My husband and I have become very out of touch with our own age group. We desperately need to get out of the house (for the sake of our children too :) - but we're not sure what we should be doing with other couples or even people in a group that we like.
We can get a babysitter - but I just don't know what we should do regarding entertainment. We're real easy to get along with and enjoy the company of others - but we just feel really lost.
Has anyone else been through this before? And if so, what was your outcome?
Thank you!
I joined a local Portland buying group called Portand Green Parenting & it gave a better sense of community & we met lots of other families through it so far. We also get together & have pot lucks too...come try it out....
portlandgreenparenting.com & also knowthyfood.com
Yeppers...my hubby and I grew up and about 90% of our friends still think they're in college. Due to the lack of babysitters and funds, we weren't able to keep up with the rest of the group. Sooo, when things got a bit easier, the friends were gone. We found new friends with the church we've recently started attending and make a 'date night' every month with the group. We've gone bowling, a couple in the group has a pool and we've all met there for an evening, another couple DJs and set up a projector and screen in their back yard and we met up there. A couple of the girls have made shopping dates while the guys meet up to play pool or whatnot. Just basically things you used to enjoy, but forgot about.
check out www.meetup.com, it's free. Put in your zip code and type in search something like "married couples" or "dinner", "movies", etc. There are a lot of social groups and it shows the members and you can see if there is anything you may be interested in. Good luck!
You don't mention your age group (not that it matters)...but I'm not sure if you are saying you don't have any friends close by and are looking to make them and do stuff together, or that you have friends but do not know what to do as a group?
We get together rarely with just adults and usually it's for some celebration or party so we usually end up at someone's house (everyone brings a dish to share), a restaurant or bar.
If you are looking for things to do just you and your husband, what about the movies, bowling, museums in the local area (go on a Sat/Sun afternoon), go to a park and have a picnic, restaurant for coffee and dessert only, other local attractions that maybe it's been awhile since you've been to? Also what about going out with just girls/just guys so you can get a mani/pedi, get a facial, he can get a few beers and watch the game or golfing.
Hope this helps!
When I was single I use to have lots of friends, go out to dance, to my friends houses, etc.
After married we spend so much time together that next thing you know we have no friends. We both are friendly people, I talk to everybody at the park at the bookstore, my husband goes once in a while to his friend house, I talk every once in a while with my friends on MSN (all my friends still on Mexico).
But true to be told I don't mind, we are fun/sarcastic people and super silly and I don't think many people would share our sense of humor so we keep it to our selfs. We LOVE going to the movies and we could easy sit 4 hours watching movies and spend 2 days talking or making fun of it.
However, we have been thinking that we too should have friends because our younger daughter is totally not use to other grown ups.
I found more easy find to make friendship in places that me and my family enjoy and places that parents go, I found that not always but many times being friends with people that is not married or not have kids just don't work very well because they don't appreciate your 15min. talk about how funny is when your kid say pig instead of pink, lol.
My favorite places to meet other people are playgrounds and bookstores like Barnes & Nobles.
Just get to know them, are they the kind of people that don't have problem getting a babysitter and go to movies/dinner without kids? Or are they the kind that like to keep family together and rather all go to water park/BBQ with the kids?
Mamapedia is another great place to make friends, it has the advantage that you already know if you share the same parenthood, or believes. You can look for people that live near your area and start talking with them in here.
Have people over try to have people over that are in the same "boat" as you kids, around the same age..Plan a date night with the other couples go to the movies or dinner and putt-putt or something that makes you feel young again and just act plain silly.. cards, movies, golf, putt-putt,bowling have a guys night out and a girls night on a different day. I hope my two cents helps..
I think that you should start going to some mommy events (library classes, etc.) and as you make friends, start inviting them over with husbands and kids. This way, you can bond as families. You can do a simple BBQ and get to know people that way.
Just invite a couple or family over for pizza and games, or arrange to meet a group for dinner and a movie. Don't worry that you should be giving or attending fancy parties; just do low key, whatever's comfortable for you stuff. :)
