My daughter and I live in 2 different states. I was there the first 2 months of my granddaughters life then for work reasons I had to move out of state. I have seen her twice since then for a week on two different occassions. I speak to her on the phone or skype everyday and she recognizes my face and my voice. My daughter has my picture on the phone so when I call she sees it is me. Now when ever the phone rings or my daughter makes a call, my granddaughter tries to turn the phone in her mom's hand to see if it's my picture that comes up. If it is she starts talking and laughing. My question is this...My daughter will be transferring with her job to another state and will be travelling back and forth. We thought that during this transition I could keep my granddaughter for the month of July actually it will only be 3 weeks....is that too long for my granddaughter to be away from her mom? My granddaughter is now 11 months old.
If it's the best option, then you do it. But I highly recommend you keep her on the same schedule as much as possible. Change can be hard for some little ones.
Baby IS young to be away from momma, but sometimes we have to do what we have to do. I commend you for being there for your daughter and granddaughter.
Luckily, today we have tools like Skype and Facetime to ensure that we can still see our families face to face. So set one of those up on your computers and be sure that your daughter Skypes granddaughter a few times a week, at least.
Best,
C. Lee
I personally think 11 months old is a bit young for 3 weeks away from Mom. If you have the time to take off and care for her, why don't you stay with your daughter that way baby can see her mom at night time or whenever the schedule permits. Being away from her mom for that long might be traumatic, for lack of a better word and you wouldn't know since she can't really tell you that is the problem. Best of luck!
I am a grandma & as long as she can see & hear mommy (skype) each day, I would say -go for it ! You could develope a bond that would be remarkable. And, if it doesn't work, you & your daughter can work out other arrangements. I have taking care of my grandson since he was born. I am excited for you !!!!
Yes, 11 months is too young to be away from mom for three weeks, however, in this situation, you are a Godsend to your daughter.
It sounds like a hectic transition and the security of Grandma's house would be a perfect solution to everyone involved. You are a wonderful woman to help your daughter like this! Enjoy your time with your granddaughter!
Your daughter needs to do this for work, so go ahead and take care of your granddaughter. She will probably miss her mom, but she won't be permanently scarred by it. \
Ya gotta do what ya gotta do, and I don't know how your daughter will take care of her baby during those three weeks if she's going to be constantly traveling.
I think the baby will be ok. If you have pictures of her mother and skype her regularly she will do fine. The Mother is the one that probably won't make it to 3 weeks. I have cousins in the Military. They have had to be away for long periods of time from their children. Of course the kids missed them but they did fine.
How old is the baby?
She will be just fine. Enjoy this time you will have with your granddaughter!!!
She will be fine and you can spoil her rotten lol. Great for you both! Enjoy every moment.
You haven't actually said what your granddaughter's age is - only that you moved away when she was 2 months old without saying how long ago that was. That information would be helpful.
If I read correctly..... Could you go to your daughters home and stay 3 weeks? Might be easier on the baby to maintain her routine and your daughter could see her when she travels back and forth.
I'd say you need to do some weekends in the near future to see how it goes.
It's a long time to be away but if it's important, then who better than grandma?
It depends on how her mom feels about it. I wouldn't leave my baby for three weeks with ANYONE at that age, just because *I* wouldn't be ready for the separation, but there are mothers who are fine with it, and their babies do just fine too.
This is really up to your daughter, and her husband, no one else. If she's not ready or not comfortable, then respect that and don't push it. You have many, many years to enjoy your granddaughter, be patient, and remember what a LOT of work it is to take care of a baby 24/7 for several weeks. It's harder when you're older (I speak from somewhat recent experience!)
If you are going to do this, I highly recommend going to your daughter's house to care for the child, there. She is going to miss her mom and not understand why she isn't there, but you can do things to make the time away more manageable and enjoyable.
It's a long time, but if she has that bond with you, she should be fine. You can still skype with her mom and have her picture on your phone, as well. Things are so much better these days since we have all this technology to help. At this age, I think she'll be just fine and it may be harder on mom during the 3 wks. and hard on you when you have to say goodbye. Your daughter and granddaughter are lucky to have you!
