Before having sex? I can not help it! I must always shower! Even on days like today when my husband wants a quicky I will push him off and jump in the shower before getting intimate. I have always been like that. Please ladies (and gents), and I the only one???
Laura
I had to laugh when I saw that so many of you shower after! I NEVER do! I guess I don't feel dirty afterwards. lol I think it's just that I shower in the early morning, I am running around after the kids and soccer and baby and nursing, so when it comes to being intimate in the evening I just feel dirty again. I talked to my husband about it and he said it bothers him a bit but that he wants me to enjoy it instead of focusing on if I am funky...so he'll wait the 5 minutes it takes for me to wash off the day. :)
That would be pretty inconvenient and definitely messes up spontaneity, nope, I dont always shower first, my husband would hate that.
nope. i used to feel self conscious about it but then i realized, he REALLY doesn't mind. as in, he couldn't care less. really. so no.
Nope I shower after...just kinda nasty not to...why shower before you get it on? Do you then shower again after?
LOL... my husband is the one who insists on showering first. I don't get that funky during the day (I'm at home!)... and I like when he smells like a man! Please note that smelling like a man and smelling like a greasy barn are 2 different things ;) Unless you're filthy, you SHOULDN'T rinse off before sex; your sweat releases your own personal pheromones, which is part of your husbands natural attraction to you anyway. It's very nerdy, scientific, and medical... and 100% true ;)
Never before, but mostly always after, unless we both blissfully pass out in a puddle of ourselves and throw everything, including ourselves, in the wash the next day. However, I don't like A.M. sex before tooth brushing because morning breath is not cute. If he insists, I make sure we're not face to face. Blech! No kissing right after waking up! Point that toxic fog horn somewhere else!
No. and neither does he.
Picture us cuddling on the couch. I have my head on his shoulder listening to his heartbeat taking deep breaths of his man scent - man mixed with deoderant, and a faint hint of cologne.. He's nuzzling my head and smelling my hair. I can feel his breathing change and I just know when it starts to get him hot and he can feel the passion coming off me in waves. We start kissing, he's hard, I'm wet and the passion builds and then.........oh hold that thought, I gotta jump in the shower. Now I've washed all the pheremones off and instead of being warm and soft and welcoming, now, I'm wet in all the wrong places and cold and shivering. NOT SEXY! I can't see it. It's like you're listening to a sexy song and the record skips. I'm all for the date shower ahead of time when you are planning to have sex, but when romance is building, I can't see jumping up and breaking the mood.
Oh my goodness....no!! How can you act in the moment if you run to the shower first? :) I think you've got some OCD issues going on! If I were to shower any time around sex it'd have to be after, but unless it's a morning quickie I don't even do that.
I would think you're showering mainly for your husband, to be nice and clean and fresh for him...but if he doesn't care, which it sounds like he'd prefer you not, then try a few times not hopping in the shower first. You may find its not as bad as you think!
I wonder though, how many posts you'll get from moms that are just like you. I'll be checking back to see!! :)
no I do not do that. Sometimes when we get the chance with having 2 kids, we just have to do it. Sometimes he will take a shower if he has been at work all day and is stinky before we do it, but I dont usually. I take a shower every morning anyway
Nope, I shower after...
Maybe take a bath or shower a few hours before hand if I know what the plans are (to prep if necessary ;). I would never stop in the moment to take a shower just to go there. Afterwards yes. We usually do a quick rinse together after.
You have a form of OCD here. Learn to laugh at yourself for being that way and ignore your impulse to shower. Stay in bed when he wants the quickie. You are good as you are. You could shower every night before bedtime.
I have OCD and it has taken me years to ignore the compulsions and just keep moving forward.
Only if he is with me!
My husband is the one who insists on the shower more than I do. I appreciate it and hate it at the same time. If I am trying to be spontaneous and go for it right then and there and he says, 'I need to take a shower' I check out. I have actually said, don't worry about it then. I know that sounds hateful but the excitement of no planning, no production just gettin it on is exciting for me and when someone throws a wrench in it, I am out.
If we are planning a night of it, then yes, a shower is a good thing. :o)
I usually do. There are rare time when I don't but I typically jump in the shower and get ready for bed and then the magic happens. : ) I am getting better as I get older. I know my husband doesn't care if I am not freshly showered and have shaved and there have been times when my "need" for a shower has delayed things. It's all in my head but it helps me to relax and enjoy my time and not to think about if he is touching my leg that he is going to feel prickly stubble.
I am with you, I have to be clean as well!! I don't think it is OCD I am just much more relaxed when I know I am clean!! I am sure my husband wouldn't mind but it is just my thing too!! And I have to brush my teeth lol!!
no you are not... when i do that my hubby laughs at me....lol...it' just one of those things that if don't, i feel slightly "unfresh for the job" haha....JUST LAUGH ABOUT IT....and keep up the good work !!!!!haha
Its nice if it works out that way but if it doesnt oh well. What about looking at it this way, on those times that you just cant fit a shower in try to make sure that your 'workout' is a very hot and heavy one so that you can look forward to a shower afterwards? Maybe even together to wash all the SEX off LOL
I don't, but she usually does...I think it's just personal peference. I don't think she needs to, to me, she is always desirable.
Absolutely - I shower before sex. So does my husband. Neither one of us wants to be sweaty and/or smelly for the other person. Neither of us showers after sex. BTW - haven't read your answers but showering before sex and peeing afterwards helps women to avoid urinary infections. You don't want any e-coli germs that might be hanging around to end up in the wrong place.
No way, talk about breaking spontaneity. Sounds a bit OCD to me. :) I just make sure to pee after in order to prevent a UTI.
Not always , i prefer it........but i am always clean before.
Well, since you asked, no, never. But if your husband's okay with it, don't worry about it. Whatever works for you.
Nope, I don't shower before... Mostly after~
