Husband Just Filed for Divorce and Looking for a Job

Hi L.,
Well this is not what you asked for, but I felt it heavy on my heart to share.....

There is a 60 day period between the date of filing and the date of finalizing the divorce. Would you two be willing to seek a counselor in that 60 day period; if for nothing else...closure. My friend went through this and PRAISE to GOD...things turned around. I am not trying to give false hope, but what do you have to lose? My heart aches for you and I pray that God will give you wisdom and strength during this incredibly hard time.

L. - I'm so glad you found something! I did notice you talked about daycares & mentioned you live in West Plano....my company, MomCheck (www.momcheck.com) secret shops daycares....and we're working on Plano / Frisco from about now to the end of the year. We're currently hiring MomCheck Agents (secret shoppers). It's not extremely lucrative - it pays $25 per shop, takes about 2-3 hours to complete (tour is about one hour, filling out report is about another hour or so), and you can certainly take your kids!!

Since you're going to be looking for a daycare anyway, it might be worth it to be paid to look, right? If you're interested, first check out our website so you know what we're about - www.momcheck.com - and then if you're interested in becoming a shopper, fill out this survey http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=evJffWBLOW94fWATidy...; & it will get you started through our process.

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I would like to hope that there is a chance for reconciliation for you and your husband. Whether or not you do reconcile, it sounds like you need to get rid of the house. Don't make decisions based on a house. I agree with the other mom, your children really need you not a beautiful kitchen, dining room, master bedroom, etc. Especially during this time, they desperately need your attention and undying affection. Have you talked to your pastor/minister about this matter? Seek counsel from people that routinely counsel people in your situation. Also, many churches have DivorceCare programs that really help people through the grieving process and the companion program is DivorceCare 4 Kids (DC4K). I think it starts as young as 4 y. o. Don't be a slave to a mortgage, prop. insur. and prop. taxes. Focus on your children. I hope I didn't sound harsh, sorry if I did....I'm very sad for your situation and your children, also. Let these Bible verse be your solace. "But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day..." Gen. 50:20. Extremely difficult things happen to us in our lives and just know, that God's plan will prevail. And, He will use it for good and for His divine purpose. May God give you the courage and wisdom to make it through this difficult time.

Hi L.,

I am confused by your request. You say you have little to no job experience and that you could barely afford your house on your husband's salary. What I don't understand is why you think you can get a job that will cover that house AND daycare for the kids, if your husband couldn't and he has the work experience? You didn't say what he did, so perhaps that is the key. But perhaps you should also consider selling the house and moving somewhere less expensive. The kids don't need a fancy house...they need you. So I wouldn't consider working all the time to pay for a house. I don't think children understand that. Unfortunately, I don't know of many out of the home jobs that would give you enough money to cover the house..most I know of are supporting income only. And again, if you try to make it cover the house, you will probably be working harder and longer and spending less time with your children. I am sorry you have to go through all this. Good luck in whatever you do.

I provide at home day care.
go to Activities & Lessons under summer camps.
Maybe I can help with day care. I only have 3 openings.
How old are your children?