M.P.
C., Mom's group means we ask about anything that impacts us, the moms. And having your husband injured and in a funk definately impacts you and your whole family.
I've had lots of experience with accidents, illness and hospitals. These incidents give us an opportunity to address other issues such as depression and weight gain while dealing with the accident. He is already seeing the doctor because of the accident and you can get theother issues worked into the treatment.
While he's in the hospital, might be a good time to get him started on an anti-depressant. Talk with his nurse and his doctor. There are several ways of getting help. The nurse can be the one to let the dr know your husband is depressed and/or you can. If someone else presents the idea of an anti-depressant to him he may be more willing to try it. And they have experience working with a patient who is negative about taking medication.
The hospital social worker could be a good resource for you. Talk with her about your concerns and she can make referrals and give you ideas based on her knowledge of you and your husband in the hospital setting.
His doctor will also have recommendations about weight loss and other health issues. Hopefully you have a family doctor who will be following up with your husband after he leaves the hospital. What is important is letting the doctor(s)know your concerns and your desire to help in any way that you can.
If he's left the hospital you still have his doctor as a resource. Go with him to an appointment or make an appointment to go by yourself.
And I think one of the most important things for you to do is to start counseling for yourself if you haven't already. We can only effectively take care of someone else in such a stressful place if we first take care of ourself. A counselor will help you deal with the stress this causes you as well as give you ideas and support for helping your husband.
I'm glad you asked the question and wish you success as you find a way to make life better for all of you. If you have more questions about what I've said please write again. M.