I started to feel very anxious about this, I have a 7 yo DD and 16 months baby girl my due date is in 10 more weeks, I have no family or close friends around and my DH is working in a big contract right now so he will very busy for the next 4 months and I hope he will for the next 20 years hehehhe.....as a self employ this is great!
Im a sahm and my girls are almost 6 years apart so now with this little one is going to be very close to each other.
I just need some advice or some reenformcement about it....I believe God wouldn't give you something that you wont be able to handle................but still feel very doubt about it , do you think will easy just to get a nanny for the first few months or everything will be fine.........I know women do this very often sometimes with more than 2, just need some words from you'all mommas out there..
Have your older two help out. My kids are 19 months apart, so I wasn't sure how the older one would react, but he's a very helpful boy! He loves to help me do the laundry and the dishes and to "take care" of his sissy. Coordinate naps and quiet time, so that you get some extra sleep, too. You can do it! ^_^
My little ones are very close in age with my oldest being 3 1/2, my middle is 2, and my youngest is 9 months. Since the first two are only 15 months apart, my older daughter didn't really know what was going on, except that she didn't have my full attention anymore (so feeding time she would act up). My middle daughter also didn't really care when her baby brother arrived.
If you can get a nanny, yahoo! I would love that! My biggest advice is to work on your new baby's sleep schedule as soon as possible so that you can begin to get 5 or more hours of sleep at a time! That will help you feel less zombie-mommie and enable you to still patiently spend time with your middle and older daughters. As mine came along, I have just fit the new one into our already established eating/napping schedules. Your older daughter will be a great help too. You can do it!
If you can afford to have a nanny helping you out for the fist few months why not? I would hire any help that I could get. It might be even better to get a housekeeper that can help you with the cleaning or the house and cooking, that would be great to have also.
I have 3, now aged 5, 4, and 2. I never had a nanny - although it sure would have been nice! My husband was able to take time off with each birth, but last time he took just 10 days.
You can do it. My boys are close in age like yours will be and it actually made it easier in a way. My oldest was still little enough to not need to be out and about and busy all the time when his brother was born. He was still entertained easily at home with books, playdough, coloring, little videos etc.
Your oldest must be in school all day, so that will help too.
My advice is give yourself some slack, and don't expect to do too much too soon. Ease into it and relax. Your 16 month old will be fine if she watches 20 minutes of video everyday so you can take a shower... :)
Good luck and congratuations!
J.
You will be surpised how helpful your 7yo can be. The 16 month old
won't really be bothered by a baby. You willl just do diapers and bottles and
babies. Remember newborns don't really require a whole lot. I think you
will be surprised at how quickly you will adjust. Congratulations.
If you can afford to hire a mother's helper....maybe a jr high girl to come and do light cleaning and watch the kids while you take a nap at least once a week I'd do it. My boys are 19 months apart. I only have two. We were located away from family and all my friends had much older kids and most moms were working. I remember sitting down to breastfeed the baby and the next thing I know the other boy is throwing all the toilet paper rolls over the gate and down the stairs. Nothing harmful but it was a big box of tp from Sam's. lol. Another time at breast feeding the older one got into my boxes of sewing thread. Now that was a mess. He liked all the colors. Breastfeeding time was always the hardest for me. My oldest always needed something or was into something and just could not sit still at that young age. It's funny now but I just remember being tired a lot. You will make it but just accept the help that offers. My boys are 6 and 8 now and are close one moment and then fighting the next. So goes life....... lol
