I Need Potty Training Advice!

I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but she may just not be ready yet. The process of having a bowel movement is much more complicated with regards to muscle control than urinating. She may not have the proper control just yet. My son definitely took longer to understand his body well enough to have a bowel movement on the potty. I know you said pull-ups aren't an option, but it sounds to me like you might want to reconsider. The last thing you want is for her to feel stressed or embarassed about her accidents. I suspect it's still out of her control at this point. I'd also highly suggest picking up the book "Everybody Poops." It really helped my son take an interest in learning about this body to go on the toilet. Suddently "poop" became a fun topic and not something scary that he couldn't understand.

Best of luck to you as I know the process can be challenging. Each child really does have their own timeframe in which they are ready though, so just be patient.

I have potty trained my 2 girls now, and poop was a challenge with both of them. Most recently, my daughter (who was 27mo at the time) would panic when she would start to go, and then jump off the potty. She went a couple of times, but she was really worried and upset about it the whole time, although proud as could be afterwords. We would do everything we could think of to keep her sitting there, hoping the need to go would overcome her fear. She finally started running away when she had to go. I was worried that she would get traumatized, and was thinking about giving up, but my husband reminded me how close we were, and said to keep going. The next time she had to go and started crying and trying to run away, I asked her if she wanted to go 'silly poo poo'. She was intrigued enough to stop crying and running. I told her that it would be 'very silly poo poo' to put the potty seat in the yard somewhere and go outside. She laughed and wanted to try going silly poo poo. Sure enough, she picked a spot in the yard, and went without a big deal. That seemed to get her over the big hurdle, and really only had one poop accident after that.

We also had a box of 'poo poo prizes', which were some Backyardigans beanie babies and books, which is her favorite tv show. She got to choose one of these prizes each time she went poop in the potty. There were only 10 in the box, and once she earned them all, she no longer needed the rewards as an incentive to go. She is now almost 2 1/2, and she is doing amazing at using the potty, even wearing underwear for naps and nighttime.

It sounds like you're doing great, and that you just need to keep up the good work, and try to keep your patience! Good luck!

Same question different person!!! Funny.
26 months is still pretty early too so be patient, she may not be ready yet. Pooping is a big deal! This is my answer to the last post but I changed the he to she. Good Luck

There are a few answers to your question, but taking your time is important. When she does poop in her pants/diaper/pull-up you should go with her to the potty and put the poop in the potty with her standing there and flush it and make a big deal out of it. "bye, bye poop!!!" Are you using a potty chair that you can move to a different location? She may need more privacy for example. Do you know when she poops?? As in the time of day?? Does she hide to poop?? Is she active and playing when he poops?? I watched my kids for all of these cues to use them to help with potty training. Some kids will poop at nap time when they are more relaxed for example. So, my advice is to be patient, watch her habits and use them to help with potty training and try to help her feel comfortable with her poop going in the potty even from her pants. Good Luck!!!

patience. It takes just a little longer for them to learn to poo in the toilet, but they will...no power struggles it will only make things worse.

I have a 28 month old daughter who is now "officially" potty trained with both pee and poo. She did the same as your daughter. It took her awhile before she starting going poo in the toilet. I think it's just harder for them to "feel" the signs. I noticed though that she would touch her bum and then get a weird look, then poo in her panties. Or she'd go hide and do it. So watch for those kind of signs too. Then for us, it almost happened over night!

Good luck!

my daughter is 19 months and we have been potty training since 18 months. i have the same issue its really a hit and miss when she actually poops in her potty. i like you only like to keep her in underwear aside from when she sleeps. just be patient with it she may not fully reconize the sensation for pooping yet. i take my daughter to the potty every 30-45 mins and she sits till she pees. i see you have a problem getting her to sit there for a while maybe try reading her a story, letting her do a puzzle or let her watch a favorite tv show. give it time she will master this soon! good luck :)

Hi J., This is just my opinion, but I think you need to get rid of the oull ups, I know you said it is not an option for you, but, using pull usp and underwear can be very conffusing for a child, like its OK to poop and pee on myself at nap time and night time but not while im awake, don't take this the wrong way, but if you need pulls ups suring the night and nap time, she's not really potty trained, part of being potty trained is getting up at night when you have to go to the bathroom, because think about it sweetie, what is she learning? as long as she is in a pull up for nap and night time, there is no reason for her to get up and go. and there never will be as long as she is in a pull up. Most kids usually have a bowl movement around the same time each day, since your little one doesn't you have to look for signs that she has to poop, amd make her sit on the potty until she poops, and then reward her for going. Also J. if there is no discipline or coinsenquences for pooping on herself why not do it, I used and 51 an old school mom and with my 3 kids plus my daycare kids, I used reward and discipline, and it worked great, I want my daycare kids completely trainned by the tme they reach 2, and for my 3 I wanted then trained well bfore the age of 2, so work with her, use discipline with out anger when she poops or pee's on herself, and she will get it, Alot of time delayed potty training is more about the mythod than the child. Good Luck, hope I didn't offend you in my response, if I did it was not my intention. J. L.

Hi J.:
Your recieving some good responses here, so i'll keep it brief. Take your time,and don't make her feel rushed,to acomplish those goals you have set for her.Imagine, someone telling you when to go poop? Your toddler may sit there make all sorts of faces,appear as though shes really doing a number! lol They crack me up sometimes, because they will grunt, turn red in the face,fart...Then they get up,and nothin is in the toilet!! They really want to please you,but trying to time,when they really have to go is a chore.It can't help, to feel presured to poop! Relax a little,and don't make your daughter feel that this is urgent. What I did, to keep my boys on the toilet longer,was give them a book, to look at or read to them
while they sat. It actually would relax them,and they would go.Don't drive her nuts by asking every five minutes lol but periodicaly ...after she eats,ask her if she needs to go potty,and go in with her for a little while.I wish you and your darlin girl the best.