How Long Can U Be in Love ?

Have you even been on this earth 10 years?

I believe you are not in love with the person but only in love with the idea of the person.

If you have to question love it is not love at all.

Usually these thought linger because the MEMORY of how great it was is better than the REALITY of how great it wasn't!

I still love former boyfriends, most from over 20 years ago. I see them at Christmas gatherings. They're former co-workers too. A couple I could still be in love with if I allowed myself to have those feelings. But I don't. They're both married.

We can control our feelings. When I know that being in love is not appropriate I don't allow myself to think romantic thoughts. I acknowledge the possibility and then stop myself when they arise. I distract myself with something else.

It is good that you are aware that love is best developed over a period of time during which you'll pay attention to the issues that determine whether or not the relationship should be resurrected. I'd focus on not being in love instead of wondering if I am.

Later: I look at "in love" as a romantic and often short lived feeling. I suggest you go for love and bypass the romantic notion. Then you'll be able to be realistic about the relationship.

I am still deeply in love with my first love, Kevin. He was the first man I ever fell in love with, the one who first asked to marry me. The ending of that relationship broke my heart.

After some time, I fell in love again with the man who is now my husband of 16 years and the father of my son.

I have found that I will forever and always deeply love my first love but that it was for the best for both of us that we ended up not being together for a lifetime. We just weren't right for each other and are better off not participating in each others lives. He married another, I married another and we are both so much better off for it.

Maybe it's me but once I give my heart to someone, they tend to keep it. This doesn't mean I don't adore and love my husband, the one who I choose to have in my life. I hope that makes sense...seems like I may have made it too convoluded. I hope i didn't. :-) S.

My Uncle passed away after many years of marriage to my Aunt and after raising three kids. A year after he passed, my Aunt remarried a man she knew from high school. I was surprised until I learned that for all those years he never dated anyone because he felt it wouldn't be fair to them because he was solely in love with my Aunt. True story.

I love someone who lied to me and cheated on me, but also we shared so much and leaned on each other at times. I haven't talked to him in months and I choose not to. My love for him now is not the same as it was, he's no longer "bigger than life" and my rose colored glasses are off. He somehow added something to my life and I'm keeping that.

You're just playing with your own heart, hun. There's a reason why they're exes. I'm not friends with any of my ex's because I find that every little thing that is moving on about them tends to irk you just a little because you had some hope before this "new life". You still hold feelings for anyone you've cared about and being friends with your ex opens and closes wounds over and over . I say cut him off and move on and accept.