ok so my really good friend dyed her hair blonde. She is of Italian descent , dark hair normally , olive skin ,etc . Ok so now that she's dyed her hair blonde it makes her look 10 yrs older. It really does not look good. I've kind of avoided telling her what I think of it. I'm usually pretty cut and dry , strait forward type of person. Do I tell her it looks bad? That it makes her look older so she doesn't do this again or do I just smile and nod and let her go thinking it looks good? Would you want to be told if your new hair cut or color made you look older or just didn't go with your coloring?
Thank you every one for your help. I think I will keep my opinion to myself unless she asks. LOVE those caramel highlights , she really would look stunning in that.
"B.! What do you think of my hair?!"
"It doesn't matter what I think. Do you like it?"
"Yeah...I feel like a vixen!"
"GREAT!"
And leave it at that.
Only tell her nicely if she asks. I would say "I think I liked it better when it was dark. It sure is fun to experiment, though!" Then change the subject. :)
If she asks you tell her it isn't your favorite way she has worn her hair but if she likes it it won't accomplish anything to tell her how washed out and clashed it looks.
I'm a hairstylist. If she asks or the subject comes up, tell her you think she would be stunning with her dark hair, and some soft face framing caramel highlights, that is so popular with celebrities these days, like this:
http://www.instyle.com/instyle/package/general/photos/0,,...
I had a friend do the same thing and it made her look older and hideous. She asked me what I thought and I told her in a nice way what I thought. She still liked it and wanted to try it out for a while. My opinion didn't matter in the end, lol. But since she asked, I told her. We were the type of friends that were honest with each other. We just made sure we kept it nice, lol.
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
I have a hispanic friend who just went blonde. It truly looks odd. Her tanning bed tan and the yellowish hair is making her look older and fake.
Bodywise she is a 10, but that hair makes her look so much older. I honestly don't know how she doesn't realize it, but I am never telling her because she might think it looks good. Plus, it would hurt her feelings to think she walked around like this and everyone must have been thinking it, but only I told her. Also, it was her fantasy to be a blond.
For some reason Jersey Shore just popped in my mind. :(
Does she appear to think it looks good. I mean you can tell if I hate a change, any signs? Really if she loves it that is all that matters.
I don't know what to tell you because I've been struggling with this same thing. Someone in my family who has olive skin and naturally black hair dyed her hair light blond... to make matters worse, she said she took a picture of ME along to show the colorist the color she wanted. (I have naturally light blond hair, with some help from the colorist these past couple of years lol). Anyway, what do you say when someone tells you that you were the inspiration for their new hair color, which doesn't flatter their coloring? ACK! I agree, blond on olive skin can be very aging. I don't know how to tell this person either. Maybe others will have some good ideas I can act on. :)
I would most definitely want my "good friend" to let me know if my hair didnt look right. I mean its not about what u say sometimes....its how u say it...so if u really think it looks that bad....which u CLEARLY do...then just nicely tell her it doesnt fit her and suggest some new alternatives..i would not want someone 2 allow me 2 look a mess and I wouldnt let my really good friends look that way either....be a true friend...
I would like to think the hair stylist would have stopped me from going in that direction and I would expect my friend to say NO! I will (does) look bad so I could get it fixed.
