I can totally relate. My 3 yr old just started preschool and unfortunaltely when I drop him off and pick him, none of his teachers are there. I had questions for them..like is he eating his lunch, how is the potty thing going, etc etc....Well no matter who I asked no one knew anything. Finally I made it a point to pick him up during nap time, got to speak to his teacher. Luckily my son's teacher seems great. But I can relate to unfriendly cold teachers because my oldest has had plenty of those.
The only advice I can give you is speak your mind. This is your child. You have a right to be concerned. Give him a week to adjust because my son's teacher told me that it takes them a few weeks to settle in and get comfortable. My son would not even try the activities the other kids were doing. He would sit there and admire them like he wanted to engage but would say "I cant" to his teacher. She told me give it time... So I tell you the same...give it a week or 2, then peak in the classroom again and see. Then schedule some 1 on 1 time with his teacher and talk to her. Tell her your concerns and feelings. Do not hold back. Remember you peeked in the window for a few minutes, for all you know he was engaged after you stopped looking. That is what is hard about sending our kids off to school. You just don't know. How does your son seem in the morning before school? How does he seem after school? He may be shy because it's a new environment.
If after yoou spek to her you see she is still uncaring or doesnt seem interested then go talk to her boss....
Let's give the teacher the benefit of the doubt...she may have been exhausted with all the kids, she is probably having every parent ask the same thing about their own kids or maybe she really didn't think you were concerned. Next time you ask her follow it up with another question and dig for answers. Thats what I did with my son's teachers. Ia sked questions till I was satisfied. I am not saying she isnt uncaring, maybe she is, but the only way to determine this is to investigate further.
I know alot of my concerns are also alot of my own insecurities. I think I was more nervous than my son was to start school. When I look back at when my oldest started, I laugh. I even went as far as to call his school back then to check on him. Now I am just letting things flow with my 2nd.
Does your school have a back 2 school night? If so maybe that can give you the opportunity to voice your concerns.....whatever you do give your son at least a few days to adjust and then speak to the teacher.
Trust me..this is the easy part. Wait till they are 8 and give you attitude 24 hrs a day and do stupid things in school. I wish I could keep them in preschool forever! :)
Know that you aren't slone...we all experience similar issues with preschool. It does get easier but it never gets less stressful. Speak your mind and tell the teacher what you want.
Let us know how it goes.
Linda
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