Read "How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk" This book deals with how to validate our children's emotions so they don't get out of control. You may never completely do away with temper tantrums as they are a developmental reality. They will come to an end when your son develops the emotional tools to control his impulses, however you can aide in the process. This book explains how we as parents often talk to the behavior and not the emotions behind it. It's amazing how simple acknowledging what the child is feeling, giving the emotion a name ("I know it's frustrating when..." "It makes you angry when"..."You feel sad when"...), giving them the fantasy of what they want ("Wouldn't it be great if we could play with toys all day and we didn't have to take baths ever"...or whatever your issue is). I know it seems counterintuitive, but it works so well it's scary, and best of all it requires no punishment or yelling. It simply requires talking to your child, validating their experience and giving them the words to understand what they are feeling and most of all letting them know that whatever they feel is ok and that you understand. It's amazing what can happen when we respect the fact that our kids are people and they have emotions just as we do. We don't appreciate it when we have a bad day and others tell us to "Get over it". When we get angry with our children for being angry we are in fact telling them the same thing. It's important to understand that their emotions are as important, valid and real as ours are; so we teach them to acknowledge what they are feeling and that it's ok and then we can redirect that energy from throwing to talking. GoodLuck, I've been where you are. This book was a life saver.