Getting My 2 Year Out of Dipers

Wait for him to show interest. You can push that along by letting him watch daddy go whenever possible. Good luck!

he is simply not ready to do this grown up thing!
though another possibility be truthful "is he a brat?"

but seriously boys tend to want to potty train later and you trying earlier will only frustrate you and piss your son off.

you can start doing this though.
once a week ask your son if he is ready to sit on the potty and give him no reason to run away.
possible suggestion right after eating sunday night ask him if he wants to try the potty and take notice of his behavior. you may notice his mood might be closer to saying yes every week. remember to say nothing else about it til next week.

I trained both of my youngest children this way and my daughter was trained in 4 days when she was actually ready at about 27 months old and my son was closer to 2 1/2 but he was trained in a few days too.

remember trying to train a child before they are ready is merely just training you not them. less frustration ---wait til they are ready!

B., I feel your pain. I have a 5.5 yr old boy and I was so determined he would be potty trained before 3. Guess what didn't work. He was using the toilet for #2 at 30 months and peeing. The best thing I can say is let him do it at his own pace. He controls this and only he will do it when he's ready. I honestly would relax, let him know when he's ready he knows where the bathroom is and enjoy your son. They grow up way too fast, before you realize he will be starting school. Good luck

M.

BREATHE! Then just wait, it takes time and if you force the issue it makes it harder on you. You are doing great just keep offering to go potty. He may fight it for awhile but it will catch on ...you may want to have "Dad" take him to go potty at the same time so he can see "HOW THE BIG BOYS" do it...

I am the mother of a 13-year-old boy and I, too, tried to potty-train him at the age of two. I started putting him in pull-ups and bought him a potty chair, showing him how to go to the potty and sit whenever he had an "accident." He couldn't have been more disinterested! Everyone told me it was time for him to be potty-trained, so I was determined to stick with it. However, my wise grandmother (who had raised three boys of her own) asked me if I had ever met a grown man who wasn't potty-trained and suggested that I just let nature take its course. So I quit worrying about it, and shortly before my son's third birthday he started going to the bathroom on his own one day. He even skipped the sitting down part and went straight to standing when urinating. Following my grandmother's advice completely eliminated (no pun intended) the stress of potty training for both my son and me.

Read special books with him to keep him on the potty...if you can just keep them entertained for a little while...I have 2 boys and made both of them sit on the potty (not stand) for at least the first year after being potty-trained...It will help with your sanity. Finding urine all over is no fun! (he, he)...but, boys are boys...you'll hear this a lot...when they are ready, they are ready...don't fret. I also had success in wearing "nothing" while we were home...they always ran to the toilet when it was time...only a few accidents. Good luck!!

Back in the day people who are my age and older (Age 38 almost) were potty trained by age 2 or sooner.

It took my son till he was a month or so after he turned 3. He got the idea of how it worked around 2 and a half but it was me who was being potty trained not him so much. I knew if he ate lunch he would have to go #2 so I would sit him on the potty but he didn't really get it till he was well over the age of 3.

He will be turning 5 in May and he is now getting up in the middle of the night to go pee. I have to tell him to go because he comes to our room confused so even now there are some things we are still working on.

My advice is take a deep breath start watching the signs of when he has to go and just know every kid is different and before you know it he will be doing it on his own. :o)Try not to get stressed out about it.

if he's running from you and freaking out, he's probably just not quite ready.....give him some space. keep a potty in the bathroom and let him sit on it if he chooses.....maybe at bathtime.....but let it be his choice. you might try using the big toilet while he sits on his potty.....even better, have dad involved......my son's dad would stand to pee and my son thought that was really cool.....pretty soon my son was going pee in the big toilet right beside his dad. he still pooped in the little potty, and for some reason always had to do it with no clothes on......go figure. i thought potty training a boy would be more difficult (my daughter potty trained herself at about 30 months).....but he did it pretty much by himself at the same age. i think the key is in letting them decide when they're ready.....too much pressure and they'll resist....but it is important to give them the tools to be successful, and to offer encouragement and support at all times......good luck!

hugs!
sally

He may not be ready................. Don't frustrate your toddler and yourself by expecting him to use the toilet before he is ready. Wait a few months and then try again.

Ihave 4 children 17, 14, 12, and 8. A first born tends to be potty trained later than second and later borns but many kids, boys especially don't train until past age 3. If he has not shown any interest in not wearing diapers then you are only frustrating yourself. It is similar to wanting them to walk before they are ready, it does't matter how often you stand him up and 'teach' him, it isn't going to happen.

My son had no desire to be potty-trained until he was 3. My daughter was 2. They have been different since day 1. My daughter saw her older cousin going potty on the toilet and had to be like her. My son could not be bothered. He'd rather have a dirty or wet diaper than have to go to the trouble of finding a toilet. He is still my laid back kid. I wouldn't push it. They all decide on their own. Once he did decide to go, he liked "going" with his dad.

it sounds like your little guy just ISN'T ready! if you push him to potty train when he isn't ready to go, it is going to prolong the process. i'm sure you have heard that boys take longer, on average, to potty train- so wait a few weeks or months even before you bring it up to him again.

I tried all sorts of things with my boy (child #3), then decided the stress on both of us wasn't worth it. He wasn't ready until he was almost 4! Give yourself a good long break and try again after he's 3.

My son is now 4 1/2. He finally got out of diapers just about a year ago. I was so frustrated so I know what you feel like but unfortunetly they just have to do it at their own pace. What I finally did was a "potty chart" where each time he went in the potty chair we marked an x and after 5 he got to get a prize from like the dollar store or something. The first few weeks of that went real slow but I guess he finally decided to go for it. We used that chart for a few more weeks and he was good on his own. I learned though that even if they are really smart and stuff that they will do it at their own time. Again, I understand how frustrating it can be and I sure feel for you!

I'm in the same boat. My son was really interested for about 2 weeks and now it's become a power struggle. So, I've just backed off. In the mornings when I change his diaper and he's still fairly dry I ask him if he wants to pee in the toilet and get some candy. Most of the time he says no, but every once in awhile he says yes and when he does I cheer. I also give him a choice of underwear or diapers. Again, most of the time he says diaper, but I've noticed if I don't push he's more likely to say yes-he wants to be "in charge." On another note most people I've talked to have said to train him sitting down-it's easier, less messy, and if dad is working or not around you're his model.
R.

try reading & using "toilet training in less than a day". my son is 13 now but it worked for us.

Hi B., My name is L.. I am the mom of 5 kids - 3 adult boys & 16 year old & 18 month old daughters! My best advice for potty training is DON'T FORCE IT! & DON'T STRESS! My two oldest boys were 15 months apart & oh how I wanted to get the oldest out of diapers!!! It was nothing but a battle of wills. I tried it all - rewards, stickers, Cheerios as targets in the toilet bowl, cool "big boy" underwear. Sometimes he cooperated & sometimes he didn't. The more I insisted, the more he resisted. I'm ashamed to say I would get so frustrated I spanked him at times when he purposefully (I thought) went BM in his pants & didn't even care! It all did come together in HIS time, not mine. He just seemed to decide one day that he thought it was a good idea. I think he was close to 3 - yikes! Now the 2nd boy, took off his diaper at around 20 months, insisted on "big boy" underwear like his big brother & never looked back! The 3rd boy & 1st daughter were easy too. I've read that potty training is the last thing they really have control over & the child can use it to force his will. We can "make" them eat healthy, bedtimes, TV, manners etc but cannot force their bodily functions, so some kids use it. Each child & family enviroment is individual & there on no rules. I am "practicing" using the potty with my 18 month old now but it is more play & encouragement. A great book (for all kinds of parenting scenarios)is Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood - Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years by Jim Fay & Charles Fay, Ph.D. They have a whole series for all ages & it is a really smart, non-confrontational & fun way to parent. Hope that helps to relieve some anxiety & best of luck!

I have two older boys and now a 3 yr old. It's my suggestion to hold off until HE is ready. If you try too soon, it will jus tbe harder for you, chaos for him and could cause potty problems in the future. I have found potty training to be most successful when they show the interest. ie ask to go potty, sit on toilet, take off diaper all the time. I think it's best if its a positive thing for it to be a cuccess. If he's running away, he's maybe not ready. Don't bring it up again. but talk about the potty matter of factly. Try again in a few months or so. Gook luck, boys are tough.

Ugh...potty training a little boy. From my experience (four little brothers and a son), boys take longer than girls. Usually, (there's always the exception), it seems most boys aren't completely trained until around three or four. It also seems that boys tend to wet the bed more than girls. Anyway, a big factor in helping me w/ my son, was to allow him to watch his father urinate in the toilet. That seemed to be the magic cure. But please try not to "push" him if he doesn't seem ready. Unfortunately, I didn't realize this at the time, but my son developed a kidney disease (he's now 29 and the doctors say he probably won't live past 30), but it's called a reflex (reflux?) problem in which the urine goes back up into his kidneys and destroys them. When he was first diagnosed at the age of 16, they doctors told me that this usually starts when they're first being potty trained and for some reason, my son wasn't ready and some how this caused this problem. I'm sorry...I still don't know how it all happens (I need to "google" it to research more), but just thought I'd throw that little info your way. I wish someone would've educated me about that 26 years ago. What also works is little "rewards" for making it to the toilet. Also, let him look at books while he's sitting on the potty.
Best of luck w/ this.
Your friend,
M.
P.S. to "Miss Sally", LOL my son also had to remove all his clothes when he sat to poop! I thought he was the only one!! :o)

B., I wish that I had some awesome adivice for you in regards to this. I have raised and potty trained three boys and am now currently getting ready to start with my fourth son who will be three in July. Boys are very stubborn with this process and until they are ready you may as well forget it! With boys you just have to start introducing the process slowly, with rewards and lots of praise and one day they just make up their mind that they are ready. I have slowly started this with my son. With boys usually the closer they are to 3 yrs, the easier it is. You just have to make sure you have a good tight schedule the first week so that they are close to the potty. This basically means you need to plan a time when things wont be so hectic in your schedule. When things are crazy and you are out and about it is harder for them to get the process down. So, take about three days to a week. Plan on staying home most of the time and stick him on the potty about every half hour to 45 minutes all day. Once they get the hang of it, and like I said, make up THEIR mind, then they are well on their way to being trained.

I was so fortunate when me two year old needed trained. I come from a family of all girls and didn't have a clue. My son loved helicopters, and I found underwear with helicopters on them. We told him that if helicopters get wet they will not fly. He loved those underwear and every time he had to go he ran into the bathroom screaming, "My hel-da=choppers, my hel-da-choppers!"

My sister showed her son, by pouring a glass of water with dish soap in it, how he could make bubbles. He loved using the toilet, because he loved bubbles.

Don't know what might intrigue your son, but you sound like a great mom so I'm sure there will be something he loves that you can use. After all who knows him best, you do.

Good luck, stay calm, and do everything with a great deal of loving kindness. It won't be long before this is just another memory.

Hello B.,

I think there is a lot of pressure for mom's to have their children out of diapers at two years old. It appears that all parent's brag to each other about how soon they got their kids to go in the toilet. The problem with this is that not all kids are necessarily ready to potty train. My pediatrician once told me not to worry so much about potty training, because they won't be in diapers when they go to kindergarten. My son was 3 when he was out of diapers and he did it on his own. One day he just decided he wanted to go like daddy and the rest is history. I have found that many parent's who push potty training have trouble with bed wetting, accidents etc., Mention to your son if he wants to potty in the toilet, however I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Don't let the pressure of other mother's make you think that your son is inadequate because he isn't out of diapers. My son was very easy going, and I didn't think it was worth frustrating him. There are other battles you will want to conquer at this age rather than making yourself crazy over potty training. Believe me it is easier for them to be in diapers, as once they are out of diapers they have to go to the bathroom in every toilet :) Anyway, I hope this helps.

S.

Give him time. He doesn't sound interested or ready. Two is very young for any kid, but especially a boy, to get potty-trained.

My advice to you is after he eats about 20 minutes to half hour sit him on the toilet the same time everyday and praise him when he goes.It is very important to praise him not to force him. I am sure you will see positive results.

I hope this information is helpful. All my best to you. M.

I've just started training my son & all I do is put him on the potty. I started before every bath. I put him on the potty & turn the water on. You know how water always makes you pee - same thing with little ones - then PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE! So, I don't know specifically much about potty training boys, but he learned how to hold himself down after once. I guess since he likes touching himself down there . . . it was easy to teach him that ;). But I know with my daughter - she was "ready" but resisted, so I just let her do it when she wanted & I didn't push. She was potty-trained right after 3 (day & night) & has not really had any accidents to speak of. Good Luck!

Hi. SO I have a 2 1/2 year old boy who I have been trying to potty train too. I heard boys are harder. I keep him in his underwear and constant potty when I am home with him.. Im just taking my time because the other day at the movies he interupted and said he had to poop, I was shocked, All he did was pee but thats a start I guess. So just don't force it too much, he will learn. as soon as i backed off, he is getting a little more use to it. Good luck

Hello B.,
My son is 3 1/2 and he was not potty trained until just last December that would have put him at 3 and 3 months. I think you are trying to potty train your son too soon. I tried at 2 also and it was just too soon. Wait another year and then try. When you do try, have his Daddy show him and everytime Daddy goes have son go too.
Good Luck.
S.

Hi B.. I don't know about your son, but mine wanted to be the "Drama King" over potty training. Here are a few things that I'm finding are making things easier as we go through this with our 2 y.o.

In warm weather, my son plays naked in the backyard. This made him very curious about urination, and he would practice stopping/starting the stream on his own. I gave him plenty to drink, and let him drown every dandylion in the lawn.

Watching his father pee helped. Also, Dad has a lot of input about how to make peeing, "fun." (Husband pees first, son watches; then son immediately pees after him).

When I was "ready" for my son to potty train (I did not wait for HIM to be ready, or he'd be 22), I cleared my schedule and let my husband do the grocery shopping/errands for 2 weeks so I could be a full-time trainer.

I sit on the big toilet while son sits on potty seat. He hears me "go" and can't hold it. We have "set" potty times. There is no discussion, and I don't ask him if he has to go or not: it's just "time" to go, and we go sit (this was every 1.5 to 2 hrs, no matter what, all day, every day). We also pee as soon as he wakes in the morning and from nap; right before we leave the house; as soon as we arrive anywhere (we have a potty in the car); right before bed and naps; and immediately after every meal or snack... This IS exhausting for the first few weeks, but once he caught on, it got way easier.

Pooping is every morning right after breakfast: sit on potty, wait for poop. I leave the bathroom, and he sits there until success. It was funny, because he didn't think he could "do it," and would walk out and say, "the poop just came out!" Like he'd done a magic trick, or something.

Also, like someone else said, he was basically naked from the waist down around the house for 4 weeks straight. This caused a few messes, but fewer than with cotton underpants. He got back into underpants when he started being able to tell on his own when he had to go.

The key with my son is the no-questions asked potty-times. Even if he would fuss, he'd have to sit there until he "produced." If I had to walk out so he wouldn't have an "audience" for his performances, I would. Once he figured out I wasn't going to give in, the fussing almost vanished.

We're still ironing out some things, but he now asks to use the potty; tells me if he has to "pee" or "poop;" and doesn't think twice about going in public places.

Good luck, it's really rewarding to everyone once you finally get going.
T

Hi,
I would advise not worrying about it. Wait until he's really ready. My daughter was trained easily at 2 years. I then had two boys, and with the first I tried early, and had problems that continued longer than they should have. With the second, when he was two I started to talk to him about it and when he was interested and agreeable (shortly after he turned three), we took the diapers off. He was dry night and day within 48 hours.
Good luck!

Potty training can be quite difficult. We think they are ready and they don't. I have 2 children, son 13 and daughter 2. I went throught the same thing. When i potty trained my son (soooo long ago), I made it out to be a game. I would put either cherrios or frootloops in the toilet and tell him when he has to go potty, he needs to sink the cereal. It may sound silly, but it worked. I had my son potty trained within a week. My daughter on the other hand, i just decieded to stop the diapers except for drives and bedtime, and the feeling of her being wet didn't go over well. She is still in the process and doing great. So you may want to try that approch as well. Good luck.

A.

He is most likely not ready yet. My son, 2 1/2years, is potty trained during the day. Out of the blue 2wks ago he decided to use the potty. If you push he will regress or take longer. I too thought that my son would never want to potty train. He would always take his diaper off if it was wet or dirty so I tried to put him on the potty and he would just make a pee sound with his mouth, but wouldn't do anything. It just takes time and patience.

I let mine run around naked. Yes, I had to clean up messes off the floor, but they were trained within days.

The first step is introducing the idea. Let him see you and his dad using the toilet. Talk about it. IF he is not ready to sit on his potty, he is not ready for it. Tell him stories about using the potty, read books about it. Having the potty nearby so when you use the toilet, he can use the potty can be helpful. Just dont push him or it will become a control issue.

My son was 2 years, 9 months, old when he decided he was done with diapers and he's never gone back. The biggest reason for his/our success was that it was his decision. Pressuring him doesnt's help! I read him lots of books about using the potty for many months before his success. His favorite book was "My Big Boy Potty" by Joanna Cole. The books seemed to make him more comfortable with the potty and the process. It also helped to have some fun with it. When he would make pee-pee in the bath, I would encourage him to do it in cup and then have him dump it in the potty. Another tip is to take him shopping for big-boy underpants and let him choose several pairs for himself. The other thing we did was put big-boy underpants on a large, stuffed Bugs Bunny and sit Bugs on the potty. Visitors to our home had many laughs when they asked to use our bathroom and then noticed Bugs sitting on the potty! Good luck, he'll get there!