Getting Pregnant - Endicott, NY

Hi L.,

First you have to relax, because this happen to me a it took awhile. So I starting relaxing and used clearblue ovulation pertictor. It comes with I think 30 sticks. I used them and now I have the beautiful son to add to our family. He just turn 2 years old this month. :) They say toss the sticks after each month you try. I did not, this is just a way for them to make money. They worked fine for the next month. It took about 3 months. The darker the color the closer you are to ovulate. Good Luck! :) You can contact me if you have any questions. :)

As some other responders mentioned, it's a good idea to really understand your cycle, the day you ovulate on, etc. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great resource. Understanding my cycle and its patterns really helped us with both children. Hopefully you'll gain some insight from it as well!

I got pregnant w/my oldest the first time we tried - but it did take a few months w/my second daughter - the first thing i was told to do was to stop worrying so much & that it would all happen in time. What worked for me was the 8 days after the first day of my period thing - my supervisor at work told me about it & it worked w/in no time at all. Good luck!

Hello L.,
I just recently had my second child. My son is now 4, so I see that the time is right for you to have another child and give your daughter a sibling. When I starting trying to conceive last summer, I did not think about it at all. I did not plan sex nor think about the whole process. In other words I did not stress over trying to conceive. I feel the whole process of thinking and worrying about getting pregnant gets ladies worried and stressed. Stress is a major factor that prohibts women from getting pregnant. So please don't stress over it, allow it to happen on its own and it will. Give yourself some time and relax, enjoy your daughter and allow mother nature to take over. We all know the phrase practice makes perfect. If however, 6 months have passed and you are still not pregnant and am starting to worry about it, then take the next step that is comfortable for you, such as what the other ladies have suggested. Keep in mind also that there is a month when u may not ovulate at all. Basically, relax and enjoying just being intimate with your husband. That is what I did and it worked for me. This is my recommendation.

speak with your doctor, they can put you on something that could help you get pregnant. Especially if you've been trying to get pregnant for over 6 months and are unsuccessful. Sometimes though stress prevents you from relaxing and it somehow causes you to not get pregnant, so try to eliminate stress from your life and relax more, and don't focus on the getting pregnant part, but on the fun you're having while trying to get pregnant! BTW, do you know about ovulation tests and other ways to help you determine when the best time to try is?

My #1 was almost immediate too, so I had no idea really when I was most fertile. Turns out the 5 days BEFORE you ovulate are actually when you are most fertile. I used an ovulation predictor when trying for my second child, and was having sex the 24-48 hours after ovulation, per instructions, and had no luck for 6 months. Then I read in a parenting magazine about having sex the 5 days before, and got pregnant the very first month I tried that. So give that a try for a few months (I'd say three months), and if that doesn't work, I'd see your doctor, who might recommend a fertility specialist. Good luck !!!!

check out toni weschlers book, taking charge of your fertility. but the bottom line is that when you have "egg-white cervical mucus" that is the time to go for it. i graphed, charted, temperatures, pee sticks, grapefruit, all that stuff for months and months for my first baby, took sooooo long. for my next 2, i just used the cervical mucus as the indicator, worked like a charm! good luck!

Also try cutting the caffeine. It reduces fertility in women.

You might take a look at the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility... very simple straightforward advice on learning your body's cycle, and might be able to answer the very question you asked.

You can go to a fertility specialist and ask to have your ovulation checked and monitored. Basically, they will use an ultrasound to monitor when you are about to ovulate and then tell you to go and have sex once the folicle is present. No medications or anything like that - just timing reassurance that you are about to ovulate. I had a friend who did that and got pregnant in 2 months. She was having secondary fertility issues and that was a first step before interviening medically! Good luck!

L.,

LOL --- Why not try a Ovulation predictor

http://www.babycenter.com/ovulation-calculator

You might not be having sex on the right days,
Maybe your getting up too soon after sex,
things change after having a baby-- your body, stress, interuptions from waking kids that seem to walk in on you just at the right time LOL

It took me 1.5 years to get pregnant after we started trying again.

M

Dear L.,
Have you ever tried charting your cycles to see when you are fertile? Are you under a lot of stress? How is your nutrition? Many things can affect fertility. I teach a natural method of fertility care to help couples achieve or avoid a pregnancy. It is called the Creighton Method of Fertility Care. I am a Nurse Practitioner and a Fertility Care Practitioner. A.

We got pregnant with our son the first month we tried. When we tried for our second we went 6 months with no success. We found that my ovulation pattern had changed after our son was born and our timing was way off. I used an ovulation test and got pregnant that month. We had our beautiful daughter 3 weeks ago! I hope things go well!

Are you stressed out...
Maybe you are trying to hard...
Have you been checked out by your doctor......

......and maybe you need to think about this a bit longer. With your husband disabled, not working and with you only working part time, can you really afford to bring another child into this world at this time????