http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/04/debbie-piscitell...
This is scary stuff! What would you do if your daughter was being cyber-molested and no one would do anything? She says she went to the school and they told her they couldn't do anything.
I think this mom should have talked to the kid's parents first, and the police, but this is a new sort of crime and I know it is not illegal in a lot of states. I have seen several news reports about cyber-bullying where the police tell the mother this is a school issue and the school tells the mother to suck it up.
I am going to change up my original post a little. Let's pretend, for the sake of argument, that the parents wouldn't have done anything had she gone to them first. What would you do?
Okay, people need to calm down, and look up a word before they get hyper-sensitive. The word 'molest,' like the word 'abuse,' has several meanings, and can apply either to mental or physical trauma. I thought by putting the word 'cyber' in front of it that I had made the clear which I was referring to. I apologize if my word-choice was not to your liking, but sheesh.
mo·lest [muh-lest] (dictionary.com)
verb (used with object)
1. to bother, interfere with, or annoy.
2. to make indecent sexual advances to.
3. to assault sexually.
mo·lest (m-lst) (thefreedictionary.com)
tr.v. mo·lest·ed, mo·lest·ing, mo·lests
1. To disturb, interfere with, or annoy.
2. To subject to unwanted or improper sexual activity.
Definition of MOLEST according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary
transitive verb
1: to annoy, disturb, or persecute especially with hostile intent or injurious effect
2: to make annoying sexual advances to; especially : to force physical and usually sexual contact on
Personally, I'd turn the computer off.
And if I had anger control issues serious enough that I was at risk of assualting people, even if they "sassed" me, I'd be seeking help for myself.
Bullying of any variety is horrible, of that there's no doubt. Molestation is a whole other animal, though. If my child were being bullied I would contact the police, the school, the parents & give my child all of the tools I could come up with the help defend themselves including counseling, self-defense classes, etc. If my child were being physically molested, I can honestly say as the wife of a police officer, there is nothing that would stop me from personally & physically putting an end to the situation. Nothing.
I didn't go to the link, but if she didn't talk to the police, attorney, parents, etc., then she screwed up. And she committed a crime as well. How does that help anything?
I can totally understand why this happened! As a Mom you want to do everything to protect your child. However, violence is never the answer unless it's self defense. The bully's Mom said it was never addressed with them. As traumatic as bullying is her mother should have gotten an attorney and pursued legal action.
Why are you calling him a bully?
Would I choke someone who was bullying, no. Molesting, possibly.
I would confront the child bully's parents first, and then if that did not work, I would contact the school principal. No one has the right to be choking another person, no less an adult on a child. The woman who did the choking has some serious issues. A school principal wields a lot of power. As a former teacher and as a parent, I feel as though going through the principal would be the most effective way to solve the problem.
K.
Licensed Teacher
Mother of two grown children
i think we're going to see more of these cases as the laws scramble to keep up with the new and exciting ways people are using technology to be foul and hurtful to each other.
:( khairete
S.
