Homeschooling Kindergarten

Updated on August 09, 2011
M.E. asks from Aurora, IL
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I have a bright 5.5 year old with a November birthday, who should be starting kindergarten next year. I am a public school teacher with a masters in reading, and I've been working with him since he was attending preschool 2 days a week. He can now read, write, and understand math concepts at a first grade level.

I have been working part-time since he was born, to keep my tenure, seniority, and certification current as well as supplement my husband's income. I sent him to preschool while I worked, and homeschooled when I came home. However, now that he is getting into full-day kindergarten, I don't know what to do.

I loved homeschooling him and would love to continue, especially through the critical primary years. However this year I am teaching kindergarten (not at his school unfortunately) so I will need to put more hours in. I'm afraid if I send him to kindergarten he will either: a. be bored and unchallenged and lose his love of learning, or b. love school and not want to homeschool ever again.

Is it beneficial to send a child to school 1/2 the time and homeschool the other half of the day? Or is it better and more consistent to pick one or the other?

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R.J.

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A thousand years ago, long before there was a "term" for it... my mum "afterschooled" us.

At least 90% of what I know, how I learned to learn, I learned from my mother.

Back then, school was only 5 or 6 hours long. We were home by 1 or 2 pm, and then the afternoons and evenings were hers. What we did didn't look like school. There were no worksheets, lessons, papers, or set aside time. We read (actually dodging books winged at us from time to time, and that's not a metaphor), we travelled, we explored, we went on field trips, had dinner parties full of interesting people, were signed up for outside classes/activities, we TALKED; in the car, at the table, on the living room rug, in lines, on bleachers and beds, in tents and libraries, on pool decks and hiking trails.

Excluding 4 years (2 separate 2 year stints... we moved every 2 years) I learned nothing in school that I hadn't already learned from my mother in greater depth and detail until I got to college. Even then, I've taken courses that I learned at her knee.

I'd planned on doing the same thing with my son, with a fairly minor/major tweak (I'd planned on homeschooling for middleschool). Well... my plans went awry.

First off... the school days had changed since my own school days. His school was 8.5 hours long (8-430), and we had a 30-40 minute commute. He didn't even get HOME until 5pm most days. Then it was meltdown/exhaustion time for him while I cooked. Then dinner/ bath/ bed. Start the next day all over. Morning madness. Then dinner/ bath/ bed. Morning Madness, dinner/ bath/ bed. Days where he had actives we lost entirely. He had no time to PLAY, much less learn. We also had to cut down his activities to ONE, period. More than one was simply too much, and even that one activity came with sacrifices. I only "had" him on weekends. And those started getting booked weeks and months in advance. Games on Sat mornings, bdays or playdates in the afternoon. Some Sundays we had, but most ended up with familial obligations, rotating playdates (since with 30 kids in the class there was a bday almost every saturday afternoon). There was just no TIME. And what little there was was filled with homework that caused meltdown after meltdown (my son was reading at a 4th grade level at age 3... but handwriting was torturous for him. Not dysgraphic, just physically painful coupled with adhd+boredom from busywork. Typing wasn't allowed, and the worksheets took him 1-2 hours to complete, and we had 10 to do each week).

Secondly... he lost his love for learning. He'd been in preschool and had been BURSTING at the seams to share what he was learning every day. The whole world was an adventure. By xmas break during K he'd wave and smile at his friends as he got off the bus, climb into the car still waving, wait till they were out of sight and just crumple. Bawling his eyes out. Absolutely miserable. He was BORED out of his mind. He loved his teacher (she was amazing), loved his classmates (raging extrovert, my son), and HATED school. He'd beg every day not to go back. He wouldn't even LOOK at any of his "works" (he went to montessori preschool, all the lessons/activites are called works) or books, much less pick something up for fun. He started faking being sick. He started MAKING himself sick. His "book" that had all of his school work steadily declined in quality. He started having to miss recess every day (because if you don't finish your work you don't get your "ticket to recess". He was an absolute mess.

((One of my great regrets was not pulling him out during xmas break.))

We had a choice of homeschooling, or paying 15k to get him into the local gifted program. Now, my son isn't HG, or PG, just normal old gifted that comes along with being ADHD. The school would have been amazing, and he loved the tour there (the kids had a 15 minute break every hour between classes and were encourage to run/ do cartwheels/ play with rocks going from class to class, were encouraged to ask as many off the wall Qs as they liked, could type their work or write it, go to the bathroom as often as they needed, did whatever level work they needed. Amaaaazing. School. We just didn't have the money for it. Theoretically possible to acquire, but difficult to say the least. So we figured we'd try homeschooling for a year and see how it went.

The first 6 months were pretty awful. Kiddo had meltdowns at anything that even LOOKED like it MIGHT involve learning. (Talk about heartbreaking, he didn't even want to learn new games). It took 6 solid months to undo most of the damage. 6 months before he'd ask questions, or answer in more than one word. My bright, curious little guy had just been crushed.

But by the end of the year, we were pretty good. So we kept at it. 4 years in, we're GREAT.

As a "why we started HS'ing" answer... ours is pretty common. Bad first year. Crushed kid. It caught me completely by surprise. And the biggest mistake I made was keeping him in school. But I don't think it was a mistake to send him in the first place.

The thing is... my son was in preschool 5 hours a day, 4 days a week. We had TONS of time for learning and play and family with that schedule. So as far as being in school half the time... that was a PHENOM choice for us. 8.5 hours a day of learning 20 letters, 10 numbers, 5 colors (the end of year goals), that he already knew? Dreadful choice.

Does my son miss the classroom / recess setting of preschool & awayschool? Often. He LOVES being surrounded by people. So I have to/ choose to set up his daily schedule so that is DOES include a lot of other people time. We're really lucky, in our area, that's pretty easy. There are over 20,000 registered homeschoolers in the Greater Seattle (SEA+Eastside+Northside) area... so there are tons of daytime classes, camps, and activities. Does he ask to go back to awayschool? Sometimes, absolutely. (He also asks to have cake for breakfast, drive the car, and make explosives. Most of the time, I say no.

How I TRY to set up his schedule is for him to have 2-4 hours a day of outside classes/ activities. That way he gets his people fix/ time to learn to interact & take instruction from people other than myself and out from under my eye. IF THERE WAS a school option that was only 4 hours a day long, I'd gladly send him. ((God, I'd really love for a language immersion 4 hour school as long as I'm wishing)). There isn't. So I piecemeal it.

Your fears are valid. Will they happen? Maybe, maybe not. But whether or not she's in awayschool or purely homeschooled... there's no reason NOT to keep up what you've already been doing as long as you've both got the TIME to.

Just my .02

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K.W.

answers from Seattle on

Most homeschoolers outsource certain aspects of homeschooling. Some send their kids to swim lessons, for example. Or get tutoring in specific subjects. Or join sports.

The only thing common to homeschoolers, as far as I can tell, is an attitude that the parents have final authority over their children's education. The extra teachers simply support the parent's plan for education. For example, the swim teacher is supporting the parent's goal for their children to learn how to swim. This differs from many public school situations, in which the parents are expected to support the teacher's plan for education.

However, you can attend public school, full or part time, with a homeschooler's attitude. Look at what your child would be doing during the time they would be in school. Do you think that would be helpful? Would you sign your child up for that class if it was offered independently? Do you see benefit? If so, go for it! Fill in the other parts of your child's education during the rest of the day.

Hope that helps.

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C.W.

answers from Allentown on

I'm surprised part-time homeschooling is allowed in IL. I would absolutely LOVE to explore that option for high school, but PA doesn't require schools to permit it.

In the earlier years, I might be afraid that part-time school, when the rest of the kids are in all day, all week, might make a child feel like they're missing out. Who likes to leave a party in the middle? Unless the child REALLY doesn't enjoy it at all, in which case, who wants to sit through half of a miserable party?

Personally, I'd vote for consistency at that age, either way.

As far as the future goes, I have a child who was in public school for K-4 and children who have never been to institutional school. They all romanticize "real" school, regardless of their experience (or lack there of). One day they talk about how much they want to go to school, and the next day they talk about how lucky they are to stay home. They're kids. Fortunately, they have adults around to figure out what's best for them.

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D.W.

answers from Gainesville on

Don't over-think this mom. Send him to school. Let him be a kindergartener. You can and will continue to work with him after school. My son just finished kinder last year and he had homework M-Thurs so you will have ample time to reinforce his skills and love of learning. You can plan enrichment activities.

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J.G.

answers from San Antonio on

Tricky situation. I like Riley's whole take. I can see why Dori says to let school teach him, then you do enrichment activities. If he's at a first grade level, I agree that he might be completely bored. I hear that a lot from very bright kids. They complain that they just had to sit and read their book while the other kids were re-taught what the bright kid already knew. OR they were teacher-helpers who helped read to/with the lower-level kids.

Tricky situation. I hope you weigh all the factors carefully. And if you make a 'wrong' choice, no worries. If he's 5.5 and reading at a 1st grade level, that means you will have no problem getting him caught up if he should for some strange reason fall behind with the public/home school switching-around.

A.J.

answers from Williamsport on

I'm in your boat a bit. We live in a terrible district, can't swing private school this year, and the kindergarten is all day with a sub par curriculum. To me that's just too much idle time tracing basic letters, and my daughter is way past that from private K4 and our home teaching. She's also doing well in piano and wants to start violin, we have her in private French classes, and she won't have time for any of those "extras" if I have her in kindergarten all day and she needs extra learning at home to keep up with good schools. Meanwhile her little European and Canadian peers (our good friends) are getting music and foreign languages IN KINDERGARTEN.
So. I'm probably home schooling to keep the hours shorter and allow for the extras for one more year, and hoping to move to a better district in the next couple of years.

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J.L.

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My daughter is starting pre-K next month and I'm worried about next year. She's 4.5, at a private school, five days p/ week, all day (8:30-2:30), but pulling her out early two days p/ week because she thrives when she has her own creative time. She reads chapter books, writes, adds, subtracts and of course will only learn more in another year's time. Ah! I'm afraid she will be beyond bored when she gets to public Kindergarten.

I'm looking into homeschooling in my area and doing my research now for one year from now.

My question is, can you do half day in public school? I was thinking about public school for K and wondered how much control the parent has in this regard. Different for San Diego, I'm sure, but that was the question I was going to ask the district. Private school, well, I'm paying them so I can pretty much do as I see fit.

I am very afraid of exactly what Riley stated, though, of course, the situation turned around with a lot of guidance, but this love of learning she currently has... I just don't want to mess with a good thing.

No answers here. Just the same question.

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