How to Help a Child Be Motivated to Do Their Classwork

Updated on April 20, 2014
M.G. asks from Fairfield, CA
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I'm reaching out to all you parents for thoughts and ideas on our situation. My son is 7, autistic and in the 1st grade. He attends a self-contained classroom and has for years. His class is quite small about 10 students with one head teacher and 2 para educators. This past week he has been refusing to do all classwork. He is given many chances to participate and complete his work. He sits out of all recesses and fun activities. Any and all classwork he does not complete comes home as part of his homework. This includes any sentences he's been given to write ie: "I will not tip my chair." I've spoken at great length with the teacher about possible solutions and I am at a loss. It is apparent that of course I can get him to do his work at home because I am able to give him complete 1:1 attention. He completes his work independently but of course I am there to help him re-read things and go over things in case he gets overwhelmed.

In our home my children get to enjoy 2 hours of screen time once any chores and homework is completed. In spite of his refusal to do work at school being that he does finish it at home I do allow him his screen time. As far as I'm concerned he completed exactly what he is required to do at home and in the case of his work yesterday did 8 sheets of work so I felt he did earn his screen time. However, the teacher has asked me if I can, today and any other day he brings home his classwork, completely take away all of his screen time. I can see the point in doing this and I'm thinking of possibly doing this, however I am unsure if he will get the point. I will talk with him about this of course to help him understand.

Do any of you know of anything that might help to motivate a child who knows full well how to do the work, is bright, is capable and is stubborn as all get out? I know that his refusal in class is making things difficult for the teacher and paras. I do have to say that it is also becoming a stressful point at home for me as well. I'm not angry at my son for refusing because in his world anger does not make sense in this regard. I am open to hearing all thoughts and opinions on the matter. Please do not take my hesitations in writing to mean I will not support his teachers or his education. I am just a mom who is unsure and have asked all friends and family to no help.

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To answer one of the moms no I did not make up that example that is exactly what he brought home. My son is offered tons of rewards in class for doing his schoolwork. He is set up with a token system as well as others in addition to that. The token system works 1/2 of the time with him as it is. I believe that is due to the rewards not being fully rewarding and yes both his teacher and myself are trying to work on what will truly get his attention to do the work. I am not keen on the sentences myself but I also know they are limited in what they can do as a punishment. I'm also not thrilled about taking away his recess. I believe that is causing further detriment to him and have said as much to his teacher. We at home are going to keep working on the same things we always have considering he is very productive at home. We feel that since in this year of school tons of things have changed(new OTs, new ST after he had the same one since 4 years old, etc.)and the work has not that he is bored and overwhelmed by all the changes. Hopefully he'll have better experiences soon and he'll become motivated naturally in school once he's given work that is challenging for him. We know that teaching an autistic child such as our son is not easy and having a classroom of multiple children isn't an easy thing however part of their job should be to motivate and challenge each and every child so that they can be the best they can be!

Thank you all. :)

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M.S.

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I have to agree that something is going on. What did they change at school? what isn't working? If my child was told to write sentences I would be very angry. Why should something so necessary for life be a punishment?

I would agree that something needs to be changed in his classroom, like the rewards system. The screen time he gets at home may be the time he settles and centers and to take more of that away might be hard on him.

Kids with autism usually have some sensory issues going on as well, and movement is one of the most important things for them. Doesn't his teacher know that by taking away the times he gets to move will make him less able to do with work at his desk? For many kids, mine included, recess is not a "fun" thing to take away; it is a necessary part of the day. Why would I let the school take away the part of his school day that I pay therapists a lot of money for when he isn't in school? Taking away these things might be counterproductive to what they and you are trying to accomplish!

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M.O.

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Sorry, but if there's a problem at school, then enforcement needs to happen at home too. Whether your son loses screen time or something else (dessert, maybe?), he needs to know you take these issues seriously.

I'd also recommend that you investigate if anything happened that triggered this. You don't mention anything about the extent/severity of your son's autism, but for some kids, something we regard as very minor (if someone rearranged the seating in the classroom, for example) can feel like a disaster. It sounds like your son is "on strike." To whatever extent possible, you need to figure out why.

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M.T.

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I am a teaching assistant in a 12:1:3 special ed self contained class. Having him write sentences as punishment for minor behaviors is not appropriate punishment.

It sounds like he needs a written behavioral plan in school, one that allows him to earn tokens for completing tasks and behaving appropriately (like not tipping his chair). Enough tokens earns him something. The duration should be short and breaks or rewards frequent.

Let him earn screen time for completing work and having a good day behaviorally, for tokens earned at school, rather than taking away any screen time for a consequence.

Good luck!

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Maybe try this. Give him a chart in the morning with his subjects on it (you may need to check with the teacher about how to break it up as they may not do every subject every day - especially science, etc.) Have the teacher put a star next to the subject when he completes that assignment. Each star may equal 30 minutes or so of screen time (or however will add up to the 2 hours he is allowed). That way he is EARNING the screen time at school, not having it taken away. It is visual and may help remind him throughout the day.

Good luck!

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V.B.

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I can't speak the to the "why" or how to fix his sudden stubbornness... but I was struck by the example you used. Did you make that up, or is that really an example of an actual thing he was required to do? (write "I will not tip my chair.") THAT is not helpful, in my opinion. I have neurotypical children, and to do that to one of my kids would be like baiting them into misbehavior and rebellion.

As far as restricting screen time at home for unfinished work at school... I can see the benefit in some restrictions there (maybe reduce it from 2 hours to 30 minutes or something?--I'm sure that screen time helps you get through your evening with dinner, right?), but only for actual assignments... not "I will not tip my chair." THAT I would not do. I would discuss that with the teacher and see if there is another way whatever those issues are could be handled. It seems very counter-productive.

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Is he rewarded as school for finishing his work? The loss of recess might not bother him because he does not find it rewarding. Would it reward him if he got some sticker or other item that would also affect home rewards? Such as a sticker at school for doing his work, and then he gets his full reward at home. If he does not get the sticker at school, he only gets half time at home. I don't think you should totally eliminate the home reward because you may just end up with him not doing his homework.

I do agree that the sentences for punishment just do not work. I can tell you that when I was in school, this was a punishment. "I will not talk in class" or 'I will not chew gum in class" 100 times. This did nothing to stop the behavior. The kids just tried to do it again later without getting caught.

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S.L.

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With three teachers and ten students, they should be able to come up with ways to motivate him. Is the work he is assigned challenging but not frustrating?. Does he have any interests, what would he like to learn about? Animals? rocks?, space?, he may do much better reading and writing about what interests him rather than doing 8 pages of worksheets. Math games on the computer are like playing video games, would he like that? There are reading programs online as well. Maybe you can show the teacher what he can accomplish when he is motivated and it will motivate her.

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V.C.

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We have always had the rule, no screen time or playtime until all homework & chores are done. It worked, but my youngest daughter went through a time when she wouldn't do it.

She has ADHD & is extremely bright & capable, but she decided that the class work was "dumb" & wouldn't do it at school. She then brought it home to be done in addition to the homework. Once I talked with her teacher & found out that she wasn't doing classwork (I wondered why she had so much to do at home) he asked that I enforce the rule, even when she did the work at home, because she was suppose to do the classwork in class. She had to sit out recesses at school & was not allowed any screen time at home, could not spend time with friends or any other thing she want to do. This went on for 6 weeks.

Eventually, she decided that doing her work--classwork during school, home work at home & a few chores was worth it to her. Nagging or reminders didn't make a dent in her stubbornness, but once she realized that those privileges had to be earned, by her, & that she was missing a LOT of fun events, she came around. It was a LONG 6 weeks! Good Luck!

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