How Long Should CIO Method Take...

Well honestly if it is separation anxiety the WORST thing you can do is not go to her and comfort her. If it is just she doesn't want to be put down then a little fussing for 5 minutes is fine but you can't blame her its much more comfortable to be snuggled up in mom's arms then it is to be in a crib.

You're almost there! Don't give up. Most children cry a little at bedtime anyway. CIO took my daughter 5 days and my son 3. You're teaching her to self soothe and you'll never regret it! My nieces ages 12 and 10 cannot go to sleep by themselves because my SIL has always layed down with them. They panic if she tries to leave the room before they're asleep. Trust me - your baby girl will be fine. Good luck! :)

You are most likely in the home stretch. I did this when my youngest was about the same age. He would nurse before bed and all of a sudden stopped falling asleep during that nursing. He cried for 5 days. He is a little over two and still cries on occasion at bedtime, I think most kids go thru episodes like that until they are several yrs old. GL!

if its more than 20 minutes something is wrong. yes she will my son cried himself to sleep till about 3 and couldnt be put to sleep he would fight it too much he was happier crying himself to sleep. relax mom it takes time

It took my daughter a few weeks to get through it. If I remember correctly it was about 2-3 weeks. It felt like an ETERNITY!!! I'm not sure which one of us did more crying. When we first started we'd go in after 5 minutes to pat her on the back and then leave. I found that with my daughter, she needed more time than 5 minutes. She wouldn't calm herself or sleep if we went in every 5 minutes. We started going in in 10 minute increments and that worked, She's a great sleeper and is able to comfort herself. Good luck!

in my experience it takes about at week for it to stop. Just remember that she will remember none of it in the morning.

Oh sounds all too familiar, we just went through this with our baby, same bf routine and all. So heartbreaking and unnerving to listen to. Each child is different, our daughter needed to be left alone. After two weeks of going in every 5-10 minutes, we figured out that it only enraged her even more to the point of making herself sick. So we'd leave her to work on calming herself for 20 minutes then gauge her cry to determine if we needed to go into calm her. 9 out of 10 times she did it herself! We have since put a glow sea horse that plays quiet music in with her and she loves it. Now a month after all that I can tell you it is worth the nights of tears to have them finally go to sleep with no drama! You mentioned the most important thing, if there is nothing physically wrong with her then you are doing the right thing. Each kid is so different and responds differently to each method. Trust your instincts, you know her best and hang in there, it will get better!

My second and 3rd cry themselves to sleep. Just a few minutes, but they love it. Once I went in to check on my son when he started crying after first going down quietly, and gave me the stink eye to go away so he could keep crying a bit. Dont' worry, not all kids fall silently to sleep. If she's only crying a few minutes, it's nothing to worry about.

Hi M.,

My 8 month old has been fussier at night as well. She is teething and I think that is the cause of her discomfort. Try Hyland's teething tablets - massage them onto the babies gums and they dissolve away. They are wonderful!!

As far as the CIO method, I just want to share my opinion in case it is something you want to try. I am a huge fan of co-sleeping. I would never let my child CIO. It would break my heart, and a crying baby is in need of something - usually connection with mom or dad. So instead, our daughters sleep with us. They are 2.5 years old and 8 months old, and they usually sleep so soundly, I often panic and check them for breathing. We love our family bed and our girls are very secure and rarely cry about anything.

Anyway, co-sleeping is NOT for everyone, but if you want to read more about it, google 'attachment parenting'.

Good luck with whatever you choose,
L.

With our sons, it took about a week. But with our daughter, as with my husband's sister when she was a little girl, she needs to cry just to get extra emotion out of her system before she can fall asleep. And if we try and soothe her, the process just takes longer. She WANTS to cry so she can feel calm. Weird, I know, but that's the way she is.

If she's never cried like that in the past, she'll probably stop soon (within the next few days). If she's like my little one, she might just need to cry to calm herself down. Sounds counterproductive, doesn't it? But it works for my little girl.

Good luck!

who ever came up with the cry it out ____@____.com doesnt have kids, if the child is crying, pick them up.dont just pat them on the back and leave them in bed because some "expert" decided thats what you should do ! of course the child is going through seperation axiety, you would be anxious too, if the person that wipes your bottom isnt within hearing distance ! if child experts were always right, then we would have no need at all the ask other mothers for advice, now would we ?
K. h.

When I did CIO with my daughter, it took about a week. Hang in there. It's hard in the beginning, but very worth it when you get through.

My sister always cried herself to sleep. It's what she did.
If you tried to comfort her, she'd just start right up when you put her down.
It takes time...
Don't sweat it.
Sometimes it's what they do.
LBC

Every child is different. I think this is one of the hardest parts of being a parent.

However, since the amount of time she is crying is going down this is a good sign. I will also warn you that childrent that learn to fall alseep on their own, can eventually need to do this all again. Our daughter who started sleeping through the night at 2 months old. We did the put her to bed on her own part at 6 months, and she cried and we sat in the hall together. It didn't take her long. (There is an old show called Mad About You, that did a great episode on this.) However, when she would have growth spurts we would have a harder time getting her to sleep and issues with waking up at night. This is still true with her and she is almost 11 years old.

The CIO never worked with my son. We tried, and I knew there was something wrong. The way he cried was just worse. It turned out, he had sleep apnea, which we didn't know until he was 24 months old. I just knew something wasn't right. He didn't learn to sleep alone and all through the night until he was aobut 3, but he got there. He is 5.5 today, and sleeps great.

Hang in there!