we are going through the same thing with our almost 3 year old. She will Not tell me she needs to go, but if i put her on the potty she will maybe only have one accident in a day. For the last two days i've told her she isn't allowed to watch tv unless she pees in the potty. Everytime she asks to watch tv i tell her she has to pee in the potty first. Usually a few minutes later she tells me she needs to go potty. After she pees i let her watch one 20 minute show. She has never asked to go potty before so i feel like it is a huge improvement.
I also printed of a reward chart from chuckecheeses website. If a child goes potty all day for 14 days chuckecheese will give them free tokens.
i felt like that was a little too long for her right now.
so i also bought a diego video and if she stays "clean and dry" all day long she gets to stay up past her bedtime and watch a diego video. So far that hasn't happened yet but she asks about it all the time. And i "think" she understands.
From what i understand the key to potty training is that the child has to want to. Now matter how much they understand and are capable they have to want to. while candy has been a temporary insentive so far tv has been the only thing that has really driven her.
nobody changes unless it has become to uncomfortable to stay the same . . . right!?
oh . . . the only way my sister potty trained one of her boys was the naked thing. i haven't tried it yet but it might work!