K.P.
I have to say that I agree partially with some of the responses I've read, but completely disagree with those who think you should leave your husband if you are unhappy. Here's the thing, you picked the man, made vows with him, and most importantly made a baby with him. I also don't know the complete story, but I think leaving should only be an option is he is an alcoholic, or abusing you or your child. He was probably behaving the same way when you were dating, but you may have overlooked it because you love him. If he really wasn't, then he's got some emotional stuff going on inside of him, and men are not creatures who are really willing to talk about feelings. That's what girls do. You have to first and foremost think of your son. How would leaving his daddy impact him? Are you willing to have absolutely no control over who your son is exposed to for the next 18 years if you divorce? Because most likely if you leave your husband, he will eventually find another wife and probably have babies with her. Your son will then become a visitor at daddy's house. You will have absolutely no power over anything that goes on at his dad's house. You will only have control at your house. you will only see your son half the time, assuming dad will make sure he sees your son on a regular basis. I just have to ask, is all of that worth leaving? If your son could talk, I guarantee he would say, "no." Now, this doesn't mean you shouldn't go get some professional help. I think you need some counseling for yourself as well as marriage counseling. I know that sounds scary, but think of the alternative. Also, being a SAHM is very draining, so I totally understand the emotional stuff on your part. But at the end of the day are you a woman your husband wants to come home to? Have you tried greeting him at the door with hugs and kisses from you and your baby when he comes home, or does he hear how hard your day was right off the bat? Before you write off your marriage, you really need to give it a try. A few good books to read are "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", "Woman Power", and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." All written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Another tip I would suggest is stop talking to other people such as friends and family about your husband. I know you just want someone to listen to you, but bashing the man you love will only make things worse. Your friends and family will more than likely not be neutral and will start thinking negatively about him. So, if you do get this worked out, the people you have told will still think negatively about your man and will probably convey that to you from time to time, and that's not healthy either. Marriage is not all great all the time, but your little boy needs a mommy and a daddy in his home to feel secure and stable. I hope you think long and hard, and actually work on your marriage before you tear your little boy's world apart. Good Luck.