Getting Rid of Binkie - Crescent City,FL

Throw them out and say there all gone no more binky. it will be tuff and there will be crying but as time gose on hell stop and forget about them!!

My son was very attached to the binkie until he was 2. I was so worried about how he would react, but it wasn't bad. First I took it away in the car.....then at nap time....then at bed time. He only asked for it for 2 nights, then he was done with it. I will be ok.

My son used his binky used it only for naptime and bedtime. And it also did not matter to him whether the air came out of it or not so I knew putting a hole in it wasn't going to help much. So I just had to go for it.

I started with naptime. I just didn't give it to him. It only took one weekend to get him over it. I've been sending him to daycare since he was 14 months and he never needed a binky for naptime there, so he should need one for naptime at home. After 2 weekends more of no binky at naptime, I started bedtime. Amazingly enough, it only took 2 nights. On the third night, he didn't ask for it at all. The first night took about 45 minutes to get him to go to sleep though. The second night took about 20 minutes (15 minutes is the norm, so that wasn't bad at all). About 4 or 5 nights after he did ask for one and I just told him that he didn't need one anymore and he just said "okay" and that was it.

Hello...

Here is what I did, but my son was 3 so I he understood more.. I told him the binkie fairy was going to come on his 3rd birthday and he had to put all his binkie's under his pillow and she would take them for other babies but she would leave him gifts under his covers.... And we counted down the last month until the day before his birthday... He asked for a few days after more so at night but we didn't budge and it took maybe 2 or 3 days but that was it... Now if he finds ones that he had under his bed or something he will tell me that he is going to throw it away, he tells me that he wont' put it in his mouth and he doesn't.... I also have a 6 month old who doesn't take a binkie but we have some here for her and he does't try to use those like I thought he would...

Good Luck...

K.

Mother of 2 a wonderful 3 year old boy and a sweet 6 month old little girl... And a great husband of 10 years this year...

I have a great idea that worked with my son. It actually came from Nanny 911 show I watched. I started by only let him have a binkie at nighttime and explained in a few days the "binkie fairy" was coming to our house and started to tell him that she was going to take all the binkies in the house to all the newborn babies who were just born, since he was getting to be a big boy and didn't need them anymore. After a few days of telling him this and restricting the binkies to nighttime, one night right before his bedtime, I told him it was time to get all his binkies together, tie a string on the end of each one and hang up for the binkie fairy to come and get them. He helped me put a string on each one. I also told him she would leave him a present for doing this. We hung each one of them up on the chain to one of our fans (fan not on of course, ha!). We both looked at all of them, said goodbye, wished them well in their new home with the new born babies, and went to bed. He asked for a binkie maybe one time and I just explained the binkie fairy was going to come and leave him a present. I got a gift bag and filled it with coloring books and crayons and tied it where the binkies were hung after he went to sleep and I trashed the binkies. Sure enough, as soon as he woke up, he ran right to the fan and screamed, "present mommy!" He totally thought she had come to our house and he didn't ask for the binkies after that at all! Another version is where you tie them to a balloon and let them go together, or hang them from a tree outside. Hope this helps!

A friend of mine had a baby around the time we wanted my daughter to give up her pacie, so she was part of the decision making process to give them to the baby

I'm not at that point yet with my son, however I have heard that if you cut a small hole in the binkie he won't be able to get suction and he won't want it anymore... worth at try!

My daughter was horrible with the binkie. She only used it for bed time. However, she always had it. She didn't break it until she was almost three, but she did it on her own. They started to get holes in them and we threw them out together. When she was down to her last one I told her when it got a hole she was throwing it in the garbage. She did with no problem.

If you want to expedite it faster you could alway put the holes in it yourself. At 18 months I could tell my daughter wasn't ready to get rid of it yet. She was a crier. That kept her calm. She was ready when we got rid of it.

My yougest however, 13 months, sucks her thumb. That I am afraid is going to be harder to break then my daughter's paci.

Hi B.,
My youngest one who is now 6 kept her's until she was 4. I had tried all the tricks that could be thought of. And was finally able to get her to only want it at naptime and bedtime. The night before her 4th birthday I went through everything in the house finding (papies), so the next am she wakes up with only one she always wanted one in mouth and one in hand. I took that one so she could eat breakfast and kept her super busy that day so that she never asked for it until that night at bedtime, I finally told her at that point that it was GONE!! She got upset and cried for a while but I never gave in and bought anymore, I have to say the first week was tough!! But we made it through it!! Good LUCK it is not a easy thing to break!
K.
Mom to 2wonderful girls 8 & 6

My daughter is still young, but this women gave me great advise about it. She said that if you cut the tip off and like the other women said..say they are broken she said her daughter just got upset for little bit than didnt even care a day later.

I've heard of people bringing their child to one of those "build-a-bear" shops and putting the binking inside the bear as they sew him up. That way the child knows where the binkie is and can hug the bear when they want comfort. However, if you have a clever child, you may find that Mr. Bear has had some major surgery and VOILA the binkie has been surgically removed!

When we went to the doctor for her 2 year check up we took all of her binkies with us. We told her if the doctor checked her and said she was a big girl now, we would give the doctor her binkies. After the check-up, we let her hand over the binkies. She asked for one that night and we reminded her that the doctor took them. She said OH YEAH and fussed a little. She asked for them for another two days, but didn't pitch a fit.

The less of a deal you make of it, the better. Just throw them out (as mean as it sounds I know) and explain that they are gone. That they are for other babies now (or however you choose) and trust me if you don't make a big deal he won't either. He will forget quick. I did with this with both my boys and my oldest even made up his own rationalization and said that the momma sharks gave them to the baby sharks. He was really into sharks at that time so that is what he wanted to believe. I have also heard about the binkee fairy, where people make a big fuss that once the child reaches a certain age, they are to go outside and hang all the binkies from a string in a tree and when everyone is sleeping (hint hint) the binkie fairy comes and collects the binkies and leaves a prize. Now this is a bit dramatic I know, but hey if it works, it works. Good luck!

K. L.
www.abbabyboutique.com

I haven't reached that point where I am breaking my son of his binkie *we call it a papie*, but I have read different ways of doing it. A friend of mine said that she had a good experience with poking a hole into all of the ones that she had out for her daughter, and whenever she would grab and suck on one, it wouldn't work *poking a hole takes away the effect of it working to comfort the child...*. Whenever her daugther would bring it to her attention, my friend would tell her that "it's broken". She said that her daughter threw a bit of a fit, but when she realized that all of them were broken, she gave up and found something else to find comfort it... now she has a stuffed animal that she sleeps with at night in her bed.

I have also heard of putting food coloring on all of them to make them seem "dirty", but this only works for children that have this drive to be clean. Also, using something that makes it taste bitter or taste not pleasant could work. My aunt used reason and told my cousin that if he wanted to be a big boy like all the other cousins, he had to get rid of his pacifier. That worked at the moment, but soon he was asking for one and throwing a fit. Whatever you do, there is no way you are going to find a child that will willingly let go of something that gives them much comfort and completely forget it forever. Key is to keep it consistant and not to buckle... stay firm.

I personally am going to do the poke a hole trick because it causes a defect in the pacifier, and the child then rejects it on his own. I just have to try my hardest not to go out and buy some brand new ones because of the screaming... lol. Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck...

When my now 5 1/2 year old daughter was about 2 she was the same way and I just had my second daughter. I slowly found all her hiding places and put them out of sight and her reach without her knowing it until she only had one and one morning she crawled in bed with me and her binkie fell between the pillows. I found it and put it up too. When she looked for it I told her that she lost it and I wasn't gonna by another one. She either had to find that one (which she couldn't because they were away) or not have it anymore. For about a week she hunted for it and then totally forgot about it all together. With my second daughter we told her that she was a big girl and asked if she still needed the baby binkies and she walked over to the garbage and threw them away. And everytime she found another one that she had hidden and forgotten about she walked to the garbage can and threw it away. Well hoped this helps. Good luck

this is soooo funny as i am B. h. who would have imagined that :-)

my son would not give up his bottles (was over 2) so finally one day, i decided that it was enough. i let him watch me throw out his bottles and gave him a cup. at first he did not want to have anything to do with the cup but once he realized that the bottles were not coming back and if he wanted something to drink he better take the cup he got over it. it seemed cruel at first letting him cry but now we are happy and he is back on track for the most part. i even did that with my twins. you could also try to take one out everynight or so and he might not miss them as fast. then when it is down to one, take him somewhere special and make a big deal out of him getting rid of it. kinda like, " you are such a big boy now that you are in a bed that you dont need this anymore. throw it out sweetie and lets go celebrate you being a big kid." the fact that it is exciting to be special might be enough also.

bood luck from florida,

B.

B.

I am so glad you asked this question I am the mother of a beautiful 21 month old. I promised my husband that we could wait until she was two to take away her "mimi" but I am afraid that it is going to be rough. SHE LOVES IT!! She does not however take it to daycare and she only gets it at home when it is bedtime or if she has hurt herself in someway........I feel you hesitation and worries!

it's up to you how long you are willing to let him have it...
mine kept his until 3yrs old. I just couldnt' be 'mean' & take away something that gave him such pleasure/comfort...I'm a wimp...he was only allowed to have it for sleeping- nap & bed.
I was all set to cut it or do the Fairy thing but thank goodness we were down to the last one & somehow it got misplaced (really did, Only now I realize we could have done this a long time ago) while changing the bed linens, so that was that...

Hi, B.--

This has got to be one of the most-asked questions on this forum, and if you search the website a little, you're bound to find loads of great advice. Meanwhile, if you'll forgive me for my laziness, I'll just re-post my trick, that I posted as a response to "Robyn T" 's request from October 21, 2006:

I snipped off the ends of my daughter's binkies when she was about 2 1/2, but I prepped her first with a few days of "Wow! It's so amazing that your binkies have lasted so long...they usually break by now!" Then, one by one, her binkies started "breaking" during the night, so that each morning she would wake up to another snipped-off one. SHE actually asked us to throw them out! The very last one took some courage to do (I let her nap with it for a few more weeks before I worked up the nerve), but it finally went the same way as the others, and she never raised the topic again. I have to wonder if the holes that the kids themselves put in them just don't work because that's where their teeth are going anyway. There's something about that nice smooth hole at the cut-off tip that takes all the squishy fun out of it.

Whatever trick you decide to use, just make sure you do it before your child gets old enough to catch on to the idea that you could buy more! Good luck!

--By the way, Robyn T wound up doing this, and it worked just fine for her! Meanwhile, just be glad you're only dealing with the pacifier and not the thumb. Cutting the tip off of that is a no-no (although that's what finally broke me of the habit as a kid--accidentally, of course)! Seems like every time I venture into Disney, I see all sorts of kids with all four fingers stuck in their mouths after a whole day of touching who-knows-what...eeeeewwwwww.....

My daughter was also very attatched to her binky's... and usually had multiples at one time. I took them away from her gradually. First I told her they weren't allowed to leave the house anymore, because she was a big girl now. I did that for a week or so and then I told her she was ONLY allowed to have them at night time and I didn't allow her to have them during the day anymore... all the while the binky "supply" went from 15 to 4... they too started to "dissapear". Then after a week of them ONLY at night time... they were ALL gone. I NEVER thought it would work on my daughter... I thought it would be impossible, but she was off of them by 2 and did surprisingly well. Good Luck.

We cut the tip of the binkie off, you cut it gradually every few days for a week or so and they will lose all interest. My son actually broke the habit in 48 hours. They can't get any suction on the binkie with the tip cut, so they just ignore it.

Good luck

I am convinced that I have this GENIOUS solution. I didnt stress the taking away of the Binki with both of my children until they were 2. Ill tell you why at 18 months old they dont understand yet why the heck you want to take away there most prized posession. So at 2 I stopped buying Binkis all together . I kept telling my child if you lose your binki (which you and I both know inevetably this happens ) there will be no more binkis mommy will not buy anymore binkis. And please do not buy your child a clip to not lose the binki totally it defeats the purpose of this project. All in all I have to say my daughter turned 2 in Jan we are now at the end of Feb and two weeks ago she lost ALL her binkis. Before they lose all the binkis you stay on the child about if you lose it no more binkis . Trust me when you say it enough times at 2 years old they eventually get a clue. My daughter asks for it ever so often and I tell her well honey you seem to have lost all the binkis IM sure there here somewhere just look in your toys. She has so many toys that she doesnt bother lookin or shell start looking and then get entertained with her toys and just forget about it.

Im telling you GENIOUS !!! Both my boy 4yr old and my daughter 2 years old didnt even cry or have a fit about it.