Meet Ups and New Friendships

I have various circles of friends, close in different ways. We're close because I don't have them all together at one time. I like to really get to know people and tough to do that in a large group. True friends understand and allow space.

I'm not sure I see the problem. It is perfectly common and normal to host parties for different groups of people. Hubby and I throw a few parties a year and we don't invite all of our friends, rather, we have certain families that we group together based on connections.

I''ve thrown lots of meet-up parties over the years, and I've never, ever, invited my "friends." It's a meet-up event, I keep it as such. If your church or preschool friends ask, you just say," I recently joined a meet-up group and it's mine turn to host."

i've never understand the pov that all friends MUST be included in all invitations. i have no problems inviting religiosos to some things at my home, homeschool friends to others, and proximity friends to others yet. sometimes we invite the whole kitnkaboodle, sometimes just a few. i had one family member get shirty with me for not inviting her to another family event, and i explained to her courteously but firmly that every invitation to our home is not a blanket invitation.
just have a polite but no-room-for-argument reply ready on the off chance that someone is rude enough to confront you (it rarely happens.) 'yes, we did have a get-together for some new bird-watching friends we met recently. it was fun to swap ideas! so when can you and i plan a coffee date?'
don't allow anyone to bully you.
khairete
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I do not think so if asked just say it was for this meet up thing you are doing. If its brought up you didn't invite them because you didn't know anything about these people who were comming over and you did not want to put them in an uncomfortable situation.

I don't tend to mix my social circles, and would not invite my church friends and my work friends to the same event. I am usually pretty open about these things. I will tell my work friends "I am hosting a party for my church friends this weekend." If a friend tells me about an event they are holding for their work friends, and I don't expect to be invited.

I understand your issue. I do not like to introduce friendship circles as it limits my own social outtings when the whole group will not host ONE holiday party--versus my being able to go to several parties if the groups are seperate.

I would not repsond to email, FB or calls from the circle for a week prior to the event because if a church buddy asks so what are you all doing tomorrow night and you say, 'nothing'--you will lose that friend when you don't mention the party.

Good luck

no-that would be beside the point. Plus it would just be awkward. I hate to be the 'middle friend'.

I'm a "the more the merrier" kind of person, so I'd probably invite everyone.

But I also don't think it's fair that if you have a get together you should feel obligated to invite everyone. I have several groups of friends, and while they've often met at home for big events, we also do smaller get togethers. I'd certainly hope no one felt slighted or left out.

We have one group of friends that we camp with every June (from church). And another group we camp with every November (from high school). And another group we camp with every December. I don't think anyone of these people feel slighted when we're with the other. That's just immature behavior.

I think you should do what you WANT to do and quite worrying.

Have fun!