I have my daughter in extensive therapy. 2 years ago, my ex had the kids for the summer and then refused to let them come home telling them their mommy was sick in the head. I have custody of the kids and my daughter has these outbursts to where I have been kicked in the head causing head trauma and had items thrown at me in the head, all of this while driving. I have taken her to the er to have her talk to a crisis worker, but she freaks everytime I talk to my boyfriend who is in marine training. She will only let me talk to one of my friends, but I have having her control my life. Every night I have time with just her and me and along with my son. I haven't gone out with friends in over a year cause I am afraid she will have a nervous breakdown. I am so scared for her, What are other things I can do?
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Family therapy. Not just daughter in therapy. Have you spoken with her therapist about this stuff? You can't stop your life over how you fear she will react - it gives her power and she'll keep pitching the fits as long as she gets the results she wants. But you need to talk to her therapist, now - and get your family into therapy.
Dear S.,
I am so sorry to hear about this. How stressful and scary for the both of you and your son as well. Does she have a good relationship with her brother? Perhaps he can reach a part of her that you can't. Is he able to have a heart to heart with her? Is she willing to speak of her father to him? Maybe she is afraid to tell you things in fear that you may become upset with her. I am sure you do have a very good relationship with both of your children, but maybe she is real nervous about getting it out of her system the "normal" way. I will pray for you and your family, this is a very difficult situation.
~ L.
Hello, boy what a tought situation. You said you have in therapy, have you spoken to her therapist about day treatment? It kind of sounds to me like she has a personality disorder. I know what that's like since I have one myself. I want you to know that it's not your fault, that I'm sure you as a mom have not caused this. Is it possible her brain was damaged by the medication at birth? You might also see what kind of pysch meds are possibly available. I personally believe they're not really good for children long term, but maybe you need to get her on something for a while until therapy has a chance to get her back on the right track. I admire your courage, I wish my mother would have realized I had a brain disorder instead of just being a bad child. Also know that most brain disorders are not permananent, usually just the result of something being miswired. There is alot of recovery available. If there's anything I can do to help you, please let me know!
