How Much Time Does Your Husband Spend with Your Child on Weekdays?

I think family time is important. My husband works 10 minutes from home and usually works 9-5:30. He spends time with the kids in the evening and some time in the morning. He also works from home one day a week so we all get to have lunch with him those days. Plus the kids know that they can pop in on daddy in the afternoon when he is working at home for a quick hug. We have it pretty good with his work situation. Daddy time is vital for kids.

My husband is gone before the kids wake up in the morning and unfortunately arrives about an hour (if we're lucky) before they go to bed. I feed the kids dinner earlier, then cook a meal for us while he is getting them in bed. I definitely do not think this is the ideal situation, but for us, it is what it is & it works. My husband has just ALWAYS had a long commute (it's about 1.25 hrs each way at the moment). Honestly, we're all so used to it now. While I wish he were around more during the week, he's SO great with them on the weekends: he gets up early & makes them breakfast, takes them for special treats, plays a lot with them, etc. I don't think that THEY think anything is lacking during the week, which is great. I'm hoping that as they get holder, my husband's physical time commitment to the office lessens a bit, but we'll see. So I guess what I am saying is that while it really stinks to have so little daddy/kid time during the week, it is do-able & your kids will still be happy, especially on the weekends when dad is around more to spoil them rotten. :)

My husband spends every waking second with DD during the week! If she is up before he leaves, he gives her some playtime, and when he comes home, spends 30 minutes before dinner and after before her bedtime. We are truly blessed. An involved Daddy rocks!

you lucky lucky ladies.

a dad that is --Willing-- to spend that one on one time with time kids and make it count will still find a way to make their kids feel special even with a longer commute

an aquaintance just today commented now how involved my DH is will all his civic groups and sports groups. and my response ( in my head) was i wish he would put that much time into his family. but then when his is home he's on his laptop and pretty much ignores them until 10 mins before bed when he puts in his "quality time" riling them all up. sorry to be a downer, but this post and all the nice responses so far have really opened my eyes to how far OFF our family has really gotten.

be sure to hug your hubbs extra hard tonight.

My husband works a very early workday. So hes gone when we get up.
But, He gets our son off the bus, helps with homework, spends time with him most of the evening, does shower duty and puts him to bed every night (unless he's traveling).
So they get a LOT of father/son time every day. I'd estimate at least 4 hours.
Keep in mind though that even an hour or so of good quality time CAN be "enough" if you make good use of it.

About the same as yours...DH just got switched to 9-6 shift as well (used to be 12-9 so this was an improvement)....and he only has 10 minute drive. So about an hour in the morning (but mostly while he's getting ready, packing lunch, etc). And then about 1.5 hour of more quality time at night with play, baths, bedtime. Still not as much as he/we'd like, but dude's gotta work and the kids have to sleep.

DH returns home between 5:30-6PM and we eat dinner as a family, and he usually cooks with DD at his heels. She loves to help. He does bath 1/2 the time, as well as books and tooth brushing. He spends a good part of his night with her til her bedtime and on weekends he will often get up with her and let me sleep in.

Many is the morning that she will be waking when he is leaving so we don't get breakfast time during the week.

When the older kids were home, he'd wake up early to make sure they woke up and got out the door and get some time with them that way. Again, we usually eat dinner as a family and with teens that is often the best QT we had during the week.

How much less time would he have? Would there be any way to split the difference? Could he go to work earlier to have more PM time? Friend of mine is at work at 6:30AM to be home by 4PM.

right now my husband is off work at 2pm and so he plays with them from 3pm until 8pm when they go to bed. Soon he will be working 6am to 6pm 4 days on 3 days off. So, when that happens, he will play with them from 7 to 8pm and as much as he can on his days off. We love family time also and my husband LOVES to play with our kids so it's nice for me because then I can make dinner and get other stuff done. I do work part time during school hours

Roughly 3 hours. He's home at 6 and they go to bed at 9. Much of that time is spent cooking or driving someone somewhere but he's here.

My guy is the sole earner right now, and works some longer hours by necessity of the job--but the job is a good one. That being the case, they do get about an hour and a half or so together....usually during dinner and then some time afterward before bed. That's when the two of them do their thing-- often some rough and tumble stuff. It's good for them to get silly together. They do spend quite a bit of time together on the weekend, too and we trade off doing bedtime stories with him. Overall, works well.

My husband's work schedule constantly changes in that some days he works early morning and other days until late evening. His commute is only 7 minutes from door to door. That said, all and all, my husband spends at least a few hours a day with our son. Less on the days where he has the late shift, but even on those days, his lunch is in the evening, so my husband can come home and eat with us..

For us, although my husband took a lower paying job so that he could be closer to home, the trade off in family time has been priceless.. It's something that no amount of money can buy.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

My hubby doesn't get to spend much time with them during the week. He has an hour commute. He tries to be home for dinner every night, but frequently he comes in when we are finishing. He will then spend an hour with them getting them to bed, but because of this, their 7:30 bedtime has turned into 8:30. He occasionally sees them in the morning, but usually not. He also travels.

Hubby spends a lot of time with them on the weekend.

None in the morning (gone too early) and 1 hour each evening, but it's time he wants to eat and relax. I get that; he's exhausted. I am a SAHM so I am with them all day.

Weekends I try to stay at home too because him watching all of them (while trying to rest up for the week) is tough. But sometimes I need to run to the food store and it's my only outing alone, so I enjoy it.

My hubby is with DD for some very important time during the day. I leave for work before anyone wakes up, so he wakes her and gets her off to school. Then he picks her up from school and brings her home to the babysitter and then goes to work. I get home one hour before bedtime. I am jealous beyond belief.

He does homework with her in the morning. He volunteers in class one hour a week. He goes on every field trip. He knows all of her classmates' names and knows the parents better than I do. Luckily, Daisy Scouts is letting me get some field trip time in with my daughter.

My husband works for his family business, 3 minutes away. We are so blessed that we can live near where he works, yet live in a nice place. We live in a small town, about an 1 1/2 hours from DC. We see him in the morning, he comes home for lunch 4 out of 5 days, and is usually home by 5 in the evenings.

There are always challenges though... Because his name is on the sign, so to speak, he brings his work home with him; works on his computer or phone. He gets calls on the weekends, and if there is a problem, he usually is involved in the solution. He also travels for work, too.

We also live on a farm, and we are constantly improving structures (working on a shed roof now), making hay in the summer months, or taking care of our animals. Some of these things the kids can do with us, usually they are around us playing outside.

So while hubby is close most of the time, his time at home is not always a planned activity to entertain the kiddos. Sometimes it's just being "around".

I am a firm believer that it isn't about the amount of time the kids are spending with dad, but about the quality of that time. It sounds like, though many of that dads mentioned here are not home a lot during the week (when the kids are awake), they are available, and doing their best to nurture their children with the limited time they have.

We mustn't forget that our husbands sacrifice their family time to provide for our families, which is very possibly the top way that they, as men, show their love.

(***I don't agree with Donna S. I thought it was a little judgmental. There are always pros and cons to any decision you make, and it sounds like it is one that you and your husband are considering while weighing the options and repercussions. You'll do what's right for your family and make the best of it! Good luck to you!)

My husband works so much I never get to c him either. He gets home every night by 7 in time to check homework. So as really cause they miss him so much! Me too! Good luck to u! Maybe don't move now if your child depends on it. U only have one chance they grow so fast!

My husband typically spends a few hours a day. The time he has while my son is awake, he spends with him. I would say 2 hours of complete one on one time. The other time is in and out of playing and doing other things. He puts him to bed every night. Well, most nights. My husband works literally a few blocks away. He is almost always home by 5:30. My son has a later bedtime of 9:30. (We struggled with him waking up at 4 am, when he went to bed earlier.) That gives my son a little more time then many kids.

Oh, and the weekends it's most of the time. We do a lot as a family, and they get in a lot of "guy time."

2-4 hours

He's always gone before they wake up. And he gets off work when they're done for the day, so each day can be different. (He's a dump truck driver.) Sometimes he even has to work Saturdays. But normally the weekend is all about Daddy being home. We go shopping as a family and go somewhere like the park. We also go out to eat every Saturday night.

We're glued to each other. :) He's either at work or at home with us.

My husband works from 3:00pm until 11:30pm. He spends about 30 minutes with the kids in the morning before they go to school. He sees them one day a week when they come home for lunch. He phones at bedtime to say goodnight. On the weekends he spends a couple of hours in the evening with them. He is a homebody, so while the kids and I are out doing stuff during the day on weekends he stays at home. When he is on holidays he usually spends most of the time with us because I make plans for him.

Hi, H.:

Why would you want to destroy your family like that?
Are you bored?
Change may cause you to think about a divorce.
Appreciate what you have instead of wanting more!

Good luck.
D.