Help! Any Advise on Poopy Potty Training?

My daughter did not like going on the potty either. She stays constipated, so it is painful and she will hold it as long as possible. When I know she needs to go, I will sit with her and talk to her, rub her back and tell her if she will go it will make her feel better. I will also offer to give her a prize (sticker, a piece of candy or some little something). That usually seems to help with her. She is now using the potty more often. You may want to try this and see if it works.

I think making the stool soft is helpful. No pushing or pain is good. I like to have a stool under his feet so he is balanced well and not afraid of falling in. My sons liked the big potty better than a little potty. My second one did not want to go. He would ask for a diaper when he had to go. I say relax and let it happen when it happens. I offered my second son a trip to Chuck E Cheese's for three poops in the potty. It didn't work at first, but pretty soon it sounded like a good idea. We kept this up for a few trips and then it was automatic to go. Good luck and don't worry.

Is he wearing pull-ups or underwear? My son was wearning pull-ups. He would pee but not poop. He kept saying he would poop on the potty when he was 3. when his preschool went on fall break a couple of weeks after his 3rd bday, I threw away the pull-ups and he only got to wear underwear. We gave him a sticker on a chart every time he went poopy. When he got 10 stickers, he got to pick out a toy at the toy store. I also made him help cleanup the poop when he pooped in his underwear. After a couple of accidents, he decided it was better to go in the potty than to clean up the mess. By the time he got 10 stickers, he was trained.

My dgt. just got trained in the last month. She got the 10 stickerss but was still sporadic (maybe because she was still inpull-ups). I put big girl underwear on her one night because she had a boo boo between her legs where the pull-ip was irritating her. She had been dry at night for a long time so I knew she would be ok. The next morning she did not want to go back to the pull-ups so we didn't. She would have an accident (poop) about every other day. After a couple of accidents (and helping to clean it up) she was potty trained too. She will be 3 in October.

You might have to stay home for a few days until he has had a couple of accidents and had to clean up a few times. Both my kids were trained in 1-2 weeks once I went to underwear. You could try putting vinyl pants on over his underwear for the first day or two so if he has an accident, it won't get all over everything as easy. Also, avoid foods that make it harder to poop (bananas) and encourage foods that make it easier (prunes, raisins, etc.) Good Luck!!
T.

M....My only advice is don't worry it will happen.
I am the mother of 4 ..3 sons ages 25,20 and 18...all 3 were trained within 2 weeks of their 2nd. birthdays. they were easy,absolutely no thought at all had to go into to their training. Then 3 years ago our daughter was born,and again at the age of 2 I thought I would began training her,well...she has a mind of her own. She turned 3 last May,just 3 weeks ago she began tt-ing the potty,out of the blue my hubby ask her if she wanted to go on her potty and what do ya know she went ,she got a princess snack as a reward. Well she went 3 times in 15 minutes just to get her reward. I was tickled. then I started trying to get her to do the poopy thing in her potty. I begged her,sat for what seemed like eons coaxing her to do it..to no avail,then yesterday she runs into bathroom to potty and came out and said "I did it,I went poopy" sure enough she had...now the trick will be ,will she hang with it.

My point is,all children are different,some like my daughter are extrememly headstrong,no amount of pushing her was gonna work. It was gonna be on her terms.

Don't let others shame you about your sons training. I personally found this part the most stressful part of the whole training experience. Everyone (expecially grandparents) have their ideas about when you should start training. My mother and in laws believe you should start at 6months....I personally think that 6 months sounds absurd. You will know when your son is ready,and actually until he is their is very little anyone can do to change his mind.

So just try to take it one day at a time and not let it bother you,they grow up way to fast.

HELLO SWEETIE! I KNOW HOW THE POTTY TRAINING THING IS!!! YOU MIGHT WANT TO ASK THE DOCTOR ABOUT THIS! SOMETIME'S THEY JUST AREN'T READY FOR SOME THING'S!! GOOD LUCK!! YOUR MAMASOURCE FRIEND, SISTERSTAR...RENEA

I NO IT IS HARD..I HAVE A SON HE IS 10 NOW..IT WAS SO HARD TO GET TO GO TO THE BATH ROOM...I THINK HE WILL GO WHEN HE IS READY..I NO THIS IS HARD,MY SON WAS ALLMOST FOUR BEFORE HE WAS ALL THE WAY POTTY TRAIN..DONT BE UPSET IT WILL HAPPEN SOON..

I have recently trained my now 3-year old son on the potty. He also had a difficult time with pooping on the potty, even after he had been peeing for several months.
Finally, I refused to wear pull-ups on him, so he would be uncomfortable and feel when he had pooped. I put him on the potty every morning around 9am, and every hour after to try. I also made a calendar and, if he pooped we would put a favorite sticker on it. We also made a "BIG" deal when he went (singing, dancing, hi-fives, etc) I also got his older brother (6 yrs old) to join in the praise. After a messy and frustrating week he was a pro.
Good luck, and sometimes you just have to wait until they figure it out.

For some reason your son seems to be afraid to poo while any
one is around. He must have gotten a lot of attention about it.
The kind he don't want. Leave him alone. ask him if he has to
go if he says no leave it at that, even if he poo's 2 minutes
later. But when you clean him up just explain to him in a calm
voice how messy it is and how smelly and how much better it
would be in the potty instead of on his butt.Every time he pee's in the potty praise him and say good job then ask did you poo.If he say's no then say ok maybe next time.He is only three, be patient.

I am going through the same thing myself! Except my son will not even pee in the potty. He becomes very angry when I tell him to and runs and hides. I don't know what to do!

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Here's what worked for my brother... I think you have to have an older sibling for it to work, so you should be ok. When my brother would pee on the potty, he got a lollipop. If he pooped, he got a fun size candy bar. If he peed in his pants, my sister and I got the lollipop (right in front of him so he could see) and he got nothing. If he pooped in his pants, my sister and I got the candy bar. It worked great!

Hi M.,
I have had this same problem with my now 4 year old. In fact, we ended up having to take him to a pediatric gastroenterologist which put him on a daily stool softener to help keep him loose so he was unable to hold it in. It got so bad my son wouldn't go poop for a full week. I understand your frustration, I have said the same thing you are saying now.

The doctor told us that the reason he is holding it in is because he has related pooping with pain so in their little minds they are thinking they are going to hold it in so it doesn't hurt them but that only makes it worse. I highly recommend taking your son to a specialist. Within a week of putting my son on this medicine he was pooping on the potty with no problems at all. He wasn't afraid at all because it was so loose that it didn't hurt him. Please email me if you would like to know the doctor we went to and I will get you his name and number. Good Luck!!

My niece did the same thing for a while. My sister would actually have to put a diaper on her so she would poo. The solution was getting my niece "regular". She was slightly constipated so her tummy was hurting and she didn't want to sit on the potty and "push"! Sister got baby some kiddie laxitive and she's been pooing in the potty since! GOOD LUCK!

Hi Traci,
My son turned 3 in July and up until about a week ago, was doing the same thing. He would poop every once in a while on the potty, like once every 6 weeks, but most of the time he would hold it and poop at night. He is still wearing pull ups at night and almost every morning he would have poop. We tried everything we could...even throwing a party complete with hats and cake because when I said he could do something special if he pooped, he said, "Can we have a party?" so we did. But he still wouldn't do it. Then about a week ago he just started going. We have just been praising him and hoping it is going to last! Hang in there.

M.,
My boys did the same thing. Standing to pee is easy.. but my boys were literlly terrified to sit on it. My middle one kept pooping in the floor of his closet!! Maybe you could stay with him and read him a book while he sits....Always works with me.

I had that problem with my second son. I read a book about it and it said that sometimes children feel like they are losing a part of themselves when they poop in the toilet. I sat my son down and explained to him that it was normal and that we all do it. It helped and after a few days he was using the potty all the time. I hope this helps.

A.

When my son still wasn't using the potty at Christmas time "Santa" left him some new underwear in his stocking and within a week he was using the potty on his own. He wanted to be able to wear the present that Santa left for him. Since it isn't quite Christmas yet maybe you could try that with a favorite character of his or something. Buy some brand new underwear and leave them wrapped with an encouraging note from that character. It may work.