S.M.
M., I'm so sorry for what your family is going through. My grandma got really sik with cancer when I was a teenager. I don't have a clue about the 5 year old, but I can give you a little advice about helping out the family. My grandma always got so angry because everybody treated her differently after she got sick. Of course things are different and you never know quite what to say, but as much as you can, try to talk to the person the same as you normally would. I can also tell you that everyone in the household is going to be exhausted from worrying and trying to care for the one who is sick. Sometimes it just takes an enormous amount of energy to do things like cook or wash dishes or do laundry. That's if his wife isn't one of those people who HAS to keep busy to cope. Sorry that I couldn't offer you more advice, but I guarantee you that a lot of the other moms on here are going to be able to offer suggestions too. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. Good luck.