't Baby". See this is the type of stuff you get to look forward to. It will get better. I promise.

oh I know what you mean! my husband thinks I'm crazy. our little one will be 1 yrs old in a week and I have been looking at his newborn pictures and saying awww he's not my itty bitty anymore. I think its normal for a mommy to feel this way.