If Any One Can Give Some Advice?

I have to be honest, I felt a little like this with all three of my pregnancies...and I'm a birth doula! Once I hired my doula and had someone to work it out with and talk it through with, it started to get better. I think I just needed someone who could help me process and not judge me. I am in the Denver area and would be happy to talk more if you need to.

Hi C.,
I have suffered from anxiety with this pregnancy (#6) after never going through it with anyone of them before. It started after I almost passed out in town while shopping and when I was ill at home (alone) a few days later with the same thing.
I have had a hard time staying alone since then- my mom has helped me during the day, my older kids (13 and 10) after school, and my husband on weekends and nights. Sometimes I get anxiety for no reason at all, it just comes upon me and it sucks!!!!! I feel lost, upset, depressed, hopeless, ect.. A few things that help me are to try and think postively about something (this is hard) like looking at my child's face, giving them a hug, something I am looking forward too, change what I am doing ect. Do something active like laundry or maybe lay down and watch a good movie to distract myself and rest.
I have also been doing pre-natal yoga on a DVD that I ordered from Amazon (Yoga for your pregnancy) and that helps me to focus. Try to arrange a visit with a friend- have them come to you if that is easier. Share what you are going thru- if they really love you, they won't judge you. I have a lot of pride, but this really helped me to feel less alone and less crazy. Extra company and help are essential to me too. Being by myslef is not healthy for me right now. If none of this helps you please talk to your provider (you should let them know anyways) a counselor might be an option (it helps just to get it out with someone who-trust me-has always heard worse) or medication might be an option to get you through this time. I know sometimes I wonder if I am ever going to be "myself" again, but everyone around me reassures me I will be. I have decided to go without meds because of the great family support I have, but each person needs to make the best choice for their situation. I am due Jan 30 and have been going thru this since the end of Aug. I will pray for you and please know you are not alone!

C.,
My best advice -- try and figure out what all this anxiety is all about. Take some quiet time by yourself and pray or meditate on what is really going on. All this stress is not good for you or your baby.
With my whole heart, C.

Hi C.! I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks during my second pregnancy. It was horrible. I did on one or two occasions take Xananx. About half way through my pregnancy I found a pre-natal yoga class that really emphasized breathing and it helped tremendously. I even went on to have 2 more kids... Good luck!

I had really bad anxiety with my first baby. I think this is normal, with all the changes your body goes through, no wonder you feel out of control. I am actually pregnant with my third now and feel much the same way you described. Maybe you should talk to your doctor. That is what they are there for. Maybe he/she can give you some ways to help you calm down. Even talking to someone may help. Try to relax, even though that is easier said than done, and know you are not alone.

I'm pretty sure it's all the hormones of being pregnant. And if you are worried because you maybe weren't like this with your last pregnancy, it's because all pregnancies are different. With my first I was horribly hormonal, crying every day over everything, and my second I was snappy and irritable.
Good luck. I hope it passes soon for you!

A.

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I have never had a second child, but my first pregnancy was like this. I am sure it is the hormones of pregnancy. Our bodies will react differently each time ( I have friends that the first pregnancy was bad and the second a breeze and vise versa.) I just wanted to let you know you are not crazy and alone. I would suggest to try to see if things settle down in a few more weeks, if not call your OB and tell them. Dont feel bad if you need medication to help you through this. I wish I had been on something so I could of enjoyed my pregnancy. There are tons of moms who have healthy happy babies while on anxiety medication when pregnant. It is more important for you to be calm and happy during the pregnancy than being a purest. Good luck and congratulations. Remember you are doing great and be kind to yourself.

C., there is a book called "Tapping The Healer Within" This easy to read book will help you with your anxiety like no medication can. It tells you certain areas on your face and body to tap with two fingers and release a ton of emotion without feeling emotional. I got mine on Amazon.com.

Hey C.-
My kids are about 4 years apart and I was pretty anxious about going all the way back to having a little baby. It can be overwhelming when you sit and think about it. My baby will be one tomorrow and it has been a total blessing to have her. Having my 4 year old to help has been awesome. You have nothing to worry about. Take a deep breath and try to enjoy the miracle of pregnancy.

Hi C.! Bless your heart...I suffered immensely with anxiety that started just before my second pregnancy. It got worse when I got pregnant and I cried a lot and felt afraid of things that shouldn't have caused fear. I did end up finally talking to my midwife more than halfway through. She put me on a light dose of medication and I was a new woman! I went on to have even two more after that one! Medicine can be such a blessing. I don't think Xanax is safe during pregnancy and I'm positive it's lethal to your baby while breastfeeding - so don't go that route. Talk to your doctor. I take a very small dose of Celexa and it helps so much. I like that "healing with tapping" idea in one of the other posts. I might have to look into that! Just know you are not alone. Seek out those who have gone through this. You'll make it out on top! Good luck to you!

I was very happy to be pregnant with both my kids, but I have anxiety issues, and I was a complete basket case for the entire pregnancy both times. I worried constantly about the baby--I was on the phone with the doctor or in his office all the time. My husband was nuts dealing with me. I think those hormones really increase any anxiety you already have. Try talking to your doctor or therapist and see if that helps. Good luck--hope you feel better! COngrats on the baby!!