Grandparents - Nutley,NJ

Don't forget to ask all the parents what they'd like to be called! Some don't like the grandpa/granny terms, and go with nanna or poppy. My parents wanted to be called Grandpop and Grandma, but all the kids had a different idea and now they are Gammy and PopPop. My in-laws were Oma and Opa (German) and when Oma died and Opa remarried, we asked her to choose another name so the kids could remember Oma Mary, and she chose Nanna.

No, grandparents tell the child what to call them. I would not allow someone else to take that privilege from me. My daughter would have her kids call me granny and that was my mom's name, I hated her.

I choose what my grand kids call me.

I would ask the grandparents. My mother wanted to be called whatever my daughter came out with when she first started talking. My MIL wanted to be called Nana. It all worked out. If some end up wanting grandma maybe you can add the first initial to it.

It's really up to the grandparents to decide what they want to be called. You can give suggestions, of course.

My grandchildren call all of us grandmas, Grandma. If there will be confusion about which one they're talking about they just add their name to the Grandma. Hence, I'm Grandma M. and Iris is Grandma Iris. Sue is Grandma Sue or her last name. Works out just fine.

It's not wierd. You can call them grandma firstname and grandpa firstname just like with aunts and uncles. Dh and I had three grandmothers of our own alive when our daughter was born, the two on his side were referred to as great grandma and my grandmother was great nanny. I would suggest asking the grandparents what they prefer.
My sister has a 2 year old granddaughter. My sister is called "Nala" - abbreviated version of Nana Lauren.,

I always let it be up to the grandparents to decide what THEY would like to be called. In our case two of them were "grandma" we just referred to them as either grandma S or grandma N in conversation, but the kids just called them both grandma. No biggie, I call my MIL "mom" even though I technically have a mom of my own, and it works out fine :)

The grandparents often have their own desires. But the child doesn't always go a long with it. I am MeMaw and that's what I wanted. My husband morphed into deda after a lot of other names were kicked around. My mother is CeCe and no one knows why my grandson picked that. It's not even close to her name or anything we tried with him. He used to call her gamma. One day he started saying CeCe and there's no changing it.

His would be, could be, maybe future grandparents are DadGregg said together like that and Jodi.

One of my daycare moms told me that the child will pick. She was so right.

All the grandparents in our family are referred to by the title of Grandma Firstname or Grandpa Firstname.

We have:
Grandma Donna
Grandma Marcia
Grandma Muriel
Grandpa Tim
Grandpa Butch
Grandpa Newt

The title of grand is the honorific and their name is their unique identity. I called all my grandparents the same way unless there was only one of them in the room, then I would look up at them and only say Grandma or Grandpa.

My sister is divorced and she and her ex are both remarried, and her kids are married to men whose parents are also divorced and remarried, so there are two sets of grandparents on each side! Makes 4 couples of grandparents! they generally refer to them as "grandpa Bill" vs "granddad Mike"; one is of European origin so that couple is called a European nickname...it's not such a big deal.

dad's side.. grandma XXX and pops

mom's side.... grandma XXX and grandpa XXX

just identified them by thier last name.

my mom's middle name is Toi, so she is Nana Toi, my dad is Papa to our children. My grandparents were originally Nana &Papa, now GreatNana & Great Papa. My husband's mother is Grandma Beach because of a trip we all took when my oldest was a toddler- that's just how my daughter remembered who she was! The rest of the grands and greats are are by name. The kids know them all.

Don't stress.
You never know what kids will come up with on their own.

My daughter, the first grandchild, came up with something for my mom and it stuck. EVERYONE calls my mom that. You'd think she never had a real first name.

When my mother in law passed away, her sister-in -aw took my daughter under her wing. My daughter called her Grandma Legs. On one hand, it sort of terrified me at first because I wasn't sure what her reaction would be. She had polio as a child and had very thin legs and struggled getting around a bit. But, my daughter was a little kid and she thought she had the prettiest thin legs. "Woo hoo, Grandma Legs! You look great in a bathing suit!"

She wasn't offended at all. She signed cards and letters to us as Grandma Legs.

I come from a HUGE family and there are so many things that the grandparents get called. Trust me, the kids get it all worked out.
It's hard enough thinking of a name for your kid so don't worry about the grandparent names for now.

Best wishes.

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My parents are divorced and remarried. So I have four sets of grandparents...(some sadly no longer with us but growing up I had four).

Mostly they were grandma and grandpa (then either a first name or last name), but mostly just when I was speaking about them no to them. To them they were grandma and grandpa. Never confused me one bit.

Our kids have both sets of my parents and my husbands parents...(should have two sets as well but his bio dad is a douche)...

Our oldest all on her own gave them names. My (bio) dad is Pappi, my (other/step) dad is Papa Kenny...and my husbands (step) Dad is Papa (his last names cause he's a Kenny too) as well. Grandmas are by first name or nick name...my mom was always called A. Doo Doo (no one could same her name). That's actually how I told her she was going to be a grandma...I said "so do you want to be called Grandma (her last name) or Grandma Doo Doo?"....

Your child will figure it out...it's really not as complicated in reality than it is written down.

Added: My sister growing up called our moms mom Pacca...we have no idea where it came from and the rest of us called her Grandma Bite...short version of their last name (German)...but to my sister she was Pacca.

We have Grammy and Papa (my parents) grandma and grandpa (his parents), and gma and gpa (our best friends parents). Yes, we count our bests friends' parents as grandparents, because who wouldn't want extra grand parents, and grand kids??

Your parents have no other grand kids? Often the oldest will just set what the grandkids will call them.

There are lots of things to call grandparents -- Grandma, nana, nonna, mi mi, gi gi, ammie, and any variation on their name (i.e. Joan = jo jo). As far as grandpas go, I only know of grandpa, gramps and papi, but I'm sure there are plenty. Lots of times you'll have a "grandpa Joe" and "grandpa Bob", and the kids often create something themselves ... we have a grandpa beep because he presses kids noses and says "beep" :), and we have 2 grandparents with names the kids created because they couldn't say "grandpa" and "grandma".

Our children asked us to tell them what we'd like to be called when grandchild #1 was due. We selected Gran and Grandpa. But #1 grandchild couldn't say "Grandpa" easily when she started talking, so my husband is Papa. In that family, the other grandparents chose to be Grammie and Grampy, which is a tradition with them.

When my older son had been around for a couple of years, he couldn't manage "Grandma Templeton" - but he did know she lived in Texas so he called her "Grandma Tex." She was both surprised and tickled pink.

All this is to say that you can come up with something, or the grandparents can come up with something - but it might be the child who really decides.

It's normal for grandparents to be called, grandma, grandpa, nana, papa etc., if you wish to distinguish, it can be i.e. (grandma Helen, grandma Mary)...If they are all old fashioned, they probably think it's wierd that you have chosen not to marry prior to bringing a child into their lives. If they are not, it will probably be OK for you to teach your child to call them by any name you and your fiance choose....Or, if you are concerned about their feelings, ask them what they would like to be called.

We have Granny, Nana, Grandpa Joe, Mema, Pappa, Pappy, sometimes it ends up being something that your little one makes up all by themselves because they can't pronounce any of the ones the adults have picked out. (those are the cute ones).

Happy delivery!

In my family or my childs family - however you look at it, she has my Mom which she calls Memere (french) and my husbands Dad and his wife who she calls Grandpa and Grand Maman, and then my husbands Mom and her bf who she calls Nana and Pa. When I was still pregnant we just asked them - the grandparents - what they wanted and they pretty much figured it out in their own. I have a friend whos daughter calls her great grandmother Old Nanny, I think its really cute

We call them Grandma and Grandpa then their names.

Grandma Sue, Grandpa Mike, Grandma Jane...

But some grandparents already have a good idea of what they want to be called, especially like you mentioned if they are of a certain culture. Plus, kids tend to give cute little nicknames to some as well.

its very normal to call them all grandma / grandpa etc. just ad the name next to it. my grandkids have me and my hubby, my ex and his wife, my mom, my stepmom, my dad and his wife those are all on my side of the family. they are all called grandma + first name with the exception of me and hubby. so its grandma irma for my mom, grandma mary for my stepmom, grandma penny for my other step mom (don't ask lol) on my grandkids dads side there is a nanny and poppy, a memaw and pepaw and a couple of great grandpa and great grandma's. they kids have no problem recognizing love and they will adapt to the names. and the names they use will be whatever you call them. so if you say grammy and grampy then thats what they will call them.

Why don't you ask the grandparents what they want to be called? That's what we had done, and my parents decided they wanted to be Papa and Nana. My in-laws are Nanny and Grandpa. Then, my girls also have a Great-Nana, and a Great-Nanny. I understand what you mean about not wanting the same thing, but really it shouldn't be your choice, but the grandparents.

My grandmother has always been "Grandma" to everyone. She takes great pride in being "Grandma". Then, my son came along and in his efforts to call her Grandma, he started saying "MyYa". She LOVES that he has his own name for her.

My mom picked out her own "grandma name"--GiGi.

I think the grandparents should pick their own names, and then see if the child comes up with his/her own later.

We use Grandma with her first name, and Grandpa with his first name (Grandma Claire and Grandpa Nick, Grandma Shirley and Grandpa Cal) for the grandparents.

there are only 4 real grandparents here we do grandpa jo grandma mary and so on

Ask them.

In our case daughter has my mom, stepdad and my dad.

My mom was adamant about being called "Grandmother". She was the same way when I grew up and would only answer to "Mother". I know, she's weird. It is an ego thing.

She calls my dad pop pop and my stepdad Grandfather

She never met my husband's parents.

Congratulations and best wishes for your family!

Don't stress on it. Your child (and grandparents) will come up with names that suit each other.

Just like your child will learn we all have different names (John, Sally, Mary). The grandparents will have theirs. Plus if they are all different it will be easier to know which of the six grandparents is spoken about in conversation. Just saying "Grandma" will have 3 people come to mind.

Not that this isn't something to think about, it will work its way out.

The baby will think of what to call them-and each person will want to have some influence on what they want to be called.

We have 3 sets and they all have mostly different names. We have a Grandma Tootie, who the baby now calls Gaga, Nana & Kampa, a Grandpa Keith, Grandpa Keith-O (my MIL married a guy with the same name as her first husband so we changed his name) and ready for this...a Gram-cracker. My husband's step-mom calls herself a cracker (her words not ours) and now that she's a grandma she's a Gram-cracker.

For the most part everyone picked their names but the children have a way of calling them whatever they could pronounce.

Oh and congrats on expecting!