I have a friend with two kids. A 7 yr old boy and a 5 yr old girl. She is currently going through a divorce. Her son seems to be obsessed with body parts at present. He touches my friends boobs and butt quite a bit. He has also touched his sister's butt a few times. Well, the other day, my friend was told by her little girl that her brother and a couple of his friends had taken pics of her butt. They denied it but my friend looked at the camera and sure enough there were pics of her daughter's butt and the boys with their pants down. She was very disturbed and didn't know what to do. She, of course, punished her son and told the other boys' moms. I didn't have much advice bc I have only one younger daughter. I know kids experiment and some of this is normal but when do you become concerned? My friend doesn't want to make her son feel like a weirdo especially since her and her husband are going through a divorce. Any advice or similar situation for someone else?? Thanks so much!
It sounds like someone has touched that boy in the wrong way. Sexual acting out usually occurs if children are getting touched. She should be seeking help for him not punishing w/out knowing why. And she should not be letting him touch her in that fashion
Hi Leah, Read your response,and kinda know where you are with that. My sister is going through the same thing only her boys are older.Regardless of age Number One Is prayer, Asking God to set him free from that unclean spirit. That will open the door for a whole lot of perverness to flare up if this if not in checked. Also tell them What God say about it.And let them know how much God loves them and you love them. Hope this will help, and God Bless!
Leah, I have to agree with the others that this young man needs counseling. Either he has been "touched" or seen the act so many times that he feels it is normal. With her daughter being only 5 it would be a warning sign to me that this boy does not need to be left alone with his sister. It doesn't mean that he would want to hurt her, but if he feels these actions are ok, you never know. My children "shine" each other sometimes, but they have never taken pictures or had both male and female parts exposed at once....I do have a 5 yr old boy who laughs when the girls scream at him running through the house after a bath, but he has even gotten to the point of covering his weed-a-wacker so they can't see....This is an age that kids need to be taught what is ok and what isn't. I have to say red flags are flying at your friend's son's actions....something is wrong and needs to be fixed quickly! I wish her the very best it can't be easy to be faced with this while going through a divorce, but her children are more important.
to some point this is normal but when you bring a little girl into the picture its very concerning. she needs to get him in therapy. i have my degree in early childhood and most kids go through body exploration around 2-5 this needs to stop hes 7 and should know better.
This is not normal behavior fot a 7-year old boy. Ir sounds more like the behavior of the emotionally-disturbed children I worked with in college.
That mother needs to find out what's going on. Someone is doing something inapppropriate with that boy. It could be a neighbor or an uncle. She needs to find out what's going on and rescue her son.
This sounds to me like an acting out from having been sexually abused. Your friend should take her son to a therapist pronto.
Kids experiment with this at a much younger age when it is innocent. Usually around 4 or 5. At 7 I think he has begun to know that this is not just playing around and innocent. not that he knows sexual things but I am sure he knows it is not appropriate. I would tell your friend that she is to sit her son down and let him know, very sternly, that this is NOT appropriate. I would also tell her daughter that her brother is NEVER to look at, touch, or take pics of her private parts. I would tell her son that until he can behave like a respectable little boy he will not be allowed to play with these other little boys again. All kids are different but I know if I told my 6yr old son in a very stern voice that this is not appropriate behavior and he is never, ever to do that again, he would not do it. If it does continue, she has a bigger problem on her hands and may want to seek counseling for both of her children as the divorce is very hard on them. Also, I wonder if he has seen or heard something on this issue. She should monitor his tv and friends more.
NOW. maybe the boy is going through a really hard time right now . maybe she sould ask questions about who eles he knows that does this kind of thing and go from there. he may need a little counseling through the divorce to get out any feelings he is having and keeping inside. blessings, R.
I dont think punishment was the ticket. Sit down and explain that certain things happen at certain ages, and other things are very private and should not be experienced at such a young age. They are seeing that somewhere though, or would not act out. The divorce is a horrible thing, and you cannot judge what they think or feel... just listen. God bless and good luck!
She needs to sit down and explain to him why this behavior is inappropiate. He is at an age that kids will push the limits. He could just be doing it for attention with the divorce going on. Kids sometimes think if they act up the parents will stay together. If it continues then she needs to get him to talk to a professional therapist. Sometimes when kids are being sexually abused they will do act out things that have happened. I will keep them in my prayers!
I don't think there is anything for you to do here. If it were your kids I could help but your friend will handle it in her own way. It's best for you to just "let-it-go" and move on. It's good your friend doesn't want to make her son feel weird.
The behavior started out normal and then turned into bullying of the little sister. If anything, the bullying behavior needs to be addressed much more seriously than the sexual nature of the encounter.
If I were her I would be very clear with my son about what touching is inappropriate and follow through with discipline if the touching continues.
Has the mom spoke with both children opening about private parts and no touch areas? She should immediately and I would even say tell them at the same time so they both know the rules of no touch. I would say that nudity is natural, but taking pictures and having other kids involved is taking it a little too far. If this behavior has surfaced with the divorce, the boy may be acting out and family counseling now may ward off more serious counseling later.
The behavior of her son is NOT normal or a general stage of experimenting. He is either being abused or has been subjected to things not appropriate for children. Your friend needs to figure out who around him is doing this. He is obsessed with body parts because he is being touched in a sexual manner or seeing it be done to others. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT allow your daughter to be around him unsupervised. He needs help and his mother needs to find it for him.
This is being said from experience.
