I was reading my monthly magazine last night. Normally I just flip through the magazine because honestly it was an Xmas gift from my boss and I dont like the magazine (Working Mother)..seems to be more WORK driven than family/child driven..ok back to the question.
One of the pages said that if you have trouble sleeping 52% of working mothers will have a glass of wine before bed. That seemed really high to me. Although I do dabble on Friday and saturday (sometime sunday) with a few cocktails, I never drink during the week....I wouldnt be able to get out of bed...Im just 'dumb' the next day. so How much do YOU drink during the week (Mon-Friday)? I just feel like this magazine is wrong...52% seems too high.
WOW...great responses. I will keep doing tallies on this question. I would check the average about every 7 or 10 mins.....With myself included after averaging the yes's and the no's I CONSTISTANTLY has anywhere from a 42-48% average of people that dabble in the alcolhol gods during the week....guess the magazine wasnt TOO far off...but my average NEVER went over 48% and never under 40%. :)
Gosh all this work..I think I need a drink :):) LOL Thanks ladies!! :)
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T.N.
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Didn't drink at all when my kids were young. Now I'm down to two teenagers in the house I actually have a couple beers nearly every night while cooking dinner. Frequently go out to lunch with my guy or a sister and have some then too.
(So next time you hear me complaining about the weight not coming off as fast as I'd like, y'all can say, well DUH!)
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I love a nice glass of wine every now and then. If it has been a rough day then I will have a glass of wine or a beer, but ONLY after all the kids are in bed. My fav. thing is to sit in the bathtub and have my wine while hubby sits on the floor and we talk. It seems we get a ton accomplished this way for some reason.
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M.R.
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Almost every day! I need it to cope with all the crazy people that live with me!
Seriously tho I have found that I am in love with LLANO Sweet Red wine. Yum yum yum
I have a higher tolerance for wine tho so I could probably drink a whole bottle and barely feel buzzed. Unless I drank it on an empty stomach.
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L.A.
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Our daughter is now in college. When she was home we really did not drink very much. I remember we had a 6 pack in the fridge for a year one time..
I guess I felt like I needed to be able to handle anything that came up. It was just not something that was important or needed.
But once she was up at college!!! We have a drink a few times a week. We stop for a drink just for fun! We go to a movie theater that serves drinks and dinner.. Going tonight as a matter of fact. to a free movie! Wed night date! Woo Hoo!
We post on FB we are having a Cubra Libra, White Russian, wine, sangria.. and she comments we have turned into "drunkards".. She is such a grandma.. She turns 21 this summer and has been researching cocktails so she is not disappointed with her first alcoholic beverage..
So maybe she will join us at some point.. That will be completely different!
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K.H.
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I agree - 52% does seem high. I'm in the same boat with you in that I don't drink during the week and even on most weekends. I have my son during the week and every other weekend so if I do drink at all it's saved for the weekends I don't have him. I also don't keep any type of alcohol in my house. I also know most of my other working mother friends don't drink during the week and like me don't have trouble sleeping because between working and the family we're all exhausted by days end. :-)
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R.J.
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I'm actually the opposite of you... when I drink I wake up early and want to go work out/ get my house clean/ am just generally FAR more on the ball.
That said, I rarely drink these days. Um... Um... Split a bottle with my brother in early March I think?
Now... I do drink more AND less given the situation. I've gone years without drinking, and I've had wine with lunch and dinner every day for months (Italy, I'm also walking everywhere... it's burned off in no time flat). When I have houseguests I drink more often, when I have my military friends round and about on leave I drink more often.
I have a crazy high tolerance for alcohol (blame the scots). During my heavy drinking years before kids I could drop a grand in the french quarter on alcohol alone, for myself, in a weekend. I'd split a bottle of, not wine, but hard alcohol. 15-20 shots (about 5-6 shots an hour) and only a mild buzz. THESE days, I like keeping my tolerance low. I like feeling warm after just 1 or 2 glasses of wine.
I should probably drink more often, because my days after are so much more productive (I've only been hungover 3 times in my life) but I don't.
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L.S.
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I rarely drink in the week... I like you have the worst time getting out of bed if I had even one drink on a work night.
But I am a weekend warrior... I usually have several social events on the weekends... dinner at a friends, poker nights, picnics, etc... and all of my friends are drinkers...So I guess I make up for over the weekend! :-)
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T.S.
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I often have wine with dinner during the week; and the weekends are even more "fun", lol.
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L.U.
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I don't drink at all.
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S.J.
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I can't remember the last time I drank during the week. I am not opposed to it, just never really crosses my mind as something to do. I will occassionally have a glass of wine (or two=) at dinner with my husband on the weekends. But, even this is usually only once a month or so.
A hot bath in our jacuzi tub knocks me right out! I suppose I could add some wine next time!
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K.B.
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Both Hubby and I have either one glass of wine OR one beer every night. Usually it is with dinner, sometimes it is after we put our daughter to bed and we have "us" time sitting infront of the TV, talk and having a glass of something. On Mondays I am in a Kickball league and a bar sponsers us so those nights I have 2-3 beers when we hang at the bar afterwards.
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S.K.
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Im one of the few it seems on this post that will have a drink a night sometimes 2. I really like to have a beer while cooking. And whats after all this after the kids go to bed. Maybe if you planned on indulging after the kids go to bed and end up not able to care for them if something may arise. I do not get buzzed or drunk but 2-3 times a year but I really do enjoy that beer while I prepare dinner. I dont think that an alocholic beverage is something to hide from your children. My kids will have little sips here and there and im not going to make a big deal out of it so it doesnt become a big deal as they get older. Ok off topic. I am in the 52% but its not to help me sleep its because I enjoy it and find it relaxing. I also quit smoking cigarrettes about 6 years ago so maybe its my "thing"
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I rarely ever drink. Sometimes at a holiday or special even but not too often. Probably I drink less than one drink a month. It just doesn't agree with me (upset stomach).
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A.G.
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I try to have at least a glass a day, I never feel bad the next day after a glass of wine.
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C.M.
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We have wine every night... sometimes we will have a beer with dinner, if one of us had a long day, but when we watch our shows at night, we have a glass of wine!
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K.P.
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I have a glass of wine every night with my husband. At the end of a very long day, we kick our feet up on the couch with a nice glass of wine and catch-up!
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S.M.
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I never have, at all. I admit I'm curious what it feels like. But I don't understand why people would want to alter their level of conscienceness with their kids in the house.
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R.D.
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I used to drink every evening... one cocktail while I was cooking dinner, one cocktail after the kids went to bed. Once my fiance admitted to having alcoholism in his family (and dare I say, is a self-admitting functioning alcoholic), we don't drink every night anymore. Every so often on the weekend we'll have a drink if we're with friends drinking, but we don't drink near as much anymore. I still sneak in that one cocktail while I'm making dinner if my guy isn't home yet, but I don't do it around him out of respect for him not trying to drink :)
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I drink once a year, and is more like a tradition then other. We have this special Mexican drink that my family have drink in New Years for many years. Other then that I don't drink.
I honestly find drinking wine some kind of sophisticated and I would love know about wine and have one glass here and there but alcohol and me just don't do a good match, it does put me to sleep but also gives me headache and upset stomach =(
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K.C.
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If I open a bottle of wine, I'll have a glass a night until the bottle is finished. It could take up to a week to finish off just one bottle. So for that week, I'd be drinking during the week, not just the weekend. Then I could go for weeks without a drop. I enjoy the occasional glass of wine, but I know many, many people who have a glass each and every single night of their adult lives, for the health benefits, for pleasure, for whatever reason. I have no problem with that... it's legal and enjoyable. I also think there's also a difference between having a glass of wine before bed and drinking so much you can't get out of bed the next morning...one is totally under control and the other is a problem. One glass of wine wouldn't affect me the next day at all - one *bottle* of wine, however...well, I've never done that, so I don't know.
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M.R.
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I rarely drink during the week, if ever. I have nothing against it, I just personally have no need/desire for it. I may have a beer with a meal every once in a while but I can count the number of times I've had a drink in the last year on one hand.
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J.G.
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I may be an exception but I maybe have 1 glass of wine a month? On a special occasion or "as desperately needed".
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C.N.
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It varies - sometimes I'll have a couple of beers every day for a while, then not have any for a while.
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R.D.
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I drink often, but not a lot at one time. I have a glass of wine (as in ONE) at night after my son goes to bed, or occasionally with my mom. I drink because I like the taste of wine, not because I am trying to get a buzz or help me sleep. That's why I keep it at one. Rarely do I drink two, and then it is over the course of many hours. I also like a good beer now and then. Again, keeping it at one.
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A.D.
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DH and I go through phases we enjoy a glass of wine before bed. Just becuase we enjoy it, not because we have trouble sleeping. I'm cutting back now just because I'm trying to avoid extra calories. So I'll probably only have a glass Fri and/or Sat night, but I'd be fine skipping it too since I'm starting to count calories.
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J.B.
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I don't drink during the week. I also don't use alcohol to go to sleep, ever. Alcohol doesn't allow for proper cycling during sleep. Although it may seem to help you get to sleep it does nothing for the quality of your sleep.
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J.L.
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I am a big wine drinker when entertaining or going out for dinner. If I am out maybe 2-3 glasses of wine. At home maybe 4.
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A.G.
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I am much like Kristin C., I might open a bottle of wine on monday and have a glass a night until its gone. However i rarely have more than 3 glasses a week -unless there is a celebration of some sort than i might make it 4 glasses for the week
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A.S.
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I hardly drink at all.
I think I have had 3 beers/mixed drinks in the last year.
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R.R.
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I've started drinking these pre-mixed Daily's Margarita's that you pop in your freezer, and then they are ready to go. YUM! I usually have on maybe 3 nights out of the week. I only drink one drink per night because I'm a lightweight.
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A.C.
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1 glass of wine is not going to get you drunk or alter your "state of consciousness", and it's said that 1 glass of red wine a night is actually healthy for heart. That said, I feel like a total unsophisticated goober, but I just don't like wine. I taste them, I can tell what is a "good" wine and why, but I just don't like the taste enough to drink it.
Sometimes my husband will have some wine if I pull it out with a special dinner I'm making, or I'll serve it when having a dinner party. I'm more of a mixed drink kind of girl though, and will have a couple when we are on date night, but really that's about it. I was the bartender AND cook at my birthday party and had 11 without noticing, and realized that I still have to watch myself, even though it's been years. Noone could tell I'd had any, but I felt it for the first time 6 years and told my husband and laid off immediately. I just don't want to get out of control because we both had problems with alcohol in our past. (My late teens in New Orleans had me drinking 2 pints of vodka everyday as the WARM UP before going out to drink...it was just to get me in the mood to dance and drink...and that was 7 days a week for a year. My husband, in his youth, drank 40 beers a day. So we watch carefully to make sure we don't fall into that again. But sticking to the 2 cocktails over dinner on dates works well for us. I view it like cheesecake: tastes nice, feels comfy, but not something I'm going to do often. For drinking a glass of red wine a night though, it is good for you and may calm you, I wouldn't find anything odd about it at all. I just think it's "yucky" tasting, myself.
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S.!.
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Usually Sat we have a few drinks but thats about it. Occasionally we do mamosas (sp.. but it is champaign and orange juice) on weekend mornings. But I always find then I am dragging the rest of the day.
I used to be all about the Captain and Coke, but now I just hate drinking all the extra calaries and again don't like how I feel later on so if I do drink I am drinking Wine Coolers, lol.
Oh ya.. and again, occasionaly, we get silly and get like Mad Dog or Boones Farm just for giggles during the summer time as we sit around the fire.
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T.F.
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We have wine with dinner nightly, of course not to the extreme. We enjoy great wines.
If I have trouble sleeping, my magic trick is 2 Benedryl tablets.
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B.P.
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52% doesn't seem high at all. Some people drink while cooking, others drink with dinner, others (like me) enjoy a drink after my son has gone to bed. It helps me unwind and relax at the end of the day. I read that for a woman, up to 7 drinks a week is "ok". Since I don't go out all that much, even during holidays, I only have maybe 2 drinks. Are you serious that you think you can't get out of bed if you have a drink the night before?
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D.P.
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I'm OK in the morning if I have O. glass at night--but I rarely do. Maybe 2-3 days per month. (Including weekends.)
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K.I.
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I am 33 yrs old and don't really drink during the week, not even really on the weekends either....we are more the kind of people who will have a drink if we do go out to a nice dinner or buy some beer during football/baseball season for the weekends and that's about it.
In the summer it is a different story! I enjoy making up and trying new cocktails and just hanging out by the pool! So during the summer I guess that I will probably drink on average 1-2x during the week and at least 1x on the weekend...? This is a rough estimate but I know for a fact that I am more of a drinker in the summer time!
~There are 6 bottles of BudLight in my fridge from an 18 pk we bought when we had company over...about 4 months ago!
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3.B.
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I'm glad to hear I'm not alone LOL. I try to keep it to weekends. But sometimes during the week, I just need a drink or two. I don't get "trashed" but it helps to sip on some wine or a beer to just mellow out. While I'm a SAHM, I work just as hard or harder as I did before the babies! And when you're home all day with kids and have very little adult interaction, sometimes you just need an "escape" As long as you don't start NEEDING a drink, I think its fine.
But to answer your question, yes I do drink a few during the week sometimes.
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K.M.
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I am not a working mother, but I have a drink more in the summer about 2x a week depending. I have a rum and coke or a smirnoff or glass of wine just depends on my mood and who is home, never drink if I am the only adult for sure!
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M.B.
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During the week versus the weekend is no different for me. I don't work and my husband doesn't have weekends off, so it's all the same. I don't get enough sleep... recently I have discovered that it DOES help me sleep, so maybe once or twice a week I'll have some drinks. I will have a beer or two or three so I can unwind and sleep. If I have wine, NEVER more than two glasses (maybe I'm pouring more than 5 oz- seems to effect me more than beer). I never get "drunk"- I hate that feeling, and it would NOT help me sleep, I'd feel too uncomfortable. Only do this late at night if at all. WAY after the kids go to sleep.
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A.W.
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I have a couple of drinks on Wed while I watch Survivor on tv! AFTER kids are in bed!
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C.O.
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i don't drink at all - I can't remember the last time I had a drink. When I can't sleep - I usually fix myself a cup of hot chocolate or tea....I keep the lights low, no TV - and read.
When I lived in Europe - the women there told me to have a glass of wine or brandy before I went to bed - it would "relax" me - I was in a HORRIBLE marriage - so I think ONE wouldn't have done it for me! (LOL!) Any way - one glass of wine doesn't sound out of "norm" - a bottle - yeah - that's out of norm. But I know GFs who have a glass of wine EVERY NIGHT. Just not me.
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E.P.
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I just don't drink - it makes me sick. Even 2 oz of wine will give me a terrible headache the next day (like I've been out drinking all night). I have never been drunk in my life. I will have a 1/2 bottle of beer maybe once a month or less at home. I will order a mixed drink out maybe 1-2 times per year. I might have a very watered down Cosmopolitan at my sister's house once a month or so. I guess I'm just not much of a drinker. I certainly wouldn't be having "several" at home as some people might unless I knew for sure that there was someone who could drive my child to the hospital in an emergency. I just don't like anything that alters how you feel.
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T.B.
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During the week, I generally don't. On the weekends I don't usually either. I may drink once a month and I'll have a few beers or a margarita.
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J.R.
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52% seems reasonable to me; and I bet they really do mean one glass. Not a few cocktails! There's a big difference.
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K.N.
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I have a glass of wine with dinner probably 3 or 4 nights a week. If we go out, I'll have a cocktail, maybe 2. And yes, I've come home after a stressful day and just poured myself a glass of something red to sit and unwind with.
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M.V.
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I can't remember the last time I had a drink...maybe last summer? The older I get, the less it appeals to me.
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V.W.
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I would probably have one daily, except hubby doesn't usually drink it and it tends to 'turn' before I finish a bottle. It is too expensive to buy a bottle and only drink one glass, so I usually wait until we have company to open one.
Hubby prefers beer, so he'll often have a beer or two to unwind before/with/after dinner. I like beer with certain foods (pizza, tacos, etc) but usually prefer wine. So I do without so I don't have to open a bottle that is going to mostly be poured down the sink.
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A.F.
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I don't drink at all most of the time (been pregnant or nursing for most of the last 4 years). My husband will have a glass of wine or a beer almost nightly -- just 1 though. I could see other people -- working moms included -- doing that too. My sister in law does.
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K.N.
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I know a lot of working moms that have a glass of wine at night. I however, and DH as well don't drink but a few times a year. I had to buy a 6 pack for 1 bottle to use in a recipe and well we split 1 bottle that day and didn't even finish it and the rest are just sitting and I have wine coolers in the fridge left over from new years eve. Seeing as how I'm not yet 30, I think I drink a lot less than most people, parents included that are my age.
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drank like a crazy person back in Germany...got married and had kids...never really drank again...I take a zip and I feel tired and stupid....
Sometimes very rarly I would share a beer with my husband for dinner...
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T.P.
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This fun. For me it depends. I plan to have a glass of wine every night before bed but after I get my daughter together and plan for the next day I go to bed and realize I didn't have my glass of wine. I do have something on the weekend be it wine or some other cute fruity drink. On average I would say that I drink 2 glasses of wine during the week.
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Alcoholism runs in my family so I am not willing to expose myself or my family to the horrible disease. Therefore, I haven't had a sip of alcohol in about 6 years (even at that I've never even had enough to get a buzz from it) and don't intend to ever again. I know a sip of wine here or there may not be bad for some, but I'm not willing to risk it! :0)
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J.S.
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Keep in mind that when articles like that are done, they're likely meaning "a drink" in the very literal sense and counting per serving, not how much a glass is filled up. A single drink is equal to 1.2 tablespoons of pure alcohol.
12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, 1.5 ounces of hard liquor all have the same amount of pure alcohol in them (1.2 TBS). So if you take the article literally and a person has a glass of wine before bed to help wind down, then they're only drinking 5 ounces. That's not enough to get drunk on (aka buzzed or more since "buzzed" is legally drunk). It takes men's bodies about an hour to completely break down a single drink, and it takes women's bodies about two hours. Women who have more than three drinks a day risk causing an alcohol disorder and impaired thinking.
Okay, so with that out of the way, if I have a drink during the week it's only a single drink and it's after the girls have gone to bed. On a weekend it's socially. I don't drink very often at all, maybe once a month but usually less. I'm a social drinker and don't even usually keep anything in the house unless I've received wine as a gift.
I see nothing wrong with the premise of a mom having a glass of wine nightly whether she's a working mom or not. A single drink isn't going to impair her or make her a bad mother. I've been known to share a drink with a neighbor after a particularly rough day. No one was irresponsible or drinking while driving or driving after drinking. The judgmental attitudes about this particular scenario are appalling and shocking to me.
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I'm 53 and don't drink at all, haven't in decades. I don't have anything against it except that I don't like the taste, not even wine. I don't like how it makes me feel, and I shouldn't drink with my meds. However, I have a sister in law, 59, who enjoys one or two glasses of wine a week.
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T.C.
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Very rarely- less than once a year.
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L.L.
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Never have i'm 31 & can't stand the feeling of alcohol going down my throat nor the smell
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M.M.
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I don't drink during the week anymore because my hubby is working nights. When he and I are both on days, we would have an "after dinner drink" just to unwind a bit. We step it up a bit on the weekends :)
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J.E.
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I do NOT drink. Maybe once a year or every couple years, I have a caesar with dinner, but alcohol goes straight to my head and gives me anxiety.
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J.R.
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I used to get smashed about once a month-three beers and sometimes a shot of Grey Goose. Wine gives me massive headaches if I have more than one glass, so I only have one glass on Thanksgiving (FIL makes a delicious blackberry wine). But for the past two years I've either been pregnant or nursing, so I'm looking forward to having those beers again this weekend!
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N.K.
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I don't drink much, period. I am more of a social drinker but I practice caution. I don't think a glass of wine is a big deal though. I will sometimes have a glass of red wine or sangria at a dinner party or for lunch with co-workers when we decide to splurge and spoil ourselves, and it doesn't make me tipsy -- at ALL. I grew up in Europe and it is customary for people to drink wine DAILY with their meals for dinner. All of my family members do it and they aren't stumbling around the kitchen, even after 3-4 glasses of wine in one night. It's wine we're talking about here, not moonshine. I still think a glass of wine is a healthier alternative than say, a sleeping pill which can have all kinds of side effects. Some people smoke a cigarette, others smoke pot. I have drank a glass of Jack Daniels on the rocks at night and gone to work the next morning without issue. The key is moderation and drinking slowly, not downing shots. You want to have a drink or two, not drink till you're dancing on tabletops and stripping down for the neighbors.
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H.D.
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The last time I had a drink was my work Xmas party (my co-workers thought it was funny to see me holding a drink b/c they've never seen it before!). I guess I pretty much stopped drinking when I tried to get pregnant ~ I didn't drink the entire 8 mo. it took me to get pregnant w/ my 1st, through my entire pregnancy, or much after b/c I attempted breast feeding. It took 4 years to get pregnant w/ my 2nd. I didn't want to risk drinking while pregnant, so I didn't drink while we tried. So, no I don't drink on weeknights to wind down/sleep.