My daughter is about to turn 4. She has a birthday party in a few weeks. We're having a party at Peter Piper Pizza with family and friends. We invited the 5 girls in her class to come. But she keeps asking me if her teacher can come to her party. She has been in her class since March. She was her preschool teacher and now that my daughter just moved to pre-kindergarten this week, the teachers also moved and she will be her teacher for the next year as well in pre-kindergarten. Her teacher is young, probably in her early 20's and also babysits out side of work. She actually babysat for us a few Saturdays ago for several hours. I have no problem inviting her, but should I? In all reality she probably won't want to come, but should I invite her anyway just in case?
I wouldn't. She would probably feel obligated to go, and she already spends her weekdays with kiddos. Give her a break.
ETA: Imagine if ALL the kids invited their teachers, the poor teachers would be booked every weekend!
No. It's likely that she doesn't want to come, and if you invite her she might feel like she HAS to.
As a former preschool teacher, no, please don't invite her.
Not to be a negative nelly, but if she goes to one and can't attend other parties, the kids *will* take it personally. Just let your daughter know that your birthday party is for her kid friends.
I agree that you should probably not invite her. If a teacher were to go to the birthday party of one child she'd be expected then to go to all of them and that would just snowball. Keep your relationship professional.
M
No. and tell your daughter that the teacher will be at her 'school' party and send some cupcakes or donuts to school on her actual bday. Good luck.
Not sure what to say to this. My son's kinder teacher was at 2 kiddo's parties we attended. She wasn't able to come to my son's, but she RSVP'd that she couldn't. It may depend on the teacher. And not every kid may want to invite the teacher, so it woudn't be every weekend.
If you do invite her, give her an "easy out" maybe? Like "I understand if you're spending time with family, just wanted to invite you on behalf of my kiddo
No because it opens pandora s box. She would spend every weekend going to parties. Have mercy on the poor girl lol.
When I was a preschool teacher I went to my kids parties.
No, don't invite the preschool teacher. She spends most of her time with little kids and probably uses her time off to recharge. I worked in a preschool for 3 years and the last thing I'd want to do on my weekend is see a bunch of rowdy kids.
Of course you can, but let her know you understand if she cannot make it.. and in no way does she need to be bring a gift.
We used to invite our daughters teachers to all sorts of things. They attended some times and other times could not make it.
We even invited many of her teachers and Principals from all of her years in school to her High school graduation party and many attended! (we invited their family's also. Sometimes their children came along!
No. Teachers don't go to kids' parties. I feel it's wrong to invite her because (a) it obligates her to buy a gift and (b) she may feel badly declining and disappointing a child but teaching is her JOB and the weekend is HER time to spend with her family/boyfriend/hobbies/whatever. Imagine if all preschool teachers got invited by the 10-15 kids in their class to their birthday parties? I remember when my kids (now teens) were tiny. Little kids think their teacher lives at school! Now is the time to explain to your daughter that her teacher has a life outside of school, that she loves kids and her job, but it's her job and when it is not work time, teacher is out doing things with her own family and friends.
I think it depends on your family's relationship with the teacher. We have invited several of our daughter's teachers to birthday parties. In fact, her 7th birthday party is next weekend and her preschool teacher is coming. My daughter is now in second grade :)
One of her former teacher's lives in our neighborhood. We often have her over for dinner and just to socialize. Her teachers spend the better part of her days with her. They too have a certain bond with her which I am eternally grateful for. They are helping to shape her into the person she will become. We have developed really good relationships with her teachers and see no need to keep them separate.
Her teachers come when they can and no big deal if they can't. I say go for it :)
Peace and Blessings,
T. B
We have invited our pediatrician, our priest, and the mailman. All declined, but all were touched at the invitation.
Good luck to you and yours,
F. B.
No, you shouldn't. I agree with the others who said it's bad if she comes to some kids' parties, but not all. In fact, I can remember my daughter's preschool teacher saying that she couldn't go to anyone's birthday party because she knew she wouldn't be able to everyone's. It's only fair.
I keep teachers separate from the kids...I wouldn't invite the teacher...she probably need the break on weekends. Explain to your dd that it's just for the kids from school.
I would say no. As a teacher it is best to keep school and home separate. I think it will just put her in an uncomfortable position.
