Looking for Advice on Getting Pregnant...

Updated on February 16, 2008
S.C. asks from Bartlesville, OK
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Now, I realize that five months is not an excessive amount of trying time but for anyone that has tried month after month to get pregnant and not, it's extremely frustrating and disappointing. My first daughter was conceived so easily, I never imagined that it wouldn't be the same this time....

I've tried ovulation predictor tests, and charting basal body temp and cerv. mucus. I've tried not thinking about it. We've done the basic suggestions. He wears boxers, avoids hot tubs.....etc...etc...

We are coming up on this month's ovulation window, and I'm looking for suggestions...Anyone have any? I'm just anxious and ready to finally see the pink positive line....Help!

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J.T.

answers from Enid on

We tried for 9 months only to find out my hubbies allergy med's were making the little swimmers get severely gummed up in the works. Within two cycles of him going off Allegra we got pregnant. So look at everything again and see if there might be something seemingly innocent preventing conception.

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A.A.

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just stop trying and it will happen! we wanted to have another baby i have twins and wanted to know what it was like to only be pregnant with one baby however i am very impaitient so after three months the twins were driving me crazy and i decided i didnt think i could handle another baby at that point in time so we quit "trying" the next month i was 4 days late took a test and it was very positive very fast and now we have another little boy and my tubes are tied after 3 boys i quit!if this doesnt help i have heard an add on the radio recently about a vacation spot designed just to help you relax and get pregnant apparently its been very successful so visit the local radio station websites and see what you can find out!good luck and i wish you all the best!

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A.P.

answers from Tulsa on

Hi S.,

I went through something similiar. My daughter was conceived the first month we tried. I just assumed it would be the same when we tried for our second. 6 frustrating months later I was still not pregnant. So like you, I bought ovulation kits (even though I already knew when I ovulated). I also spent tons of money buying pregnancy tests before I was even expecting a missed period. You could say I was a little obsessive about it, but I really wanted to be pregnant. My daughter was 3 and I wanted them to be somewhat close in age. Anyway, I mentioned to my doctor that we had been actively trying for 6 months, but no pregnancy. He told me he'd start some basic tests like hormones and such to see if anything was "off". He told me 6 months was long enough since I had already been pregnant and had a child so he said he'd start with some "minor" interventions. Then since the pressure was off for a month or so while I let my doctor figure it out, I got pregnant! I was literally going in the next day to start a series of shots and I had a left over test tucked back in the drawer. I decided to take it "just in case". The line was the faintest pink, but it was there! I wish I could give you perfect advice. I hated it when people told me I was young and healthy and it would happen when it was supposed to. Or that I should be grateful for the one I already had. I am the most grateful mother in the world. I love my daughter more than anything...I loved her so much I wanted to give her the sibling she was begging for. I loved being a mom so much to her I wanted to do it again. I would definitely ask your doctor. Let him/her know you've been actively trying and see what they have to say about it. Some make you wait a year, others will intervene after 6 months or so. Good luck!

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A.M.

answers from Lawton on

I recommend www.infertilityworkshop.com to everyone wanting to conceive.

Have fun! :)

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A.B.

answers from Wichita on

I know that this may not sound helpful, but I agree with everyone else. Take the pressure off for a little bit. My best friend tried to get pregnant for two years, and they were getting ready to go to a fertility specialist. Once they decided that it might not happen for them, and just started being intimate for the sake of being intimate, she got pregnant. No fertility specialists. It just wasn't the right time in their lives before, and now things are working out great for them. I can only imagine how frustrating this has to be for you, but maybe if you both agree to take a couple of months without trying so hard to have a baby, and just have lots of intimacy with the two of you just to be closer, maybe that would help. Increase your odds :) rock his world the next couple of months without the added stress of we have to get pregnant right now. Hope it helps

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M.R.

answers from Wichita on

Hi, I totally understand. My husband and I are trying too. I found a really good website that has really informed me about the whole fertility thing. It is FertilityFriend.com. If it's any condolence at all my husband and i have a boy who is 4 and we too are ready for another one. However we had to have our son through IVF. We so much were hoping that now that we had had one that the next time we would be able to conceive naturally on our own. So we'll see, but anyway I know other things that affect fertility is smoking and alcohol. Also I know that taking prenatal vitamins does aid in getting your body ready to conceive. Hope some of this helps! Good luck!

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J.F.

answers from Oklahoma City on

My advice is to take a vacation and do not think about it. We tried for 9 months to get pregnant with our first and had no luck. We went to Vegas for a few days and came back pregnant. I think there is a lot to taking the pressure off of yourself and totally relaxing that just helps it happen.

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E.L.

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I had tried for 3 years to get pregnant. I finally had to go to the doctor and he put me on Femara. I took it one month and used the clear blue easy fertility monitor and got pregnant.

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M.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I have to agree with the others - when you take the pressure off yourself and your hubby, that's probably when it will happen. We had been trying for over 10 months for #4, but with no luck. I finally decided not to worry about it anymore. I decided to focus on something else. we joined the Y and I started losing weight. This month, my period didn't come, and it kind of threw me. then i took a test and realized i was pregnant. it happened when i stopped thinking about it.

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R.U.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Sounds like you are doing everything right! I used Fertility Friend free online charting software and e-book. Also OPKs and dollar tree epts. It went on for 18mo and I finally went to the dr who said "keep trying another 6 months"!! So of course I stormed out and swore I never wanted to get pregnant anyways. Long story short, nine months later I had another beautiful baby boy! Best of luck...

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E.O.

answers from Topeka on

with my son, i had problems getting pregnant even with taking clomid. after six months of trying, we bought a clear plan fertility monitor and got pregnant the first month using it. if you're willing to spend a little money, it's well worth it. i actually bought mine on ebay for about $100. i think it's $150 otherwise. i do know they've come down in price a bit than where they were 4 years ago. with my third child, i got pregnant w/o trying. we were done and i got rid of all of my maternity clothes. found out i was pregnant two months later. so get rid of the maternity clothes you've been saving! murphy's law is a powerful thing *L*. Good Luck!

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