M.A.
A.,
A husband is called to love his wife as Jesus loves the church. This is a tall order; it calls for sacrifice, for dying to self, for unending devotion. It is no small order. You need to gently re-focus your husband. tell him that sacrificing his desire to be in the presence of the Lord for his family is a sacrifice of love. It is what his vocation as a father demands of him. So is his vocation as a husband. He is not a pastor. He is not called to spend every waking moment in the church at the cost of these two paramount vocations. I speak as a Cradle catholic, devoted to my faith, and one who takes her faith very seriously. My husband considered the priesthood before we got married. So I know the tension of a devoted husband to his faith. Choosing god over family is not a choice that God desires. Children are the fullest manifestation of God's fruitful love and blessings; they are not meant to be a choice that pulls a loved one away from you. Correctly directed, love calls us to sacrifice us for the other, it calls us to seek the better of the other; it is not self-seeking or selfish. (Tell him to read 1 Corinth. and ask him if his love towards you can be described in these terms.)
Certainly praying together, even when your focus is divided-like at church, is important. You need to find a church you can both go to so that prayer is the center of your lives-both of your lives.
And most of all, pray yourself for guidance, for forgiveness, for love. Love covers a multitude of sins. and this doesn't mean you ignore your partner's shortcomings. It means that viewed through the eyes of love, a lot of things come into proper perspective. Your husband must learn to see this, that his "love" needs to be directed first towards his family--and that through his devotion to his family, his devotion to god is apparent.
I'll be praying for you. Hope this helps.