L.C.
Hi Kae!
First off...don't let what other people are doing sway what you know in your 'Mama instinct' is right for your child. I am a daycare provider and teach preschool in my program. I think the most important thing for kids at any age is to socialize and learn about their world through play. I have had to explain to parents inquiring about my program that I do not sit down and 'grill' my kids on their ABC's and 123's. All this will come naturally. If you are worried that your child will not be ready for school because they are not reading at 3- all studies point that most kids' skills even out after the first year of school. The most important thing you can do for your child NOW is read to them. Let them hold the book, point out pictures and words...but most of all develop a love of reading. I am a big advocate for early literacy. Get books into the hands of kids. And then there will be that one day when you will be surprised when they read to you. It sounds like you are doing everything right..from having a playmate and being creative. Like I said in the beginning...you know what is right for your child, don't get wrapped up in what other people are doing just to keep up, because in all actuality-you are already ahead of the game.
Good luck! Keep playing and keep reading!