J.T.
first, i'm really sorry you're going through this. i've been through three myself. the drug they usually give is methotrexate, it's a chemotherapy drug, and my understanding is that it's quite effective, but very unpleasant, i have personally never used it. i have had two d&cs and honestly, i wouldn't recommend that route. i did well with both of mine, etc. - no complications, but after the third miscarriage, we saw a reproductive endocrinologist and he STRONGLY advised against any further d&cs - they are beginning to see a pattern of difficulty conceiving after multiple d&cs. my advice would be to give it a week or two(barring fever or other dangers to YOU), then go with the methotrexate. just to give you some hope, after a full fertility workup, my RE found "nothing" and I delivered my third child(6th pregnancy), a baby girl, 8 days ago. I also have 2 boys, 3yrs and 6yrs(pgs #1 and #3). I hope you have an outcome like mine soon, and deepest sympathies on your loss - I really am sorry :(