Help - Jeannette, PA

Go to www.bedwettingstore.com they have a sheet that you can buy and it has an alarm on it. It works.

im a nurse have been one for 6 yrs now and its ok for both your 5 and 7 yrs to be wetting the bed you need to get those good night pull up for both of them kids with seizure disorder have problems controling there bed wetting problem they will start getting better as time goes if theey only have a seizure disorder my duaghter has a seizsure disoder but has other problems too but the good night pull ups should help

H. I had childhood eplipsey. I wet the bed until i was 8. I had grand mal seizures and had them as I was awaking @ night to go to the bathroom. that could be his problem that he is having seizures as he is coming out of a deep sleep. or the medication he is on is making him have a hard time get up. I would really get a second opinion.

But also to let you know My 8 year old wore pull ups because he wet the bed until he was 7 1/2. My kids doctor says night time is a learning process and that most boys are not ptty trained @ night until the age of nine.

H.,

It is very common to wet the bed for kids that age! I personally had issues with bed wetting until I was in junior high! Scary huh? They tried EVERYTHING from waking me up in the middle of night to pee to restricting fluids! I think the ONLY thing that helped me was to mature. I'm sorry to say- the best thing you can do is be loving and supportive to your child who is probably very self conscious and maybe provide pull ups or something if they make them in his size! I wouldn't use medication for the problem.........you may also want to have him practice becoming very aware of his body and practice during the day going when he feels the urge and one thing they had me try was to stop the flow of pee while I was going to strengthen that area? GOOD LUCK

SOME CHILDREN TAKE LONGER TO LEARN TO GET UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT TO USE THE BATHROOM. IVE KNOWN FOR PEOPLE TO STILL BE WETTING THE BED AT 13 . SOME PEOPLE JUST SLEEP HARDER THAN OTHERS AND DONT REALIZE THEY HAVE TO GO TO THE BATHROOM. MAYBE THE MEDS AT YOUR SONS ARE ON ARE MAKING THEM SLEEP HARDER. MY SOON TO BE STEP DAUGHTER WETS THE BED AND SOMETIMES DURING THE DAY SHE WILL WET HERSELF TOO. SHE SAYS SHE DOESNT FEEL IT COMING ALL THE TIME SOMETIMES SHE DOES. THEY ARE DOING ALL SORTS OF TESTS TO MAKE SURE EVERYTHING IS WORKING CORRECTLY. THEY HAVENT FOUND ANYTHING YET. WE CUT THE DRINKS OFF AT 6 TOO. WE ALSO MAKE HER USE THE BATHROOM BEFORE SHE GOES TO BED. WE ALSO ASK HER EVERY 30 MINS IF SHE NEEDS TO USE THE BATHROOM. SHE HAS BEEN DOING ALOT BETTER DURING THE DAY . BUT NOT AT NIGHT. I HAVE NOTICED WITH HER NOTHING WAKES HER UP. THE OTHER KIDS WILL WAKE UP AND PLAY IN THE ROOM SHES SLEEPING IN AND BE LOUD AND SHE WONT WAKE UP.
A FRIEND TOLD ME THAT HER SON WAS STILL WETTING THE BED AT THE AGE OF 5 AND SHE JUST USED ALOT OF ENCOURAGEMENT AND HAD HIM TAKE HIS BED SHEETS OFF AND THROW THEM IN THE WASHER EVERY MORNING THAT HE WET THE BED AND THE FIRST TIME HE DIDNT HAVE TO CHANGE HIS SHEETS IN THE MORNING SHE MADE A HUGE DEAL OUT OF IT. ALL KINDS OF PRAISE AND LET HIM GET SOMETHING SPECIAL NOTHING HUGE JUST SOMETHING FROM THE DOLLAR STORE AND HE WAS SOO PROUD OF HIS SELF AND LOVED THE PRAISE THAT EVENTUALLY HE STOPPED WETTING THE BED ALL TOGETHER. GOOD LUCK.

Are they having seizures at night. I have a four year old with epilepsy and that is the first question I am asked after he seizes. (ok maybe the third question) Has he relieved himself. I don't know he wears a diaper. I also knoe my husband has bipolar and wet the bed until he was 12, and just one day stopped.

My brother did not have a seizure disorder, or anything for that matter and he wet the bed pretty much until puberty! I dont know why a doctor would tell you its not ok when there are hundreds of little children who have problems wetting the bed far later than 7. I think all you can really do is get the overnight big-boy diapers they have these days and try to not make him feel embarrassed by it, as it is something a lot of boys (and even some girls!) go through

Maybe your doctors response to your chilrens bedwetting is being based on each child "individually". I would love a doctor who does not go by TEXTBOOK diagnosis. Each child is an individual person and should be looked at with that in mind. Even by yourself. There are no timelines / right or wrong answers for you. Every child is different.
As for your oldest son though, you say he is already on a lot of medications. Have you thought of it maybe being the cause of. Some side effects cause overanxiousness or make him so sleepy at night that he falls into a deep very deep sleep and truely does not feel the urges when it is time to go. My son is on a lot of med.'s to and I know these are some side effects. I would find out about that though or even have both checked by a urologist just to make sure nothing is wrong with there urinary systems. Be patient and stay calm though. Especially in ffront of the children. They probably already feel bad about themselves for wetting the bed to begin with, don't make them even more upset emotionally by staying upset with them over it or dwelling on it. Put yourself in their shoes and think of how they FEEL. In the meantime-Have you tried Overnights or even a pad o their beds?
Hope I can help.---C.

Don't worry yourself about the 7 year old. I have an 8 year old that still wets the bed eventhough I've tried every route except medicine. I work in the medicsl field and a child will eventually stop unless there is a medical condition and a doctor should not put the child on a regular med for that problem either They use the med prescribed (DDAVP) usually for like sleepover events and stuff like that, not a maintainance drug. Also it is a hormone which also isn't really good for the child either. ALso I know of several other 1st and 2nd graders at our school with the same problem. Just invest in some Goodnites and be patient. I hope this is helpful.

H.,

At Walmart they have these pads that soak up urine and you can wash them. They were $5 each I believe. I use them for my daughter, along with a pull up (just in case). They are nice because if she sleeps at a friend's house then she will just say that she likes to sleep in her sleeping bag and when the other friend is dressing or whatever, she slips the pad inside.

Weak bladders run in our family and my brother wet the bed until he was 9 and I know my oldest sister did and I did too.

My daughter is a different case though. She has a hole at the end of her spine which we were blessed it wasn't far enough to cause spinal bifia (?sp), however it must have hit something because she has no control during the day or night. She is 10 and gets so embarrassed because she doesn't know she has to go until she feels it on her leg. She also has a constant bladder infection and has blood and puss in it just about a week after taking antibiotics. So she only has one week per month of no major infection. (And we thought PMS was bad eh?)

She is now on meds to try to strengthen her bladder and tries to go every hour and it is helping some but she still has "accidents" at school and such. I buy her the smallest type of Depends that is on the market and tell her to wear underwear on top to keep it in place and also so other kids won't see the "diaper". Once in 4th grade another classmate saw her pull up and teased her and the whole class picked on her. The teacher had to have a talk with the class.

So perhaps the cheap pad with no noise and small Depends (I found the generic type that is like a pull up and NOT the diaper kinds work best......the diaper kinds are plastic and you can hear the plastic when they walk) could be a solution until he is able to control his bladder better.

I wish you the best of luck.

A.

I don't know anything about seizure disorders, but I can speak to bed wetting in general. I wet the bed until I was around 9 years old. At the time, they didn't know much about bed wetting. My mom took me to doctors, tried all kinds of medicine, yelled at me because she thought I was lazy for not getting up, got me an alert pad that made a terrible high-pitched shreak when pee hit the bed (woke up everyone in the house but me), and made me feel like I was a terrible kid for it. Turns out that many kids who wet the bed just can't wake up to go--their brains have not yet developed that connection to wake them when their bladders are full. One day I just stopped wetting the bed. It was like a switch went off in my brain and I could wake up. Never did it again after that.

Of course your doctor knows best for your kids, especially since they have another medical condition. Just don't lose your temper (I know it's hard to deal with wet sheets every night and all the extra laundry). Bed wetting is so difficult for children. It causes so much anxiety. While my friends were sleeping over at each others' houses having pizza parties, I was at home because I knew I would wet the bed. And on top of that, my mom thought I was doing it on purpose. If my son has the same problem, I'll take him to the doctor to make sure there is no underlying medical condition, and then show him where the clean sheets are and how to make the bed.

H. I use to take care of 3 brothers who were altistic and had seizures we had to wake them ever 4 to 6 hours to have them use the rest room and we got pads to go under them they need to know that it is not their fault and that its ok if it happens. We also learned that the oldest boy was having problems where he would have small seizures in his sleep and would wet. Talk to the doctor to see if it could be him haveing a seizure doing it. and i am so sorry you have to go thourgh this.