Ok moms here's a quick low down. We bought my daughter a potty months ago she turned 2 in july, but I wanted to start just having it around. Right away she took to sitting on it diaper on and off. She loved it. Then a couple of months ago she actually went on it. Not just piddles but a real potty. We got all excited and everything. Now I can't get her to sit on it to save our lives. She down right refuses. She tells us when she's wet and stinky she can even take her own diaper off!! I even put her in big girl underwear last sat. except for nap and she held it until she had that diaper back on. I tried bribing her w/ everything....no go. I am out of solutions. I don't want to leave her in the underwear at naptime cause she would be asleep what's the use. Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
H.
P.S. I have trained a lot of kids in my line of work and never have had this hard of a time....is it because she's mine? I am not getting much help w/ her teacher helping either....ticking me off.
Just WAIT until she is ready - there is no rush - now if she were 3 or 4, maybe I would be concerned but she will initiate it again when you not pressing her to do so.
Good Luck!
Never put the diaper back on.
Within a day or so she'll get tired of having accidents.
Lock yourself at your house - don't leave your property for the full two days - and do it over a weekend. Treat her as you always do - don't give her punishment if she poos or pees without the diaper on. In fact, now is the perfect time to do this because it's still warm outside. When you think she's "held it" long enough, take her outside in the back yard and refuse to go back inside. Bring the portable training potty out with you. Tell her that she is no longer going to have the diaper on and she needs to go on a potty from now on like a big girl. Then let her know she needs to go on the little potty. See what happens.
Give her a reward of candy or something she especially loves every time she finally goes on the potty.
Every time she has an accident do not get upset. Just clean up the mess without trauma and say - "OH OH - you wet (or pooped) your outfit. Did you remember that if you had put your pee or poo in the potty I would have given you candy? I guess you forgot!"
If you are worried about her making a lot of messes, than stay outside.
Kids love candy more than anything. Took my two year old exactly 8 hours to be potty trained using this method. Once they did it one or two times on the "little potty" and saw they instantly got their favorite candy, well - they wanted to do it again and again.
Be sure the praise her as well - lots of verbal praise.
Over a one week's time continue the verbal praise, and never punish her if she has an accident, but phase out the candy and give her frozen grapes instead. Much healthier and most 2 year old have never had frozen grapes, so think they are a novelty.
GOOD LUCK!
S
She is so young- just wait it out- you don't want it to become a power struggle.
Try looking at it as "potty learning" you train dogs not people and some 2 year olds just aren't ready as it's a learned behavior and could take awhile and stressing over it could do more harm than good and she will sense the frustration and could very well rebel against the idea. We did lots of potty books, the Elmo goes potty video, and just making it a very fun object before taking it to the next level. Good Luck mama.
She sounds like she isn't ready. Most kids will want to play with the potty and mimic "bigger" people when they first get a potty, but it doesn't mean they are ready to do it fulltime. Perhaps she needs less pressure and more time.....our son did something similar and he actually got worse the more pressure we put om him. Finally, we backed off for a while, and he started to do want to do it on his own, but it was another 4-6 months or so before that happened. Once he was ready, he was trained within a couple of days.
I am having trouble with my 2 year old boy he will be 3 end of Sept. He will sit on the big potty once in awhile and I have put underwear on him and he just goes in the underwear and I put him on the potty frequently and he won't go until he has underwear or a diaper on. I have bribed him with pennies and stickers. Still won't go and sometimes he just refuses to sit on the potty. Some days he does good and then takes like 3 giant steps back and won't do it. So I am at a loss too. Hoping someone can help you and me. J.
Am a stay at home mom for now.
I know this isn't what you necessarily want to hear, but she will do it when she's ready. Unless she has developmental problems, I have learned that kids can be forced, but will do better when they finally make their own decision.
We tried and tried with my son forever and drove ourselves crazy. He refused. One day he saw his cousin go to the bathroom and decided he didn't want to be a baby anymore and that was it ..... :)
hello,
i think she just might not be ready yet. take a couple weeks off, and don't even mention the potty training. and when you decide to go back to it... put underpants on her and keep cleaning up the accidents. i might take a couple of days for her to catch on. but do not go back to diapers.. not even for bed or naps. it is tough the first couple of days.. but it should work. hope this helps. good luck.
Hi, my only advice is to "Relax". She is barely 2 years old! I know my little guy will be 2 in November, and he keeps saying "pee-pee", so I know I was going to get that potty chair ready so he could sit on it (if he wants too), and we could talk about it, and I will tell him when I do, and all that!!! But aside from that, since now she refuses, I would completely ignore her, and maybe try in a couple weeks. Kids are so smart, especially girls, so she is probably doing it to get your aggravated! ha!
The best of luck to you. IT will happen....when she is ready!
Take care,
M.
i'm sure there's a lot of historical posts that you could refer to. but just a quick thought---why do you still keep her diaper on when she's awake? put her in underwear and leave it on. (except for naps and nighttime). kids aren't going to "get it" if they are not allowed to have accidents.
good luck!
Doesn't sound like she's ready to be trained yet. Two years old is young although I have heard there are moms who train their child by then, however, I have yet to meet any. I even have a sister-in-law who "swore" that her daughter was trained at 18 months and I'm not sure the tactics she used but you hear these stories all the time when you are training - and you start feeling like "why isn't my kid getting this????" If they are not ready - they are not ready! I'm guessing the teacher shares the same opinion. Why not take the potty seat away and introduce her to the big toilet, either with a smaller attached seat or work with her on the regular seat (one less toilet to clean!) Sometimes when kids are "trained" - making the transition to the large toilet can be a setback. Just keep calm while training, keep introducing her to the toilet, rewards - even for trying, reading, music - anything to keep her wanting to try and don't punish if there is a setback. I understand the desire to move them out of diapers but she doesn't sound ready. My daughter was 2 years 7 months, my son was 3 years 5 months. Good luck!
Slow down and let her do it when SHE is ready. Going to the potty is the only thing the kids have control over. We're constantly telling our kids what to do and how to do it and they have no say. My 2nd child will be 2 in October. We bought him a potty to play with and get accustomed to when he was 20 months old. At first, he was excited about it too. Sometimes he'd tell me "poo poo" (he says poo poo for both urine and bowel movement) and we'll sit there for a long time. Sometimes he'd go and sometimes nothing. Now, he no longer shows interest in it. I learned from my first child to not force the issue. My oldest use to get so upset and scared if he would have an accident because we wanted to get him potty trained fast. Phyisologically, kids are not ready for potty training until after 2yrs old. Plus, I don't think it's because she's your own kid. Every child is different. My 3 boys are completely different from each other so it's like starting new with each kid.
It does get frustrating when your child becomes of age where you want to send them to a school and they won't accept kids who are not potty trained. That was why we rushed our first child. You might (before that situation comes about) maybe send her to a daycare or preschool where it's not required to be potty trained. She might see and learn from the other kids.
Has your daughter hit any other milestones in between? Or has anything else major happened? I ask because when my son was 2 1/2 he went on the potty about a dozen times, for both needs. Then we moved. He's now 2 years and 9 months and refuses to go on the potty. He'll tell me that he's pooping, and then run from me when I ask if he wants to sit on the potty. I have also tried training pants and big boy underwear. I'm just backing off for now and we'll try again when he's adjusted. Good luck to you!
