OK ladies (and gents) I need some feedback here. What is your definition of a quickie?
To me, it's 10-15 minutes start to finish at most. A little kissing and touching to get in the mood, some hand and mouth action to get things really going, a few minutes of intercourse, and done. Thanks for the ride, game over, on to whatever is next in our day.
My husband and I (yes he moved back in for anyone following prior drama) both agree that we need to have sex more often than just the weekends and that the way to actually do that is weeknight (or weekday morning) quickies. With both of us working FT and a houseful of kids, anything more than that during the week isn't realistic. However, his idea of a quickie takes FOREVER. Like a half hour or more LOL. I know it's not because he "needs" that time, he can get the job done quickly if he wants to. A full night in his head is an hour or more so to him, 20-30 minutes is quick. In talking to friends over the years, 20 minutes is a full night and quickie is half that.
So...what does your time frame look like?
For us, a quickie is a quickie when we don't have any time, but we want to make time (before work, lunch breaks, while dinner's cooking). Takes about 10-15 min tops. We usually just get right down to business. LOL.
My favorite is a quickie!!! Both my husband and I work FT, have kids, have projects at home [even on weekends] and we rarely do more than a quickie. And yes, my definition is anything that is under 15min.
Our quickie is far less than yours. LOL No kissing, Only undressed from the waist down, no foreplay, usually on the edge of the bed for less than 10 minutes.
I don't know about time frame, but a quickie, to us is any 'stolen' time when the mood strikes us suddenly, you lock yourselves somewhere, rip each other's clothes off, and get it done, LOL!!
Short enough that I don't think, "Is it over yet?"
Our quickies that we call "sneak-a-poke", are mostly for his pleasure and can take just a few minutes. I'm not a walking bag of horny hormones and don't feel the need to be relieved like that.
A quickie to me doesn't involve foreplay pretty much at all. It shouldn't last more than 10-15 minutes, tops. My husband is like yours where a full session is at least an hour, usually closer to 2. (This is one of the reasons why I've always wondered about the women who tell others to just have sex with their husband whether they want to or not because it only takes 15 minutes. I find the advice in & of itself vile, but the whole 15 minutes for sex thing has always confused me.)
We are all about the quickie...15 min or less, exactly as you described. Long love making sessions are saved for vacations, and even then, its an hour or less. =)
Wow, our quickies last 7-10 minutes. Of course we find sneaky ways to turn each other on before we even get to the bedroom...so when we actually get to the bedroom it's wham, bam, thank you ma'am!
Full time - 1/2 hour up to an hour or so?
Quickie - Anything from stepping into the bathroom for a 'drop your pants, bump uglies, wipe, and return to normal duties' to a little flirting or foreplay that gets us both going, but we don't really have the time or privacy to make it a full session, so up to maybe 15 minutes... ??
Anything longer than 15 minutes would generally not qualify as a quickie in my book...
But in thinking about it a little bit more, I guess it's not so much the time, as it is the situation and intention that defines a quickie... there are times when we both want and enjoy a longer session... take our time, do more things, etc... Then there are times when we both want some (lol) but just don't have the time, or perhaps energy, for a full session... that would likely result in a quickie... just a little foreplay, just enough to get going, and then do the deed...
In any situation, though, I would not consider 20-30 minutes a quickie... that is really our more 'normal' session... like a 1/2 hour or so...
Quickie: My definition- Ditto Riley J. below in her 2nd sentence.
Now, per quickies... it really is up to you. The woman. I mean, YOU can... control how long it goes on or not. Too.
Get him going full on from the beginning... or building it up slowly. Which can take forever.
Get him going quick in the beginning... and doing what he likes most, employing various methods, gets a guy real aroused real fast.
Then, once you have your 'moment'... which you can also control, then, well you have a quickie.
But if your man is capable of almost hitting the peak, but then can stop himself from full throttle, and can control his release, then it takes longer.
It seems, your man is not wanting a quickie.
Because his quickie is still taking, forever. As you said.
"You" can, make it quicker and the pacing.
a quickie is like 5-10 min :) LOL full night is like an hour, hopefully more.
5 min, my husband is the definition of "quickie"...lol!!
I don't know - we can get pretty into in and way involved (multiple positions, etc) and I'll check the clock and its been 25 minutes start to finish - lol. A quickie is just that - a few minutes to get into the groove - go for it - and over - probably 10 minutes tops.
hehe it's funny how everyone has a different idea.... :-)
We NEVER have time for a full length session! We have a 4yo and an almost 18 month old, so it's a quickie or not at all. ALWAYS happens once kids are in bed (OUR bed bc we co sleep), and we sneak off to DD's room ("guest room") for 10-15 minutes and get the job done right away. Cuddling lasts from the time the deed is done, to the time 18 mo cries bc she has rolled over & realized Mommy is not beside her! ;)
we can be hours when its not but i agree with rachel in her definition. I think a quickly ussually is passionate and quick by definition. Well I guess it can lack the passion too and J. be to help one person out. When i think of a typical quickie it ussually goes like someone does something to turn the other on, or u text and say hey meet M. for lunch i want some...then theres kissing and clothes coming off within seconds and then right to the deed..if its a half hour its not a quickie
Well, I'm blessed to have one with the same stamina as your husband (who has also moved out and back in and then out again)..and about an hour is normal. Usually it takes him 3 orgasms to be fulfilled..that can sometimes run from the night into the next morning, but usually gets done. I guess I have gotten used to it...but I hear that it is not real common:)) We are good at small encounters during the day..without total fulfillment... that seems to keeps the fire burning all the time really...and since we have had foreplay throughout most of the day.. when the night time comes...so do we:))
