L.T.
I think if this happened at my house I would sit down with my husband and make a list of ground rules for how to handle the morning. Maybe set up a time-based schedule to help keep each other on track so there is less running around in the morning. Divide child-related chores between the two of you so you both share responsbility. Make a point of getting certain things ready the night before (maybe pack lunches, lay out clothes, etc). If there is another adult in the mix, such as a babysitter for when you go to work, maybe see if she can come earlier to help out. Then I'd sit down with the kids and talk to them about their responsibilities for the morning. I'd also talk about safety and where they are allowed to be and not allowed to be. If they like to wave good-bye to you, allow them to do so from inside the house at the backdoor or a window. Tell them what the consequences will be for not following these rules. I can't imagine how scary that was for you. Best wishes to you.